Why do I continue to torture myself?

[The North Dragon]

Broke up from LTR with ex 2 years ago but continued to share custody of a dog. Didn’t have it in me to give up on him after having him for 4 years.

Fast forward 1 year later I’m with my new partner and have been for 9 months. She knew I shared custody but slowly over time she become b1tchy about it. Hates it I have to see my ex to exchange him. I brushed it under the carpet a few times - told her it was her insecurity. Tried to help as much as I could but went on for months. Wanted me to stop seeing my ex and take the dog elsewhere to meet so I never had to see my ex, asked me to delete my Ex’s friends from social media, constantly whinging why I never post anything on social media about our relationship. Called me narcissist, controlling etc. I choose not to engage in arguments with her I tried to keep calm and when she got bitchy walked away or told her to get out my house.

she came back and said it would change but it’s a stage now she thinks I still want things with my ex because I won’t stop sharing the dog despite both my ex and I in new relationships.

her insecurity is driving my nuts yet I can’t bring myself to leave? What the hell is wrong with me.

 

[LucianoM]

it's just a dog. Let her keep it.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is some weird stuff bro. It's a fvcking dog. If you want it that bad, buy her out of it or buy her a new one.

As far as why are you torturing yourself? I have no idea...this is bizarre to me, I would never share an animal with an ex. It's not a kid as much as you might want it to be.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I choose not to engage in arguments with her I tried to keep calm and when she got bitchy walked away or told her to get out my house.

"get out of my house" is good. Keep doing that

it's just a dog. Let her keep it.

Understand your point of view but my dog is coming with me, she can kick rocks.

 

[Robert28]

Let this be a lesson to all men on here. Don’t buy a house with a woman you aren’t married to, and don’t buy a dog with a woman you aren’t married to.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Judging that we are talking about a fvcking dog, I honestly think you are either not over your ex or you realized that you downgraded from her and it is taking its toll on you. I think you should end this relationship and start looking for an upgrade from your ex.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Imagine thinking a dog is a child, peak masculinity.

My dog is my boy. I have two children, he is my third. **** with him and you will find out.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, if it wasn't the dog, do you get the sense it would be something else her insecurity would cause her to give you sh1t about?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I'm not a dog person, but I can see why you would get attached. There's an unconditional loyalty you don't often see in humans.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Don’t buy a house with a woman you aren’t married to, and don’t buy a dog with a woman you aren’t married to.

I've done both of these and lost the house and the dog.

 

[ManFromTartarus]

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm not a dog person, but I can see why you would get attached. There's an unconditional loyalty you don't often see in humans.

Yes, it's called they want to protect their meal train.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Yes, it's called they want to protect their meal train.

or they're just loyal.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Yes, it's called they want to protect their meal train.

I've never owned a dog, but as a former cat owner I can definitely confirm this.

 

[The Duke]

Broke up from LTR with ex 2 years ago but continued to share custody of a dog. Didn’t have it in me to give up on him after having him for 4 years.

Fast forward 1 year later I’m with my new partner and have been for 9 months. She knew I shared custody but slowly over time she become b1tchy about it. Hates it I have to see my ex to exchange him. I brushed it under the carpet a few times - told her it was her insecurity. Tried to help as much as I could but went on for months. Wanted me to stop seeing my ex and take the dog elsewhere to meet so I never had to see my ex, asked me to delete my Ex’s friends from social media, constantly whinging why I never post anything on social media about our relationship. Called me narcissist, controlling etc. I choose not to engage in arguments with her I tried to keep calm and when she got bitchy walked away or told her to get out my house.

she came back and said it would change but it’s a stage now she thinks I still want things with my ex because I won’t stop sharing the dog despite both my ex and I in new relationships.

her insecurity is driving my nuts yet I can’t bring myself to leave? What the hell is wrong with me.

This girl will never change no matter what you do, there will always be something else she feels insecure about. Just rip the band-aid off. It will sting for a while but the sun will come up tomorrow and it will get better.

Fuhk her if she doesn't like your dog. So selfish. Don't ever give up on your dog. They are the only thing that will ever love you unconditionally. I've never had a human match the loyalty and friendship I had with my dog.

Non animal people will never relate and that's ok.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I've never owned a dog, but as a former cat owner I can definitely confirm this.

completely different but, damn. Lot's of dots being connected in this thread..

 

[devilkingx2]

Broke up from LTR with ex 2 years ago but continued to share custody of a dog. Didn’t have it in me to give up on him after having him for 4 years.

Fast forward 1 year later I’m with my new partner and have been for 9 months. She knew I shared custody but slowly over time she become b1tchy about it. Hates it I have to see my ex to exchange him. I brushed it under the carpet a few times - told her it was her insecurity. Tried to help as much as I could but went on for months. Wanted me to stop seeing my ex and take the dog elsewhere to meet so I never had to see my ex, asked me to delete my Ex’s friends from social media, constantly whinging why I never post anything on social media about our relationship. Called me narcissist, controlling etc. I choose not to engage in arguments with her I tried to keep calm and when she got bitchy walked away or told her to get out my house.

she came back and said it would change but it’s a stage now she thinks I still want things with my ex because I won’t stop sharing the dog despite both my ex and I in new relationships.

her insecurity is driving my nuts yet I can’t bring myself to leave? What the hell is wrong with me.

I don't agree with the people saying you shouldn't care about your dog. I thought this was a redpill forum, now we're giving up things we care about to please women?



Your new girlfriend sounds borderline abusive OP. They say that a sign women should look out for in abusive men is attempting to isolate them and cut them off. Sort of like trying to make you get rid of your dog, your friends, girls you know, etc.



The only thing I think you did wrong was not post your relationship on social media. That makes it too obvious that you're not into your girlfriend or that you have other girlfriends.

 

[Stanley]

Buy her off for the dog or leave it be

 

[BackInTheGame78]

or they're just loyal.

Or they just view you as the leader of the pack and it's engrained behavior

 

[Robert28]

I've done both of these and lost the house and the dog.

Years ago a girl I’d been dating tried to talk me into signing a lease with her on an apartment. I hoped on out of that one lol