backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I mean really... why ?
I admit, it used to be a problem I had, growing up around my dad, who's whole life purposed after he got divorced from my mom (and probably while he was with my mom, just too young to remember) was to **** as many women as possible and brag about it to his friends.
But when you sit down and really think about things... why?
I mean, all mean have instictive needs... we need sex. We were brought here to have sex and reproduce.
But there are also other things in life that can occupy ones time that can be just as if not more rewarding with women, without all of the stress or problems it can cause.
I mean, does it really matter if a girl you think is "hot" thinks you are not cute enough?
Does it really matter if a girl you want to screw thinks of you as a friend?
Why waste your time trying to "convert" this "friend" into a potential partner, when you can be doing alot more important things?
There are times now, not too often, but this week is one of them for me, that I just cut my phone off for weeks at a time because I don't want to be bothered.
The funny thing is, that life is setup for us to have our cake AND eat it to.
It has been said many times before on this board, but I guess it has fallen upon deaf ears.
Get hobbies. Make goals. Hit the gym. not to impress women, but so that you can become the person you truely see yourself as. When you dream about going out to the mall and having women fight over you, or going to the club and taking home the best looking women there, i am sure you are not fat and out of shape... That's what made me really hit the gym hard, not women, but because I saw myself in my mind as being cut, and I wasnt'... wasn't bad looking or anything, but I wasn't who I saw myself as, and that's the most important thing.
Learn new stuff. Learn history. Learn to play a musical insterment. Have a project you are working on.
The average guy, from what I see on a daily basis, drags himself out of bed, goes to work, heads straight home from work, watches TV, usually music videos, MTV or sports, usually talks to a girl sometime durning the day, rather it is someone he is dating or a girl he likes, that' snot the point, and then goes to bed.
But this same guy on the weekend and tries to pump himself up as a ladies man, gets clean, or so he thinks, goes to the club, gets drunk, goes home and feels miserable in the morning.
This guy wonders why women don't like him, don't approach him, why it's so hard for him to approach women.
The answer is easy. You put toooo much value into something that doesn't deserve it.
There about 3 Billion or so women on earth... There isn't a going otu of business sale on them... more of them are popping up every day. People are still ****ing... don't beileve me? go to the hospital and go to the delivery ward.
On the same flip, there are about 3 Billion MEN on earth. Women aren't going to like you because you want them to. It's the same reason why people don't save up their money or get rich to buy a Toyota Camary, there is nothing special about it and it can be had at any time.
Take a break from women. Throw yourself in your work. Do Something. Take a break from this site.
Anytime you have any trouble approaching a women, it is because you have insecurities about yourself, and the only reason they are insecurities is because you need the validation from a women because your life has no validiation for you. In other words, the average guy that I was tlaking about earlier, in his eyes atleast has nothing else in life to look forward to but "getting a girlfriend" so to him a rejection is harder then it is to someone who has alot going on in his life. this is something that a "bootcamp" will fix... yes it will make the process of talking to women easier, but it shouldn't be a process.. YOu see a pretty women, you introduce yourself, you ask for her number. It's really that simple.
Make no mistake, women aren't BAD, in fact some of the best times I have had are with women... but I have had great times with friends, I enjoy doing physical activities, I love going to Colllege Football games, I like reading up on history, etc.
I have recently started to expand my social circle from other than my two best friends. One thing I noticed is how much guys tend to talk about how many women they get, how often they have sex, etc... I never noticed this before because me and my two best friends didn't have to talk about it... If we wanted some we we would go get some. If you ask me, all of these guys that do stuff like that are insecure and feel like they have to validate themselves to their friends. My best friends don't talk to me about girls they meet, they introduce them to me when they bring them over my place to chill. Even then it's not a big deal, because none of us really care about women to the extent that it's all we have to talk about.
IN conclusion, stop putting so much thought into how to get women. it's an easy answer... YOu just go and get them. Start putting some of that saved up entergy into expanding your interests and finding things that make you happy.
I admit, it used to be a problem I had, growing up around my dad, who's whole life purposed after he got divorced from my mom (and probably while he was with my mom, just too young to remember) was to **** as many women as possible and brag about it to his friends.
But when you sit down and really think about things... why?
I mean, all mean have instictive needs... we need sex. We were brought here to have sex and reproduce.
But there are also other things in life that can occupy ones time that can be just as if not more rewarding with women, without all of the stress or problems it can cause.
I mean, does it really matter if a girl you think is "hot" thinks you are not cute enough?
Does it really matter if a girl you want to screw thinks of you as a friend?
Why waste your time trying to "convert" this "friend" into a potential partner, when you can be doing alot more important things?
There are times now, not too often, but this week is one of them for me, that I just cut my phone off for weeks at a time because I don't want to be bothered.
The funny thing is, that life is setup for us to have our cake AND eat it to.
It has been said many times before on this board, but I guess it has fallen upon deaf ears.
Get hobbies. Make goals. Hit the gym. not to impress women, but so that you can become the person you truely see yourself as. When you dream about going out to the mall and having women fight over you, or going to the club and taking home the best looking women there, i am sure you are not fat and out of shape... That's what made me really hit the gym hard, not women, but because I saw myself in my mind as being cut, and I wasnt'... wasn't bad looking or anything, but I wasn't who I saw myself as, and that's the most important thing.
Learn new stuff. Learn history. Learn to play a musical insterment. Have a project you are working on.
The average guy, from what I see on a daily basis, drags himself out of bed, goes to work, heads straight home from work, watches TV, usually music videos, MTV or sports, usually talks to a girl sometime durning the day, rather it is someone he is dating or a girl he likes, that' snot the point, and then goes to bed.
But this same guy on the weekend and tries to pump himself up as a ladies man, gets clean, or so he thinks, goes to the club, gets drunk, goes home and feels miserable in the morning.
This guy wonders why women don't like him, don't approach him, why it's so hard for him to approach women.
The answer is easy. You put toooo much value into something that doesn't deserve it.
There about 3 Billion or so women on earth... There isn't a going otu of business sale on them... more of them are popping up every day. People are still ****ing... don't beileve me? go to the hospital and go to the delivery ward.
On the same flip, there are about 3 Billion MEN on earth. Women aren't going to like you because you want them to. It's the same reason why people don't save up their money or get rich to buy a Toyota Camary, there is nothing special about it and it can be had at any time.
Take a break from women. Throw yourself in your work. Do Something. Take a break from this site.
Anytime you have any trouble approaching a women, it is because you have insecurities about yourself, and the only reason they are insecurities is because you need the validation from a women because your life has no validiation for you. In other words, the average guy that I was tlaking about earlier, in his eyes atleast has nothing else in life to look forward to but "getting a girlfriend" so to him a rejection is harder then it is to someone who has alot going on in his life. this is something that a "bootcamp" will fix... yes it will make the process of talking to women easier, but it shouldn't be a process.. YOu see a pretty women, you introduce yourself, you ask for her number. It's really that simple.
Make no mistake, women aren't BAD, in fact some of the best times I have had are with women... but I have had great times with friends, I enjoy doing physical activities, I love going to Colllege Football games, I like reading up on history, etc.
I have recently started to expand my social circle from other than my two best friends. One thing I noticed is how much guys tend to talk about how many women they get, how often they have sex, etc... I never noticed this before because me and my two best friends didn't have to talk about it... If we wanted some we we would go get some. If you ask me, all of these guys that do stuff like that are insecure and feel like they have to validate themselves to their friends. My best friends don't talk to me about girls they meet, they introduce them to me when they bring them over my place to chill. Even then it's not a big deal, because none of us really care about women to the extent that it's all we have to talk about.
IN conclusion, stop putting so much thought into how to get women. it's an easy answer... YOu just go and get them. Start putting some of that saved up entergy into expanding your interests and finding things that make you happy.
