Why do my friends need to brag!

[mahon83050]

I do not go out to the bars anymore, basically due to the fact I can't drink (Personal reasons) Friend A I have known my whole life, but he is not at all a good friend and can be a condescending prick. Friend B is a decent guy, but he always seems to always rant and rave how he and Friend A always meet these chicks at the Bars. Both have more experience than me, I seem to have an inferiority complex around them (when it comes to women)

Friend A I do not really trust....and I could see him trying to embarass me in front of a chick if I was with them. He will also try and rub it in how they met these chicks and I should of came.

I only like hanging out with these two guys on certain occassions, and avoid hanging out with them when they are together.


I only have about 3 other friends I hang out with besides those two. Part of me, want to just leave Jersey and get away from all of these people.

Back to the main point, why do these kids seem like they have to brag.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Cause thats how dudes are...When I talk with other dudes, we talk about sh1t that went down with girls...Like girls we talked to, girls we smashed, etc...Thats men sh1t right there...Thats all we talk about...I dont see what the problem is...Maybe its cause you dont have anything to contribute to the convo?

 

[Unbridled_1]

Mahon, you're 28, yet that post sounded like it was from a 12 year-old. People brag for many reasons, including their own insecurity, their need for vanity, their immaturity, and countless other reasons. Why do you care? Move out of Jersey (and away from your parents) already, get a place in NY City or Philly. You're not getting any younger. Start worrying about yourself, not why Person A,B, or C brags, drinks, smokes, gambles....

 

[mahon83050]

For the record...I am 27

 

[MrCode]

Bragging is a sign of insecurity, especially when done in the way you describe. Keep that in mind when these guys talk to you, and just smile and laugh and know that the biggest enjoyment they get is when it bothers you.

Go meet some women in places other than bars, but keep quiet about it. One day when these fools see you walking with a hottie on your arm, they will shut up. Actions speak louder than words.

 

[LucidDreamer]

i agree i think it's a sign of insecurity or low self esteem. i've a friend who defniintely has these issues and calls ME everytime he hooks up or even gets a friendly look from a girl.

 

[Recluce]

well first you need to make sure that your problem isn't jealousy. if you are jealous of them then you need to just sit them down and ask them to teach you how to get girls. be honest, humble and dont beat around the bush. its ok to tell them that you aren't good at picking up women. most guys actually won't mind helping a guy get on track.

if you really are just sick of it and don't care, just tell them. be honest and say that you really dont care about all the girls they can pick up.

just be honest about it and you can't go wrong

 

[DJ_Dork]

Bragging a sign of Insecurity? Wait a minute.

It depends on the context of the discussion. If someone just blurts out of the blue and the subject of the brag isn't part of the topic then yeah it is a sign of insecurity.

 

[Aresx]

tell Friend A

"I keep hearing how good you are with women. If you're really that god, would you mind taching me few things?"

if hemakes fun of you, just say "I guess the rumors were wrong, oh well."

A had a freind who was condescending to me in a plyaful way , and it kept increasing, but you can't just sit there and play the ROLE of the guy who gets picked on. Once I matched his level he backed off. He does it once in a while, but I immediately come back with a worse insult.

EXAMPLE 1: What you probably do already, and what causes the behavior to repeat
Friend A: "What's up retard?"
You: "Nothing, man." (smirks)
Friend A: "OMG You're so fukkin stupid"
You: (Gives him a 'look'.)

EXAMPLE 2: Matching or exceeding his level of confrontation
Friend A: "What's up retard?"
You: (LOUDER than hm) "Hey faggot" or "Hey bytch-ass"
Friend A: ""OMG, You're so fukkin stupid"
You: (laughing) "Look who's fukkin talking, dyckhead"

Usually after this, they stop. If he doesn't, get in his face really loudly and say "Why don't you Shut the fukk up?"

If he doesn't back down
A. Walk away
B. Kick his a$$

If he backs down, wait a few months before you ask him for help w/ women. He'll either show you or not - this depends on whether its true or not.

Also, ask Friend B "Dude, how come you're always talking like that about Friend A? I'm sure he gets women, but you sind like you like him or something... chill with the fan club, man"

 

[Doc73]

My friends used to play this game all the time. They would talk their **** and go on how they just magically ended up in bed with this hot chick, and then ask me or suggest that I need to get laid. Finally what I did is that I called them up on it. Next time they started bragging I said to the extent of "Ok, now I know you are talking crap because a real man wouldnt have to brag to hide his insecurities". Boy did that shut them up quick, and they never again tried to pull that stunt with me.

On a similar note, one of my friends is well known for his coky attitude. When we were younger he would always burn me, most of the time in front of friends. I eventually started learning his game, and, although not that often, have responded with good enough comebacks that has more than one occasion shut him up (a difficult feat, i assure you)

 

[Player_Supreme]

Why do my friends need to brag!

Because it's what men do, and have done since the beginning of time.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Boys will be boys.You could be the nicest guy or the biggest ******* ...they kids are gonna mess with you.

Now being a "Player" is gonna make you a target for hate and jealousy but if you don't act like your just one of the guys your life is gonna be made into a living hell.

You need your boys.I don't even see the point in bringing this issue up to them let alone get confrontational about it.

The biggest lessons I ever learned :You need backup and your in the same boat as every other guy.

 

[Dirtheart]

I usually find guys who brag the most have the least to brag about, whereas the guys who really have it going for them just let their presence, their actions and their quiet confidence speak for themselves.