Why exactly did she get pissed off

[jafyk]

Here's the background story and below is the conversation. I was chatting wit a friend of mine and I asked him if a girl was "F'able"? and he didn't get it till I explained it meant Fvckable. So, I decided to ask a girl to see if she'd get it and she didn't. Then she proceeded to ask what it meant and here's what transpired. (I do know this girl socially I have her # and she's on my facebook but we haven't actually hung out) So, what do you think really pissed her off. I was just attempting to be C & F. While, I'd like to do her. I wasn't serious about it when I mentioned it. Ok, here you go.

Jafyk
Flora are u there?
1:06amFlora
hey what's up
1:06amJafyk
oh there u are
1:06amFlora
hi!
1:06amJafyk
I have a question for you.
i have a question for you ok? The contents is not important. I just want to know if you get it.
1:07amFlora
sure..
1:07amJafyk
Am I F'able?
1:07amFlora
what does that word mean?
1:08amJafyk
Well, thanks. I guess you don't know then.
That's all I wanted to find out.
Apparently I was being too hard on my friend for not knowing what it meant
1:09amFlora
why won't u tell me what that word means?
huh?
1:10amJafyk
See, I hate it when you gals think cos ur cute that gives you the right to get pushy and all. Maybe if you ask nicer i just might give you a clue,lol.
1:10amFlora
excuse me?!
1:10amJafyk
lol
1:11amFlora
lol
how am I suppose to know it joking..
1:11amJafyk
I mean if u ask nicely I just might tell you.
Oh
1:11amFlora
were typing..
1:11amJafyk
ok well u have to promise not to over react. Afterall you wanted to know.
Anyway, the clue is
1:11amFlora
besides your the one that asked me in the first place..
1:12amJafyk
What if I told you I'd like to F you.
Hence F'able means?
1:12amFlora
hmmm....
1:12amJafyk
see I knew you'd know it. U just needed a lil help.
1:13amFlora
you don't even know who I am as a person but yet you wanna **** me?!
1:13amJafyk
That was the clue
now ur arrogant ass is assuming I'd like to F u
rolling my eyes, lol.
1:14amFlora
I don't think what your thinking but you don't have a chance with me.
your not my type and you just pissed me of.
1:15amJafyk
Flora
did u read the first question I wrote.
Ok, what I should tell you is why. I asked u the question in the first place
1:16amFlora
whyveould u even say that?
1:16amJafyk
there's nothing to be mad about. breathe in and relax.
1:16amFlora
i'm fine
1:16amJafyk
promise
cos u seem upset
1:17amFlora
well what you said was upsetting.
1:17amJafyk
which part?
1:17amFlora
it was just wrong
the whole ducking.
****ing
1:17amJafyk
lol
can't even say the word
ok let's call it ducking then
do u wanna know why i asked u or not?
1:18amFlora
I'm not like that. not even close. I have morals. plus I refuse to settle for less
1:18amJafyk
Flora, pls stop.
Flora is no longer online. The following was not sent:
none of this is about F ing u. (send as a message)
1:19amFlora is online.
1:19amFlora
nag. I don't care.
I'm gonna get of here...
1:19amJafyk
hey wait
give me 3
ok
ok?
1:19amFlora
you wierd me out..

(I sent her a message explaining what I explained to you guys and I apologized)

 

[oakraiderz2]

Uhh...cliff notes. We dont read entire conversations here.

 

[jafyk]

Uhh...cliff notes. We dont read entire conversations here.

Oh, oops well read till ur tired. Oh till you get what's happening. Is this where I apologize? LOL

 

[Levex]

1:14amFlora
I don't think what your thinking but you don't have a chance with me.
your not my type and you just pissed me of.


There. That says it all.

You're trying too hard.

 

[cant think of a user name]

Yeah dude you preetty much.... just the vibe of the whole convo was pretty weird.

You tried some of (what you called) "C+F", she didn't respond well to it, you tried to press the issue, she got pissed, you continued trying to press the issue.

Also, don't apologise. Just forget about the whole thing and move on.

And relax.

 

[Desert Fox]

I probably wouldn't do what you did with a girl you've never met. Seems pretty weird and your apology at the end was pvssy behavior. You were fake bro because you apologized for your sexuality in the end. She made you feel guilty about it.

I would have not asked her this dumb question in the first place, but if I did I'd just ask her and find out she doesn't know what it means then just leave her hanging like, "nah I'll tell you what it means when you grow up."

 

[kdnash82]

First off, get off the computer. You have her number, and her face book, yet you've never hung out.

Why not?

Because you try to be C&F over a computer instead of picking up the phone for 5 minutes and saying lets meet up somewhere.

Bottom line. People read things how they want to. Reading is different from hearing a voice. You can convey emotion in your voice. In a text to show excitement instead of saying "The dog ran.", I would say "The dog ran!".

In my voice you can hear it. My tone is everything. So you trying to come off as C&F in a text is not gonna cut it. Lose the computer. Buy a phone and get back to orignal conversation. I swear technology is gonna ruin this world.

One day we're all gonna forget how to talk because we text so damn much.

 

[jafyk]

First off, get off the computer. You have her number, and her face book, yet you've never hung out.

Why not?

Because you try to be C&F over a computer instead of picking up the phone for 5 minutes and saying lets meet up somewhere.

Bottom line. People read things how they want to. Reading is different from hearing a voice. You can convey emotion in your voice. In a text to show excitement instead of saying "The dog ran.", I would say "The dog ran!".

In my voice you can hear it. My tone is everything. So you trying to come off as C&F in a text is not gonna cut it. Lose the computer. Buy a phone and get back to orignal conversation. I swear technology is gonna ruin this world.

One day we're all gonna forget how to talk because we text so damn much.

First you guys on here are so quick to judge. So, let me clarify somethings. I have plates and I'm spinning so I could care less if I bag this girl or not. The point of my interaction with her was to find out if she knew what I meant. I've spoken with her in person a few times and talked a few times on the phone. So, I figured since we are already acquainted with each other she wouldn't be offended. When she misunderstood me and got upset. I tried the C & F and then I got the sense she was pissed off which wasn't my aim so, I apologized just so we are cool.
What you guys are telling me is you never apologize to a girl you've offended to prove that you're a cool DJ?
Instead of answering the question I asked, what you decided to do was make assumptions and point the fingers (How does that help?)
I think I'm just gonna burn the bridge on this one. Girls who are too serious and unreasonable when you try to explain things to them.
FYI I have a phone and it was early in the morning and I wasn't gonna call her for something silly like that. Besides, the interaction took place on facebook chat cos I saw her online.
I do agree with you that ppl can read things the wrong way on things like chat and text. Which is why a reasonable person will clarify things.
Oh we've never hung out because she says she's busy and wants to be friends.

 

[jafyk]

1:14amFlora
I don't think what your thinking but you don't have a chance with me.
your not my type and you just pissed me of.


There. That says it all.

You're trying too hard.

That's a typical response most girls would give when they get pissed with a guy. Say he's not their type.

 

[WalkingStick]

As we can all see, she got upset because you said "I'd like to F U"

She obviously wasnt ready for that. You came off as desperate and creepy, not ****y and funny. Just because you have her facebook doesnt mean she's going to accept those kinds of things. Hell, most girls that you actually HAVE hung out with would probably back off if you said that. She told you she wanted to be FRIENDS. Friends do not want to "F" each other.

If you honestly wanted an answer to your question, it should have been worded differently. If you wanted to show your interest, you should have done it differently.

No need to explain yourself or apologize. She'll eventually realize that you didnt mean anything by it.

 

[jafyk]

If you're gonna quote me do it right but anyway, once again here's what I said in the right context. "1:12amJafyk
What if I told you I'd like to F you.
Hence F'able means?
1:12amFlora
hmmm....
1:12amJafyk
see I knew you'd know it. U just needed a lil help.
"

Key what is what IF. I used F in a sentence she'd understand (it was a clue) not that I wanted to F her. Not to say I wouldn't but that wasn't my goal. I wasn't trying to woo her or anything.
Well, thank you. I thought she got mad because I told her " 1:13amJafyk
That was the clue
now ur arrogant ass is assuming I'd like to F u
rolling my eyes, lol."

 

[kdnash82]

First you guys on here are so quick to judge. So, let me clarify somethings. I have plates and I'm spinning so I could care less if I bag this girl or not. The point of my interaction with her was to find out if she knew what I meant. I've spoken with her in person a few times and talked a few times on the phone. So, I figured since we are already acquainted with each other she wouldn't be offended. When she misunderstood me and got upset. I tried the C & F and then I got the sense she was pissed off which wasn't my aim so, I apologized just so we are cool.
What you guys are telling me is you never apologize to a girl you've offended to prove that you're a cool DJ?
Instead of answering the question I asked, what you decided to do was make assumptions and point the fingers (How does that help?)
I think I'm just gonna burn the bridge on this one. Girls who are too serious and unreasonable when you try to explain things to them.
FYI I have a phone and it was early in the morning and I wasn't gonna call her for something silly like that. Besides, the interaction took place on facebook chat cos I saw her online.
I do agree with you that ppl can read things the wrong way on things like chat and text. Which is why a reasonable person will clarify things.
Oh we've never hung out because she says she's busy and wants to be friends.

Dude...... whatever... Make up all the excuses you want. I'm just using the facts that I see here. If you don't want someone to assume something, don't come on here with minimum detail asking for advice, then cry when you get it.

Even after all you've said, I think I'm still on point with my assumption. Get off the computer.... I mean really.... Chatting on facebook in the am? Wow

 

[jafyk]

Dude...... whatever... Make up all the excuses you want. I'm just using the facts that I see here. If you don't want someone to assume something, don't come on here with minimum detail asking for advice, then cry when you get it.

Even after all you've said, I think I'm still on point with my assumption. Get off the computer.... I mean really.... Chatting on facebook in the am? Wow

Mr. Nash, why don't you let me know when next your going out so I can come along. Since I'm here waiting on you to tell me how to live my life because I had one experience that happened in the am. I guess there's now a set time when someone can be online. By the way what are you doing here replying? If you weren't on your PC you wouldn't be here responding when you don't know other details of my life . Hypocrites like you make me sick.

 

[synergy1]

you came off as sketchy and immature with a try-hard attitude. I didn't think what you said was ****y or funny at all. Lets just hope your other plates are doing better...

 

[jafyk]

you came off as sketchy and immature with a try-hard attitude. I didn't think what you said was ****y or funny at all. Lets just hope your other plates are doing better...

Ah! how much can i reiterate my point. I wasn't trying to impress her. I pushed the issue cos I wanted to get a rise out of her.Thanks for thinking of my other plates they are fine. If they were to walk tomorrow I'd still be fine because there's more to life than girls and girls will always be there in abundance.

 

[kdnash82]

Mr. Nash, why don't you let me know when next your going out so I can come along. Since I'm here waiting on you to tell me how to live my life because I had one experience that happened in the am. I guess there's now a set time when someone can be online. By the way what are you doing here replying? If you weren't on your PC you wouldn't be here responding when you don't know other details of my life . Hypocrites like you make me sick.

Someone please close this thread. The OP obviously knows everything already. No sense in keeping this open when he disagrees with everything everyone has to say.

Funny, if you would have not been on the computer trying to chat with some chick int he am, this question wouldn't even be here right now.

As far as my being on the computer. I'm a computer tech. My jobs are computers, so 9 hours of my day are spent on them. If I decide I want to come to this site and see what people have to say, I can. Not that I have to explain my situation to a scrub though.

I stick by my answer. Get off the computer, stop texting, and use a phone. "You have her phone number and don't bother calling.... You've never gone out with her...." Sounds pretty sad if you ask me, but since you know it all, you already knew that.

 

[shaunuk]

jafyk, you posted a thread asking why she got p*ssed off, then when people tell you you get on an offensive at them...So what's the point in this thread?

Read over your own conversation. You jumped in there with sex talk totally out of context, no escalation or anything. It should be pretty obvious why she was p1ssed off and weirded out.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

You did that to yourself . You were qualifying her in the whole conversation .

Also , you we're setting the whole stage up . Here :

1:11amJafyk
ok well u have to promise not to over react. Afterall you wanted to know.

Why should she over react to something normal ? If you told her in normal way she wouldnt respond like that .You showed that you are judgmental guy.

Also your pathetic attempt to be ****y+funny in non appropriate moment backfired you .

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Sometimes "****y and funny" is used to knock a girl down a peg if she's being b!tchy. If a girl is trying to make you qualify yourself to her THEN ****y and funny might be necessary.

Listen closely. Sometimes girls don't want to joke around all the time. SOMETIMES girls want a serious conversation. They way you used ****y and funny seemed like an attack to her. You came off as conceited.


You wanna see what I'm talking about? (everything critique made by me is in red):

She said:what does that word mean? (nothing wrong with that
1:08amJafyk
Well, thanks. I guess you don't know then. Ok
That's all I wanted to find out.This is fine.
Apparently I was being too hard on my friend for not knowing what it meant Good stuff.
1:09amFlora
why won't u tell me what that word means?
huh? She's curious, but she's not being a b!tch.You're prolonging it which seems good. She's hanging on your words it seems.
1:10amJafyk
See, I hate it when you gals think cos ur cute that gives you the right to get pushy and all. Maybe if you ask nicer i just might give you a clue,lol. WHAT?! WHAT THE FVCK!? WHERE DID THIS SH!T COME FROM!? What would warrant this comment towards her? "Cos ur cute"? When did she proclaim that she was cute? Pushy? Did she say "TELL ME!! TELL ME NOW!!!" You were running on with your words without giving an explanation. Too much bla bla bla. Girls are suppose to be the blabbermouths.


Less is more. Remember that.

 

[jafyk]

Sometimes "****y and funny" is used to knock a girl down a peg if she's being b!tchy. If a girl is trying to make you qualify yourself to her THEN ****y and funny might be necessary.

Listen closely. Sometimes girls don't want to joke around all the time. SOMETIMES girls want a serious conversation. They way you used ****y and funny seemed like an attack to her. You came off as conceited.


You wanna see what I'm talking about? (everything critique made by me is in red):

She said:what does that word mean? (nothing wrong with that
1:08amJafyk
Well, thanks. I guess you don't know then. Ok
That's all I wanted to find out.This is fine.
Apparently I was being too hard on my friend for not knowing what it meant Good stuff.
1:09amFlora
why won't u tell me what that word means?
huh? She's curious, but she's not being a b!tch.You're prolonging it which seems good. She's hanging on your words it seems.
1:10amJafyk
See, I hate it when you gals think cos ur cute that gives you the right to get pushy and all. Maybe if you ask nicer i just might give you a clue,lol. WHAT?! WHAT THE FVCK!? WHERE DID THIS SH!T COME FROM!? What would warrant this comment towards her? "Cos ur cute"? When did she proclaim that she was cute? Pushy? Did she say "TELL ME!! TELL ME NOW!!!" You were running on with your words without giving an explanation. Too much bla bla bla. Girls are suppose to be the blabbermouths.


Less is more. Remember that.

First of all thank you for your comment. It's the first or one of the few that didn't start making assumptions of my life in general and trying make sneaky insults. I'm gonna respond to you and some of the people up there.
My first response is to your last critique in red. You're right, the whole thing came apart because I was using a poor form of communication (chat) which didn't give her a chance to read my expression and see that I wasn't seriously implying she was conceited or anything. I was trying to get a rise out of her (not in a bad way) just so she challenges me back or something. I have spoken to her a few times in person and teased her. So, I just assumed she'd know I wasn't serious.
When I made this post I only wanted to know why she got mad (which you and some other poster told me why). That was all I wanted to know but instead people started trying to insinuate I don't have a life and I should get off the PC. If they simply had answered the question then there won't be this unecessary exchange (that's now distasteful). A lot of people tend to this here when someone asks a question and I hate that. If I said I need advice on how to improve my dating life and someone asks me to get off the PC ( I can understand that but then again they need to make ask questions to know what it's like before making accusatory assumptions)

To the guy who said I was online trying to pick up a chick at 2am or something. I was online multi tasking and chatting with a guy friend and one thing led to another and I saw the girl online and decided to ask her my question but took it a lil further. I figured she and I were cool and she got mad. I just wanted to know why she did and that was all. Anyway, later.