I really dont get it to be honest, I've been single now for about 7 months and as far as i can tell im a pretty good looking guy. but like for instance, when it comes between sitting next to me and some average joe in class the HB9 goes and sits next to him. Maybe I'm not as good looking as I thought? I do have a funny-****y personality and I'm not a wussy boy when it comes to talking to girls but for some reason girls never really notice me. Here's a picture of me... http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v627/jlr12584/Picture37.jpg.
why don't ANY girls show interest in me?
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Centaurion
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im not sure if it works something screwy going on.
im not sure if it works something screwy going on.
asianbrutha
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Grow a mustache & beard. And for God sakes...clean up that room!
Youre a good looking dude.
My bet is you intimidate these girls. Trust me, I experience this a fair lot. Heres my pic:
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OEAQEYH&key=EVP
Women fear better-looking guys, because we are the one group who can challenge and threaten their priviledged position.
Ive personally just startin seein HB9 who is way above my previous girls, who were, as I was always reminded, below me physically.
My advice would be to:
1) Lighten up. If you are attractive AND appear stern you become totally unapproachable. If you appear smiling and laughing more often, the impression will be that you dont really know or care that youre good looking. THIS is what will do you wonders.
2) Angle towards a slightly, or a majorly, higher class of women. From your post its obvious you actually CARE about girls who are really not all that. Girls who you know, deep down, you are too good for. You care because of months of apparent dis-interest which has forced you - wrongly - to question your attractiveness. Again, Ive been there.
3) Alternatively, approach women as if you KNOW BEYOND ALL DOUBT you are the bomb.
You have to understand that girls DO NOT WANT TO look at you because YOU MAY NOT LOOK BACK - and this would mean a slight (but significant) ego bruising for them.
Out of interest, do you catch guys looking at you? Not in a gay way, but I get this alot. In light if what Ive said, perhaps male attention - attention towards the competition - is a more accurate reflection of your desirability.
Hope this helps.
My bet is you intimidate these girls. Trust me, I experience this a fair lot. Heres my pic:
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OEAQEYH&key=EVP
Women fear better-looking guys, because we are the one group who can challenge and threaten their priviledged position.
Ive personally just startin seein HB9 who is way above my previous girls, who were, as I was always reminded, below me physically.
My advice would be to:
1) Lighten up. If you are attractive AND appear stern you become totally unapproachable. If you appear smiling and laughing more often, the impression will be that you dont really know or care that youre good looking. THIS is what will do you wonders.
2) Angle towards a slightly, or a majorly, higher class of women. From your post its obvious you actually CARE about girls who are really not all that. Girls who you know, deep down, you are too good for. You care because of months of apparent dis-interest which has forced you - wrongly - to question your attractiveness. Again, Ive been there.
3) Alternatively, approach women as if you KNOW BEYOND ALL DOUBT you are the bomb.
You have to understand that girls DO NOT WANT TO look at you because YOU MAY NOT LOOK BACK - and this would mean a slight (but significant) ego bruising for them.
Out of interest, do you catch guys looking at you? Not in a gay way, but I get this alot. In light if what Ive said, perhaps male attention - attention towards the competition - is a more accurate reflection of your desirability.
Hope this helps.
asianbrutha
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Don't sweat it dude; they notice you. Women are not like us...they don't make their attraction level very obvious.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Two tips.
Shower daily.
SPEAK TO THEM.
Shower daily.
SPEAK TO THEM.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
AMF summed it up nicely. I went thru and go thru the same thing. Add highly intelligent to it, and you've really got intimidation going on in multiple ways.
I used to care about what these girls i knew were below me thought and it ate me up causing me to over-analyze everything about myself as if i were the problem.
I thought somehow it must be intimidation, and after looking further into this, i've found this to be more true than i would have ever thought.
Yes .. going after girls who are worthy is very important.
I used to care about what these girls i knew were below me thought and it ate me up causing me to over-analyze everything about myself as if i were the problem.
I thought somehow it must be intimidation, and after looking further into this, i've found this to be more true than i would have ever thought.
Yes .. going after girls who are worthy is very important.
So Many Ways
Master Don Juan
Exactly. It will help you out wonders if you adapt a more positive look and attitude. I have the same problem you have and I usually have a real serious expression and I have to remind myself to at least look like I'm positive and smile more. If you do this in a social situation, women will find you more approachable and you should get more IOI's.
accept change and you will rewarded....
yes i used to have a serious look on my face too long time ago. everywhere i went. positive look + smile = reward.
This girl in my class last semester i was having lunch w/ said that she notices im different cause i smile a lot more tahn i used to.
it occurs to me that the more good looking blokes, often have an image/paranoia/self-conscious problem...
i've seen this in my old self, on the board, and people i've met.
there is no problem with you. yet the problem only exists within "you", because you choose to create an illusional self explaination for everything that happpens. just get over it, its not hard to.
well guys, this is a thread one should discuss in much greater detail.
I find this problem fascinating because I also belong to the catagory (8.5 on amihot).
There must be a way to use this to our advantage. Let me contribute this general view of mine:
number1:
the gym:
get into cardio exercise. not too much muscle volume, i'm talkin about more active movement. (improve energy level)
get that heart working. try circuit training as well. or running.
but!...maintain a weight where you feel secure about yourself.
number2:
(uh oh. this is gonna be really hard
DON'T MASTURBATE regularly (maybe only once a week, or even more rarely)
this changes something in your hormone levels. masturbating can be like a sedating drug. damn it. no kidding.
My personal opinion at the moment is that masturbating regularly keeps you feeling sad-guilty, down and ...well comfortable. that is your little evil devil inside telling you: "oh we really don't neeeeeeed to approach anyone; let's just jack off tonight and eeeeeeeverything will be just fine!!!"
Jawohl! Das ist der innere Schweinehund!
Don't listen to this inner nazi pig! He wants to sedate you!!!
I tried this combination out last week and it made me totally mad...but in a positive sense: more active, ****y and all of a sudden i could look people staight in the eye. like: burn them.
My subconcious self was probably saying: "I feel loaded, happy, and POWERFUL"
this might seem ridiculous but try it out. on the long run it might change your aura. I really felt like a different person.
being happy is also closely linked to stress factors.
these stress factors must be diminished by spending energy. ->cardio excersise
the dues and duty won't dissappear but you will feel more in control.
sometimes, it's the little things that make a lot of difference.
try not to masturbate.
I want input on this guys. lemmi hear some of your opinions.
I find this problem fascinating because I also belong to the catagory (8.5 on amihot).
There must be a way to use this to our advantage. Let me contribute this general view of mine:
number1:
the gym:
get into cardio exercise. not too much muscle volume, i'm talkin about more active movement. (improve energy level)
get that heart working. try circuit training as well. or running.
but!...maintain a weight where you feel secure about yourself.
number2:
(uh oh. this is gonna be really hard
DON'T MASTURBATE regularly (maybe only once a week, or even more rarely)
this changes something in your hormone levels. masturbating can be like a sedating drug. damn it. no kidding.
My personal opinion at the moment is that masturbating regularly keeps you feeling sad-guilty, down and ...well comfortable. that is your little evil devil inside telling you: "oh we really don't neeeeeeed to approach anyone; let's just jack off tonight and eeeeeeeverything will be just fine!!!"
Jawohl! Das ist der innere Schweinehund!
Don't listen to this inner nazi pig! He wants to sedate you!!!
I tried this combination out last week and it made me totally mad...but in a positive sense: more active, ****y and all of a sudden i could look people staight in the eye. like: burn them.
My subconcious self was probably saying: "I feel loaded, happy, and POWERFUL"
this might seem ridiculous but try it out. on the long run it might change your aura. I really felt like a different person.
being happy is also closely linked to stress factors.
these stress factors must be diminished by spending energy. ->cardio excersise
the dues and duty won't dissappear but you will feel more in control.
sometimes, it's the little things that make a lot of difference.
try not to masturbate.
I want input on this guys. lemmi hear some of your opinions.
Guerrero
Don Juan
DON'T MASTURBATE regularly (maybe only once a week, or even more rarely)
this changes something in your hormone levels. masturbating can be like a sedating drug. damn it. no kidding.
My personal opinion at the moment is that masturbating regularly keeps you feeling sad-guilty, down and ...well comfortable. that is your little evil devil inside telling you: "oh we really don't neeeeeeed to approach anyone; let's just jack off tonight and eeeeeeeverything will be just fine!!!"
Jawohl! Das ist der innere Schweinehund!
Don't listen to this inner nazi pig! He wants to sedate you!!!
Haha, good one
I just gotta say, jerking off keeps me from being crazy violent. I'd be much more violent person if I didn't jerk off
It does man, it does make you more sedentary. It helps take away the fustration. But hey, I won't jerk off for 2 weeks and see what happens. Worst thing being is I get locked up for fighting on the street, haha.
Oh man, btw do something about your hair; looks like ****. Consider getting better apparel. It's normal that alot of us are intimidating to women; except the pretty ones or the ones that think they're all that (but we don't want a b*tch). beard wouldn't be a bad idea; no gay goatee though or mustache.
this changes something in your hormone levels. masturbating can be like a sedating drug. damn it. no kidding.
My personal opinion at the moment is that masturbating regularly keeps you feeling sad-guilty, down and ...well comfortable. that is your little evil devil inside telling you: "oh we really don't neeeeeeed to approach anyone; let's just jack off tonight and eeeeeeeverything will be just fine!!!"
Jawohl! Das ist der innere Schweinehund!
Don't listen to this inner nazi pig! He wants to sedate you!!!
Haha, good one
I just gotta say, jerking off keeps me from being crazy violent. I'd be much more violent person if I didn't jerk off
It does man, it does make you more sedentary. It helps take away the fustration. But hey, I won't jerk off for 2 weeks and see what happens. Worst thing being is I get locked up for fighting on the street, haha.
Oh man, btw do something about your hair; looks like ****. Consider getting better apparel. It's normal that alot of us are intimidating to women; except the pretty ones or the ones that think they're all that (but we don't want a b*tch). beard wouldn't be a bad idea; no gay goatee though or mustache.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
I've been beating it much less last week due to overtime at work and the change was noticeable after three days. I became more irritable, desparate to get some , and was unable to concentrate at work at times. Abstinence from masturbating doesn't really work for me.
Guerrero
Don Juan
Haha, I hear ya brother
I'm still trying it, as a challenge
I'm still trying it, as a challenge
