why do girls want attention?

[_sideways_]

If i had a daughter she would of course be beautiful cuz check out her dad. Hes a dilf...
But i would teach her to be a smart, humorous lady.

Im sure most parents wished that as well...but it didnt stick. They would much rather instagram, yadda yadda....just attention all the time.

Why? Cuz im not impressed by these girls anymore.

 

[skinnyguy]

What I've always wondered about is why girls value attention from betas.

I understand why they would want attention from an alpha- but how do beta orbiters make them feel good exactly?

 

[GS750]

All women love male attention. It's validation. But cutting off a chick that is just using you for attention/validation feels good. I've had to do it a few times when a girl has basically friend-zoned me. Let her find someone else to leech attention off of to validate her existence

 

[Suspens]

I understand why they would want attention from an alpha- but how do beta orbiters make them feel good exactly?

It's like asking why do humans need both food and water to survive.


The attention from betas just validates the fact that they are female, that they have some sort of power, they do need this basic level of attention. And attention from alphas make them think they are an attractive female.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

What I've always wondered about is why girls value attention from betas.

I understand why they would want attention from an alpha- but how do beta orbiters make them feel good exactly?

Makes them feel like a star. This is why they have orbiters. Plus orbitters will do things for them. So these people like to feel they have a team working for them.

Hey remember not all women need the strongest alpha. Women need men with a mix of Alpha and Beta qualities, and there are different types of women.

Of course sosuave.net came about for men who probably have too much Beta, and not understanding the game, so they do need over kill on the Alpha side to make up for the past...

 

[RangerMIke]

Woman need validation from men. They also need sex from men.

They will except validation from any male: they will only fvck men they think are worthy of their pvssy.

It is two separate needs. This is why a woman can get validation from her sweet beta orbiter, while fvcking the bad boy. There is no inconsistency in the female mind.

 

[Poonani Maker]

All women love male attention. It's validation. But cutting off a chick that is just using you for attention/validation feels good. I've had to do it a few times when a girl has basically friend-zoned me. Let her find someone else to leech attention off of to validate her existence

I usually nip it in the bud before then, but yes, "Let her find someone else to leech attention off of to validate her existence." Most girls will know that I will NOT go there. And they'll either care or not care, but the point is, I don't care, because if she doesn't care, then I know that I was right not to care.

Because the weather was exquisite, I saw girls jumping in a jeep, leaving from their house in short Short shorts today. They will go n' "shop" (not really buying anything cause they ain't well-to-do obviously), no, just walk around town to get the several dudes to gawk, hit on, game, smoke, try to strike up a convo, try to tag along (either on skateboard, or just walking beside them). It WILL happen 4-5 times of the 1-2 hours that they are out there walking around in their short shorts. It's just another potential Notch too, to have a (unsuspecting) dude Do things for them (car work, house work, possible lucky boy toy, buy them things, run errands, and on and on). So 2 girls walking around like hookers on the sidewalk (at an outside mall, or downtown), even though they are much more innocent than that and are just "having fun" in their minds on a most-ideal (perfect breeze) weathered day.

They don't have to Do anything. Now, an alpha male, they'll fight and cat-claw each other for. This is usually at a social event. It won't be just some random stranger dude out walking about. She'll get the "drop" on the alpha from word-of-mouth that he's "some body." But even HE will have problems if he ever gets hooked up with her (as in marriage). If she gets sick, he has to take care of her. She'll make demands (cars, houses, shoes, jewelry). Her anatomy may not be as petite or taught as youthful as she appears on her exterior (clothed). Of course, he could nip that in the bud before marriage and get rid of her based on that Alone (if he's fvcked her JUST ONCE, he'll know). Quite a few women do. not. know. that they are not really desirable AFTER SEX (after the man has laid with her). It only takes ONE TIME, for me, at least. I can't just have Any body-typed woman, but they actually Think that all us males just want ANY vagina/t!ts/female body. I know what I like and only maybe 20% fall into that category (thin, almost my height, taught pvssy/t!tties/as5). I also would want my wife/daughter to have Critical thinking skills. She should be able to Build something, or fix her car, just DO something useful, knitting, cooking is a plus.

 

[Serenity]

Uhm, because it svcks being lonely. In a world where so many people don't give a sh!t about other people you gotta make yourself noticed. Women like getting attention just as much as men do, except if you are an anti-social freak. Also validation, doesn't help to believe you're the sh!t when all evidence is to the contrary. In other words neither a man or a woman can know if they are pretty, sexy or cute before it's validated by someone else.

Doesn't really matter who. As a child it's the parents job, later friends take a good part in it and primarily a girlfriend or boyfriend. You can do fine without, but it won't be as good.

Attention wh0res is another breed however, the main issue being balance. You can give them all the attention in the world and they won't give back. It's like buying something and not getting what you paid for.

To really answer the question you don't have to look further than yourself and people on this forum. What are we doing? Trying to figure out all ways of getting a womans attention to the level of attraction. We make a common mistake though, especially if we are AFC. That is to give too much attention, it's a problem considering we also need space and time alone. Giving too much attention puts on too much pressure, giving too little doesn't put on enough pressure.

We're social creatures, we're designed to stick together as that is how we survive.

 

[Infern0]

Girls enjoy attention it's just that way.

The key is to not be one of those beta guys who you see ALL THE TIME. Who give out undeserved praise and attention thinking this is the way to get what they want.

Girls like praise and attention but they like it even more if they have actually earned it.

Any hot girls Instagram will have a few guys that Post on every picture "your so hot" etc. This is beta orbiters.

If you are alpha, girls orbit you, not the other way around

 

[sharkbeat]

Not all women want unsolicited attention, but if you are the boyfriend, then your girlfriend will want your attention. This is their way of knowing if you are still with them.

 

[SeymourCake]

Because girls are children.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

My problem is why do they want excessive attention from so many sources? And when they get addicted to it, they'd do anything to get it.

If your only trying to get in the pants there is a way to play these.

 

[_sideways_]

^ true that. I guess magazinez are too blame by always putting a sexy girl on everything we see. Still, when my ex who was a 5 thought she could treat me like she was bar rafaeli that blew my mind.

I think all that attention even from betas hyptotizes them into another world. I popped her bubble real good though. Youre welcome guyz.

 

[Serenity]

The type that craves excessive amounts of attention is a type to stay far far far away from. I've met a few of those and without exception they have huge underlying problems and sh!t coping tactics. Low self-esteem and narcissism is symptoms and not causes. The cause is usually abuse (any kind), trauma that remains suppressed and in general very bad life experiences. The more extreme trauma, the more extreme their craving for attention is. For example cutting is a very extreme way of trying to get it. Sad thing is they don't understand that all they do to desperately get attention takes them further from what they want. All they attract are weak guys and true a55holes. The more extreme trauma, the more at the extreme ends of the nice and jerk spectrum she'll attract guys.

Back when I was a weak guy I talked to and wanted to date a truly messed up girl, I met her online but never actually in person. I was on my way up having just about that time found red pill material, thank god for that. I became skeptical and started analyzing her facebook page. She had a sh!t ton of orbiters. I also found a link to her blog, what I read there scared the sh!t out of me. She'd been cutting, but that's not the worst. Her mother was convicted of murdering her father in law, because he had sexually abused her daughters. I looked in the news archives and found that it had been in the national fvcking news, I remembered that case. So no wonder she was fvcked up.

 

[Mike32ct]

Low self esteem, narcissism, and/or both

^^True and concise.

 

[jurry]

Men desire, women want to be desired. Not rocket science.

 

[Heisenburger]

I was on a date with a girl from tinder last night (one who flaked on me at the first time of asking) and we got on the subject of online dating etc. she brought it up.

She said she goes on tinder mostly for boredom and when she feels sad. It give's her that attention fix. She said most of the guys are creepy and will send her pics of their c()cks etc without any kind of convo. She's been on there for 6 months and has no intention of meeting most of them. She told me she was gonna cancel our date at the last minute as she was wary and thought I might be a weirdo. I turned the tables by telling that I'm not gonna meet her if she's a weirdo. (Nice shlt test from her)

Kinda respected her for her honesty.

But hey, gotta take a girl and her blah blah blah with a pinch of salt of course!

Kiss closed her.

But to answer your question why they want attention. To feel important I guess. Kinda what most of us want.

 

[om1xr]

Don't kid yourselves, every human want and seek attention and validation not just women. Why do you think you guys get all anxious and confused when a girl flake, don't text back, reject your invitation..etc. It's simply because your ego didn't get any attention or validation from her.

Every person seek attention and validation energy from others and the more others are perceived as high value the more the ego satisfaction is high as well because self-importance at that moment is getting inflated because the ego is recognized from a high value person. Think of how you feel if a hot girl with the most beautiful face approached you and invited you to go to some place together, you will feel like Arnold after a massive workout.

Girls want to be desired. Think of a flower, if nobody look at her then it has no value at all or importance and it get p!ssed on by homeless dogs lol.

Guys desire recognition from their peers, society and beautiful women or women in general. Period.

I won't deny that there are some people who will be happy no matter if they are alone, recognized, get attention or not...etc. But those guys are either zen masters, sufi masters or enlightened and don't attach themselves to anything and nobody.

Ego attachments and identifications is what make you get the latest social app and join whatever the society and peers are spending time on. But people who are no longer identified themselves or attaching themselves or their happiness and joy is depending on external things like material matters or the validation of others are the only ones who can live and be happy without the need for other people attention and validation.

You guys keep complaining about Facebook, instagram, tinder and whatever is a thing these days but you forget that you too are using these services and you too are giving attention to girls and keep inflating their egos and self images with every add, like and comment.

It's like complaining about why every girl is drinking coffee while sitting at starbucks drinking your sh!tty morning coffee lol.

 

[Turuwal]

why do girls want attention?

We have a limited amount of energy that we can spend on various things. The amount of attention that a guy gives a girl is a close proxy for the amount of energy he can spend helping her with the physical things that she needs. The more energy a girl can get from guys around her, the more of her own energy she can focus on the main game, which is having babies.

This breaks down somewhat in today's highly connected consumer society society and is more relevant to days gone by when the limiting factor to how many children a woman could have was the amount of energy she could get from the men in her immediate proximity.

Source: Various women I have known have said words to the effect that having babies is pretty much their only reason for existing.