why does she keep telling me this ****?

[Jaun_Don]

Okay, (yeah sorry it's about the housemate) and I need some serious advice as I'm not sure what to do anymore, this girl knows that I like her and I am sure that she plays on it as much as she can, her body language has NOT once been negative towards me,it is always flirtatious and she spends a lot of time with me alone in the lounge (when she doesn't have too when she has a TV, Video and DVD upstairs) honestly at times the way we talk to each other is like a couple, you know the soft sort of voice couples have with each other...the thing is she keeps telling me things which I know are bull**** and I don't understand why....ie...she sent me a txt message with nothing in it and when I asked her about it
she told me that she must have done by accident as she was deleting my txts ...which is garbage...not only that I noticed that she was giving me a lot of **** in front of some good friends of mine (and guys know that when a girl does that it means she likes you).

This is the same girl that lied to me last week about her ex man txting her at 8 am ( a friend of this guy's said that he isn't even up at that time of morning and that he doesn't even think about the girl anymore,) ...all I would like advice on is if I should ask her to move out or not?...I am getting really tired of her games and I don't have the feelings I once had for her but I just don't get her...what is she up to?, please enlighten me...

 

[Slickster]

You seem to be stuck in a real rut here. You have oneitis and the fact that you live with this woman its going to drive you insane.

Here's what you do anytime you are getting mixed messages from a chick.

Grab some balls, pick an appropriate time and go for a kiss. In this case you can't ask her on a date since you live together. Most likely she would just think of the date as a friendly outing and it doesn't answer any of your questions. It would just make you more frustrated. By going for a kiss you effectively cut thru all the bullshyt and find out once and for all where you stand with this chick.

If she reacts negatively then you know that she is an attention wh0re. All the flirting, body language, etc. is just a way for her to have her fragile ego stroked and make her feel good about herself. Chances are this is the case.

When choosing your moment for the kiss try and do it during a "fun" time. Maybe a moment where you are both laughing or sharing a good experience.

Be bold, be a man. Do not be ashamed of your desires. Most importantly, be prepared for your living arrangements to change in the near future.

Good luck

 

[stalluproar]

Roommate you live in a house with. Too many troubles. When she obviously lies to you for you to find out. She is subtly telling you to back off.

 

[Jaun_Don]

^but she got all defensive when I questioned her about it! and she pretty much begged me not to contact the dude that supposefly txted her at 8 am in the morning

I think I might just bring a girl home and have really loud sex and make sure that she hears that should do it.:crackup:

 

[stalluproar]

Remember, females do not act logically with these behaviors.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by stalluproar
Remember, females do not act logically with these behaviors.

so what do you think man?...what is your view on this?

 

[stalluproar]

Advice: Forget her. And here is why:

The blank text - If she really likes you, this is a middle school attempt to get your attention. I would have busted on her for wasting your 2 cents. More than likely your name came up on the address book in her phone and tried to exit and sent you a reply or text that was blank.

Talking about exes - It is obvious that the guy dumped her. You said he doesn't even talk about her. The girl's attraction is unfulfilled. It will continue until someone can replace that.

It is tough to tell what else has gone on, she can stay your roommate, but I would date other girls immediately. If you cant do that, kick her out. It will only get worse.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by stalluproar
Advice: Forget her. And here is why:

The blank text - If she really likes you, this is a middle school attempt to get your attention. I would have busted on her for wasting your 2 cents. More than likely your name came up on the address book in her phone and tried to exit and sent you a reply or text that was blank.

Talking about exes - It is obvious that the guy dumped her. You said he doesn't even talk about her. The girl's attraction is unfulfilled. It will continue until someone can replace that.

It is tough to tell what else has gone on, she can stay your roommate, but I would date other girls immediately. If you cant do that, kick her out. It will only get worse.

With the text thing she said that she did it by mistake while she was deleting my texts?...but I asked other people who are on the same phone service and they said bull****.

As far as other girls I'm looking dude I really am, it's not as easy it sounds...yeah I am seriously telling thinking of her asking her to look for another place, trouble is though my other house mate is my best friend and it might mess **** up between us but i think he might understand...

It's at the stage now where I just can't be bothered even talking to her now..and I am sick to death of smelling her perfume every morring, it makes me sick:cuss: ...she IS an attention seeker of the highest degree and we are actually 2 very different people i guess i just want to know what she sees in me that she doesn't like, I mean every guy does right?.

She actually is a ***** that thinks she is too good for me.

I appreciate your comments man...have a read of this thread though to get more of a background on the ex txting her.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=76542

 

[00Kevin]

The solution to this problem is simple.

As her out and make a move.

be sure to make that move though!

If she says no then ask another girl out.

In other words, just be a man about this and stop trying to read into everything like a woman does.

You have to understand that a woman will never ask you out.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
The solution to this problem is simple.

As her out and make a move.

be sure to make that move though!

If she says no then ask another girl out.

In other words, just be a man about this and stop trying to read into everything like a woman does.

You have to understand that a woman will never ask you out.

Thanks for that yeah I know but this is not what this is about, I want to know why she makes up bull**** stories?, I f I asked her out she would say no because she thinks she is too good for me and lavishes the attention I used to give her, so why set myself up for a fall right?, besides she has told me at least 3 times that she "doesn't have those feelings for me"(the last time she did I yelled at her "well Niether do I", the only reason I think about her these days is why?...she lives under my roof, and I Know for a fact that she lied about the ex texting her...I could never be with this girl as she already does my head in and is wayyyyy high maintenance...she is going away soon and I think when she gets back that I will tell her to move out.

I don't trust her and dislike aspects of her personality...I just don't get why you know...we live in the same house and she seems to think i'm stupid, but I see right through her...and why has she not had a man since she has lived with us?.

What pisses me off is the lies and the bod langauge I get from her, I'm thinking the best thing to do is ignore her and stay away from home and make myself busy, because interestlingly enough the last time I did this I saw her twice in a week and the bull**** story happened on a Friday and worse I was woken up for it.

 

[scordate]

ooooohhh the lure of some women !

it all sounds like so much trouble and aggrevation that I cant even begin to fantasize about what kind of f*ck that would make it worth it

oneitis oneitis GO AWAY !

just date some other girls, just to feel you have something going

and like it was stated; prepare for a change of living arrangements and you should most certainly initiate the change even if you have to stay at the Y for some time i truly believe it would be better than where you are now

/ scordate

 

[Sh0t]

So what the hell are you expecting to hear here then?

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by Sh0t
So what the hell are you expecting to hear here then?

I was just looking for advice and hoping to understand why she did what she did and why she still wants to live with me, it makes no sense...I have something lined up that is going to make her look very foolish, she is going to get a call from the ex, because he isnt happy that she is making up bull**** stories.


I was in the kitchen today and she came up to me to tell me about this hot guy that came up to her at a club last night, I looked her dead in the eyes and said "you are telling the wrong guy honey...I don't give a **** what or who you do"...and she said that wasn't nice to say, and I said I'm not nice now leave me alone I have to study.

And as I was leaving the lounge she went aaahhhhrggghh and said you are so frustrating...

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
I was just looking for advice and hoping to understand why she did what she did and why she still wants to live with me, it makes no sense...

It makes perfect sense. She's an attention wh0re to the extreme who is trying to turn you into one of her little girlfriends that she can gossip to and tell about all her skanky/slutty/whorish adventures to.

Just continue ignoring her and being cold to her when she tries. It seems that you're already doing this. Keep it up. Don't soften up even for a second.

Let me guess....she has very few if any other girl friends?

It is usually a good idea to stay away from girls who cannot maintain a relationship with another woman. This is more often than not a RED FLAG.