This is about an office flirt. All I want is to have a normal and friendly relationship with a girl at work. We had a big flirt going on for a couple of months, but as she has a boyfriend, she probably realized what she was doing as we got closer, and put an end to the flirt. I admit that I really like this girl, but I realize that I have to move on.
The best chance for me to move on came when I changed departement at work, three weeks ago. We still work in the same building, but not next to each other as we used to. Therefore I usually only see her at lunch, and I haven't actively seeked her out, and she hasn't seeked me out either. Actually we didn't speak for two weeks, but still saying "hi" and smiling when we see each other.
Now here's one thing I don't understand: For several weeks she has been playing some sort of game when at lunch. We are usually a group that sit around the table and talk at lunch. The strange part is that if I say something funny, and everyone laughs, she NEVER laughs. If I start talking about something she turns away and starts talking to someone else. She has adopted a, what I consider, fake laughter, and laughs at everything being said, except what I say. Sometimes she also flirts with others, but it's so EASY to see that its fake. I didn't see this behavior the first three months I worked with her.
Possible reasons for this behavior:
* I could be playing the same game to her without thinking about it, as I'm trying to move on, and don't pay her unecessary attention..
* She is the sort of girl that wants to be in control. I'm the newest guy at work, and during the first months, when I didn't know many people there, she supported me, protected me and tried to validate herself to me. In this period the flirting was also at its most intense. I have grown in "social status" at work, as people have started to show interest in me, and I've got a better position. Is she feeling threathened, or want to compete??
* Maybe she thinks "don't pay him attention or he will think that I'm interested".
* Her boss is with her on the behavior. I don't like her boss because he is fake and manipulative, and also I think he wants to do her (he's married though). When he was my boss too he threw some **** at me and denied it all afterwards. He has made HER the second boss, and he could manipulate her to not flirt or pay me any attention, or he could talk **** about me. She has to be on good foot with him because he's her boss. He has told her he wants to talk with her boyfriend about “something” (I consider this a threat to talk to her bf about the flirting).
* Maybe I have offended her in some way, or she likes me but protects herself because she doesn't know where she has me (I pay her less attention than I used to).
What could it be? Share your opinions please!!
The best chance for me to move on came when I changed departement at work, three weeks ago. We still work in the same building, but not next to each other as we used to. Therefore I usually only see her at lunch, and I haven't actively seeked her out, and she hasn't seeked me out either. Actually we didn't speak for two weeks, but still saying "hi" and smiling when we see each other.
Now here's one thing I don't understand: For several weeks she has been playing some sort of game when at lunch. We are usually a group that sit around the table and talk at lunch. The strange part is that if I say something funny, and everyone laughs, she NEVER laughs. If I start talking about something she turns away and starts talking to someone else. She has adopted a, what I consider, fake laughter, and laughs at everything being said, except what I say. Sometimes she also flirts with others, but it's so EASY to see that its fake. I didn't see this behavior the first three months I worked with her.
Possible reasons for this behavior:
* I could be playing the same game to her without thinking about it, as I'm trying to move on, and don't pay her unecessary attention..
* She is the sort of girl that wants to be in control. I'm the newest guy at work, and during the first months, when I didn't know many people there, she supported me, protected me and tried to validate herself to me. In this period the flirting was also at its most intense. I have grown in "social status" at work, as people have started to show interest in me, and I've got a better position. Is she feeling threathened, or want to compete??
* Maybe she thinks "don't pay him attention or he will think that I'm interested".
* Her boss is with her on the behavior. I don't like her boss because he is fake and manipulative, and also I think he wants to do her (he's married though). When he was my boss too he threw some **** at me and denied it all afterwards. He has made HER the second boss, and he could manipulate her to not flirt or pay me any attention, or he could talk **** about me. She has to be on good foot with him because he's her boss. He has told her he wants to talk with her boyfriend about “something” (I consider this a threat to talk to her bf about the flirting).
* Maybe I have offended her in some way, or she likes me but protects herself because she doesn't know where she has me (I pay her less attention than I used to).
What could it be? Share your opinions please!!
