Why do I feel so miserable when I don't have a girlfriend? I mean in my life everything seems to be fine, I go to college, have friends, good family, and pretty much everything is satisfactory. However there is always one thing that brings me down everyday, I feel sad and depressed because a simple problem of not having a girlfriend. What's with the women that have a power over us??
Why do I feel so miserable..
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I used to feel the same way.
Then I realized that the empty void was lack of close friends, not lack of females. But that's just me.
You're making females too important, you're determining your mood based on whether or not you're in a relationship, and that's self-destructive dude.
Then I realized that the empty void was lack of close friends, not lack of females. But that's just me.
You're making females too important, you're determining your mood based on whether or not you're in a relationship, and that's self-destructive dude.
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Why do I feel so miserable..
It is because you are not happy with your self - that is why you need another constantly - to affirm your self-worth.
It is because you are not happy with your self - that is why you need another constantly - to affirm your self-worth.
Everyone's going to have problems in life, or a feeling of emptiness somewhere.
Psycho's right, be happy with yourself first. You're devaluing your own worth and compromising your state of well-being by the mere thought of being single.
If you want a girl, go and get one, but make sure you get your overall game together to 'keep' her interested.
Psycho's right, be happy with yourself first. You're devaluing your own worth and compromising your state of well-being by the mere thought of being single.
If you want a girl, go and get one, but make sure you get your overall game together to 'keep' her interested.
Vice said:
Well said vice. I felt the same way in the past when i didnt have a guy in my life, cause my life seemed to evlove around being in a relationship, it doesnt bother me so much now. Being in a relationship isnt of that great an importance anymore, and if you can change your way of thinking, you may well be happier for it.
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+1 rep point.Vice said:
Vice hit it dead on. You're too focused on making women your source of happiness rather than yourself/your life. Whenever you make additions to your life your source of happiness instead of your life itself,you'll fall into some type of despair.
You need to fix this dude. You need to straighten it out. If you don't get this thing in check,it'll permeate into other areas of your life and cause problems there as well.
You say you feel miserable. Well,if you think you feel miserable now,just wait until you actually get a woman. That's not a joke either. I don't care how bad you feel right now,if you go into a relationship with this mindset you currently have,you'll look at now as the "good old days". You're going to be in for a pain and misery that far exceeds anything you're currently experiencing. A woman will "sense" that you're making her your source of happiness not as an aid to your life,but your life itself,then she'll start to walk all over and mistreat you. She'll sense that you don't think you can get anybody else,then she'll take you for granted.
You've been here 2 months,so you should kind of have a sense about what's taught here on the forum. This solution is simple.
Stop looking outside of yourself for happiness.
You have mot learned how to just be with yourself and love yourself. Until you do that you will be miserable and the girls you date will also disrespect you for not loving yourself, and not being cofortable to be on your own. Once you become happy with yourself and being alone you will stay away from unfulfilling relationships and actullly miss being alone when you are in one. Unless the girl is everything you want. Personally, i dont give relationships w/girls i dont want to be w/a second look. I rather be alone and happier that way.HungLo said:
Start focusing on you, if you dont love yourself no women will make you happy.