Why Life Isn't Fair.

[A-Unit]

Life isn't fair, and that's what makes it fair.

Not everyone is born with the same advantages, the same skills, or the same abilities. We know that, it's self-evident. Sometimes that fact alone discourages many. They'll crucify themselves, their genes, their parents, their teachers, their friends, bosses, or anyone who crosses them. Yet...this is the way IT SHOULD BE.

Humans, as a whole, are the only species on the plant that exhibit choice in our lives. We are not required to be anything OTHER than that which we desire to be. On one hand, that's scary. On the other, that's pure freedom.

You see, if life was ALWAYS happy, would be motivated to change, to grow, to explore?

Probably not.

Once you make it to a state of equilibrium, you're pretty content staying there. Until you're thrown off balance, you have no motivation to move. Think deeper...

If you own PS2, why buy anything else unless circumstances change?
If you tag girls you like, fairly easily, why workout? Why learn languages? Why read?
If your car gets you from A===>B without complaints, why upgrade?
If your job makes you the kind of money you need to fulfill your current life, why educate yourself? Why pursue anymore than we have to?

The fallacy that kills most people is desiring to be in comfortable circle. Once you get there, you're dead. Life will kill you. Think of the millions of people who seek one attainable goal, get it, and consider themselves done. Just think.

-That one girl
-That one job
-That one toy
-That one dream

If it were only as simple as just one, and done, what else would be left to conquer?

Realize...
1. Equilibrium or complacency truly equals death in nature.
2. Get used to it as a means of growing, adapting, and thriving amongst people.

If you weren't unhappy about something, would you fix it? What would prompt you to fix it? Nothing.

Its hard to see the flip side of a situation, and many people will call you fanciful, a dreamer, even too idealist...but realize, THAT'S only one way of thinking, and truly only one Supreme Being guides right or wrong.

While you're drowning in frustration over a girl, a job, education, or workouts, ask yourself:

What can I learn about this situation?

Many times I desire to be complacent, to not have frustrations, to find a way around all that, but then you realize the greatest contradiction...

The people with the greatest frustrations also have the greatest pleasures.

*Money problems are usually the result of TOO MUCH money.
*Girl problems bring with them the obvious nature of HAVING GIRLS. The more you have, the more little quirks you'll encounter.
*Friendship problems stem from many friends conflicting with you or them.

They're not problems, just opportunities to prove yourself and resourcefulness.

My mentors all have LOTS of responsibility, i.e. employees, business expenses, as well as having the duty of generating their own paycheck.

But what does that also mean?

They're free to do what they want.
They make 10x the average American and can therefore experience more and provide more.
They own their lives, their lives don't own them.
They call the shots.

There's not a price tag available for those perks, and I GUARANTEE you that any nice government job does not offer you those perks.

Likewise...

Date multiple girls, 3+. At some point, they do become troublesome. Sure you can skim a few off here and there, but you still run into the same issues and that's where opportunity lies within to challenge yourself.

So upon waking...put on your running shoes and DON'T be the slowest human. If you're not growing, you're dying. We're only here for a short blip of earths total existence, might as well make use of it, right?


A-Unit

 

[Liquid]

Originally posted by A-Unit

So upon waking...put on your running shoes and DON'T be the slowest human. If you're not growing, you're dying. We're only here for a short blip of earths total existence, might as well make use of it, right?


A-Unit

Good stuff. That's really all there is to picking up women and, even more importantly, being successful and happy with who you are and what you do: just going out there and doing it.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

That's what alot of us 'older bucks' say the real secret is. Generally speaking, though, that isn't glamorous, marketable, or attractive. What works, usually isn't that exciting, because true work and success take dedication.

I can cite 100's of examples where consistency to a goal or plan yielded the desired, but only with consistency did it work.

Failing at your weakest point will not get you there.
Giving in on a diet when you're 'hungry' doesn't cut it.
Quitting when there's a girl you desire is weak.
Ignoring education because it's hard is weak and lackluster.

If things were so easy, everybody would do them and they wouldn't be great.

If you could climb Mt Everest as easy as walking your street, would anyone make a big-to-do about it when camps go up?

I doubt it.

And people only get recognition for a feat when they finish it. Rarely do people buy into you when you're just starting out, but that's ok. It's purely psychological. They have only seen you one way, so it's difficult for their vision to process you as something else. Forge ahead and prove to yourself you can.

A-Unit

 

[jiza101]

Great Post mate,
You got AIM or msn messenger, if so add me and we can have a chat.
AIM: jiza10010
msn: threefingerz@hotmail.com

 

[AFK Protector]

Wow. This post blew me away. You're the man A-Unit. I'll PM you sometime about this.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Thanks, gentlemen, much appreciated.

I merely seek to shake a few of you, awaken from your sombers, and get you out. When there's a world, or at least 1/2 a world of enlightened people, we can all be more successful. Women will, on the whole respect the male species more, perhaps causing a shift in their attitudes as well as the perceived power they have, or don't have.

However, on the primary topic...many people awaken each day and believe they are not suited for something, that they are at fault, that they can't do something.

PAAAAHAAAA I say!

That is not it!

Difficulties, opportunities, challenges are all placed before us to qualify the true warrior, the true man. A position of worth, a title of noteriety, a valuable goal can be assumed by any beggar. NO! It must be earned, made worthy, and appreciated.

It is not you, it is difficult!

I had pondering many of the circumstances in my life as of late, and realized that, what faces me face everybody else. Yet, where I or others would fail is in giving up. Yes, everything can be tough, and sometimes we my faulter or seek to back down, but what else is there from doing such a thing but death of our character?

For if you back down once, you will do it again. Coping out will create the instinct to continously do such a thing repeatedly. It will garner a weak skill in you, rather than the opposing skill of strength, of courage, of valor.

I truly believe we must approach life with the warrior instincts we once possessed. That we must operate as if society does not exist and does not care if we do, because as far as I am concered it doesn't. Society will only support at your worst, not your best, but at what moment do you want to experience life? For those of you reading this, I hope you reply, MY BEST.

Many people are fearful of approaching, of cold calling, of presenting, but these are basic skills that will not only serve you good with women, but in life. Often times PUA's & DJ's, or Salesman and Businessman gane fame because of their ability to approach, to be social, to be interactive. Why is this?

Because such skills are interchangeable.

An uncle of mine owns a business here in Boston, but was also an actor during college and is a Salesman by trade. He doesn't turn off who he is, because that's what granted him his sucess, that's what brings him happiness, and that's what creates his life and his reality. Yet, these are learned traits.

*You learn not to care what other people think, because most people don't care enough to think about themselves.
*You learn to be forthright and take action that moment, because that's the only moment that matters as far as your life is concerned.
*You learn it merely takes a HELLO to every person you meet, because we ALL want to be approached.
*You learn that in our differences, we find our similarities.
*You learn that underneath the Gucci, LV, A&F, Fubu, Sean John, Armani, colognes, makeup, etc exists a person. They have 2 choices:
1. Accept you.
2. Reject you.

In any event, no loss was sustained. You can't lose something you never had. And who wants anything that doesn't want you? Hence the basic premise of dating and relationships.

On a subterranean level, you must formulate certain beliefs about life, about yourself, and about your future any of this stuff to stick. Once you do that, ALL TACTICS will work, so seduce until your hearts content. Throw C&F out there. Why?

Because on a basic level, you'll know where you're coming from and you'll know your goal. And people will generally sense that, making any tactic or technique you desire THAT MUCH MORE EFFECTIVE.

If you doubt belief, on any level, question your own beliefs. See how much that throws off the realities you now have.

You'll see because life offers everyone the same difficulties, in that moment, it is the fairest beast of all.


A-Unit

 

[AFK Protector]

This is the ultimate mind-set to have. Stop blaming your environment for the trouble you experience. Better yourself to defeat and conquer that obstacle. You are responsible for your actions. Always strive to be the best you can be, for you don't get another chance at life.

A-Unit, if you don't mind, I'm going to start preaching this.

 

[misterethoughts]

wow i read this post and i just have to say thanks man damn haha this was just brought to me while i was still a little blind i am seeing purily nowww thanks man....

 

[Teen Spirit]

5 stars

Excellent tip. This is such a great way of looking at things. All the worlds most succesful people will have a mindset like this. They are able to constantly turn disadvantages into advantages, which is what makes them the best.

This gets a 5 star rating from me.

 

[C-Damage]

Solid Gold. This, over and above everything else is what you need to know and understand. Im pretty far from maintaining or using this mindset for longer than a few hours at the moment. But i happily recognise that developing this mindset and controling my urges to be lazy, introvert and to pander to my vices is essential to long term happyness and achievement.

Thanks for putting it into words A-Unit.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Thanks again, gentlemen.

Just do me a favor and use at least 10% of what you read and you'll be wildly successful.

I have always found that 2 successful people, be it with women, sports, money, business, or anything else you can conceive of are infinitely more powerful than just 1 guy wafting through life.

1 + 1 = 11.

Not

1 + 1 = 2

That means the power of 2 enlightened and motivated individuals is more powerful TOGETHER, than divided, or than just 1 super successful individual.

You come to realize, that life only goes your way if say...you're the king, or queen Diana, or Bill Gates, or any other powerbroker you can think of it. Yet, even THEY had dissenters, people who would seek to grapple at such power, topple them, and take over, just as what happened to Julius Caesar.

The truly deft people are those who can make situations, any situation, work to their advantage.

That means...
*If you're stuck in traffic, have a book or CD on tape to occupy and leverage your time.
*If you're on a date, and she flakes or shows up late, have a book, magazine on you, or be prepared to handle it on your own. Flirst with a waitress. Get dinner on your own. Leverage it in some way to your goal.
*If you're broke, understand WHY, i.e. lack of income, friends who drain you or don't support you, poor savings habit, excessive spending.
*If a sales situation didn't pan out as once thought, determine why. Maybe you didn't qualify your prospect, maybe you didn't determine their values and beliefs and ultimate goal, maybe you said something quite sensitive to their position. Know why, fix it, grow, move on.

Lighten the load from, realizing, as long as you're trying to gain the most from every situation, you'll benefit.

I remember one night being out with a friend and his faily or a 30 foot boat. To my knowledge, they were experienced navigating the seas at night. Suffice it to say, they weren't. For a good 2 hours, I was sure we were either going to run out of gas or I was going to jump and swim to shore as we were only a few yards away most of the night. Our GPS was screwy and no other boats were willing to help. In the end, we navigated our way to shore, learned how to read all the gadgets on board, and obtained a valuable lesson.

You really can read anything you want in life...but doesn't it make infinitely more sense to read it with a sense of purpose of learning than see it as you being a whipping boy? Not that, everybody is beaten down like that...but even the biggest guy, with the biggest heart desire big dreams. There's nothing stopping except you, except fear of SOMETHING, or the feeling that, what you're reading life MEANS something.

Actions in life only mean something if you give it some meaning.
*Why a girl is late to call, or show up, or visit means nothing until she arrives and tells you.
-I can't count the number of times in the past overreaction resulted in a fight, because I 'thought' something was up, that wasn't. Let the facts speak for themselves.

Good Luck, gentlemen. And if you're going to back to school, i.e. high school or college, resolve to make THIS your best year. Even if you're a junior, or sophomore. You haven't made it to senior year, so don't day dream about THAT year, worry about the one in front of you.

And if anyone is post-graduate like myself, and feels as if college was NOT QUITE what it was meant to be....

Stop living 1/2 alive, 1/2 dead to some. Stop the nonsense of wandering from pointless job to pointless job. The only moment that matters is now, so make it count. Make it worth something to remember. You'll regret MORE, living 1/2 alive and not doing what you wished you could, than you will 100 rejections.


End.


A-Unit

 

[oOh Nasty]

i wanna give this 5 stars.

thx.

 

[Ricky]

Excellent!

 

[AFK Protector]

Man, this guy just keeps on going on and on, but that's probably the best thing he can do. Anyways, you got 5 stars from me.

I can read this every morning and feel ready to take on anything. Thanks a lot!

 

[DJBen]

Wow. You've just made me do the follwing:


Call my **** buddy up and tell her to stop whining at me, or bugger off

Do all the housework

Sort everything I need for enrollment day tomorrow well in advance

Book a haircut

Finish all my unfinished programming projects

VERY good stuff here. I'm gonna have to stick this into a notepad file and print it out for whenever I need a kick in the ass to stop being lazy

Good stuff!

 

[A-Unit]

Awesome.

Glad to hear all the good stuff.

And I'm also glad you've so kindly overlooked my numerous spelling errors and grammatical faux pas.

Nonetheless...life won't slow down to allow us to wimper, whine, or feel bad. This isn't meant to say we can't take a breather, but just realize there's no scale out their ready to put in perfect balance, to right the wrongs you once experienced, and give you all you deserve. That comes through yourself and REALIZING where you're at, that everyone is in the same boat, and to keep moving.

When I was younger, I had a case of the ugly duckling syndrome. Just young, awkward, and shy. I had the features to be attractive, but none of the knowledge to actually do it. Once high school hit, I was still fumbling for something. Fumbling to feel alive. To feel better about myself. To make moves. To excede my peers. I quickly realized praying, as much as it helped, only did so much. To make it work, I had to realize, God, or any higher being you believe in, would enable all you hope for, only if you do that which lies inside you.

Senior year, I put all my effort into working out, dropped big time weight, saved for a new car, gained a mess load of scholarships, became captain of my HS team, and had girls asking me to the prom. That was a complete 180 from my previous three years. And to think, I felt 1/2 dead for 3.5 years, praying, praying, praying, and when I finally did it, so many things clicked that was I bowled over.

Years later I always carried that mantra with me, that you have to keep moving no matter what, that life is fair to one, and to everyone in the same instant, and that only you are responsible for you. Think about it...

*Do your friends care what job you have, or do they only care that you'll meet them for a beer on friday night?
*Do your parents care what you do for a job, or as long as you have an income are they happy?
*Do any girls care what you do, or are they only after the finished product, the Don Juan, the mature man?

This isn't to say 'they don't have empathy for you,' because we all have friends who will be sympathetic when needed, but they can't will you into a job, a better body, a new home, a relationship, or anything else. Only you can do that.

Dream + Team + Theme = Success.
[I ripped that off of the One Minute Millionaire - get it]

This comes from the simple principles that, the more successful lot of us that exists, the more of us who can:
*Make more money
*Meet more girls
*Help more people
*Do better workouts
*Have more fun

Bottom line: If you desire to be wildly successful, you must go to work on yourself and on your life. Don't just live in your life and think, 'Well this is what I'm given.' NO! It's merely a starting point. If you have a great family, AWESOME, you have a wonderful support team. And if you don't, then seek out uplifting and supportive relationships, BECAUSE THEY EXIST.

Devote yourself to...constant improvement.
*Be better at sex. Read up on the female body, her sensitivity to certain touches, sex toys, cream lotions, understand her body better than her. Who do you think will be her sex God? Do you think she'd ever cheat, even at marriage?
*Be better at your career/business. Read autobiographies, self-help, NLP, management books, leadership books, sales, marketing, investing. Drown yourself in them. This is your way to the top of wherever you desire to be.
*Read up on health & nutrition. Your body is your vehicle through. The quality and status of that vehicle determines how far you go. If you're body is unhealthy from excess alcohol, smoke, or drugs, it will be difficult to have any energy to do the above and progress.
Read up on language, art, music, history. Women, and even more matter of fact, PEOPLE, appreciate someone who is educated versus someone who is ignorant. This will give you a right brain approach, and open up those avenues you may have left dormant. In addition, when you do meet those artsy gals, and you will, you'll have something intelligent to talk over.
Be in control of your financial life. So many of the people I see day in and day out have no idea what a 401k is, when to refinance, and are so scared of scams, that they hide their heads in the same AND NEVER TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY to review their situations. Thousands of dollars are lost by people not watching their eggs better.

Tell me...if you had the goose that laid golden eggs, would you just leave it in the bar NOT feed it, and leave it unguarded with no security?

HELL NO.

You'd put that baby in a locked cage, feed it only the best grass, groom it, talk to it, play with it, heck, you'd put it in your HOUSE!

Yet, millions of people pay no mind to some of the most important things. Learn that and you'll be miles ahead of your peers. Many marriages and relationships are lost, not because of lack of attraction, but neglience and ignorance. It's too sad.

The list and avenues you can traverse on your individual goals is immeasurable. Everybody has widespread talents that should be harnessed. On that journey of self discovery is where you'll find life. You'll find the woman who shares similar interests. You'll find the friends who share in all, or most, of the same pleasures. And most importantly, you will find you.

Because on a journey of one, that's all that matters, if your happiness. When you're happy, you can also show others how to be happy as well.


End.


A-Unit

 

[AFK Protector]

Sorry, I didn't say this earlier, but I love you. ANd OMG AnoTHER UPDATE!

 

[Wacky-1]

Why In HELL is this not in the bible?
Awesome stuff AU...Thanks for sharing the experience, it's invaluable to some of us younger guns
This is just what I needed to kick my ass into gear and get to work!

 

[AFK Protector]

Why is this only 4 stars now. WTF

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[Omega]

Originally posted by AFK Protector
Why is this only 4 stars now. WTF

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Groupie!