Why do bad things happen to good people?

[SamTheHobit]

My whole life has been a complete fvck up. I won't go into detail.

But as the question states, Why do bad things happen to good people?

 

[No.Danny]

Because life never said it would be fair.
Bad things happen, they just do in general

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Are you absolutely certain in the existence of "good" and "bad/evil"?

 

[Darth]

Because some good people are not as good as they could be.

Source: Personal experience and 3 years of suffering.

 

[guru1000]

If you give me an example of what you consider a "bad" thing to be, then I will do my best to explain why "bad" things happen to "good" people.

 

[:-)]

My whole life has been a complete fvck up. I won't go into detail.

But as the question states, Why do bad things happen to good people?

Lol.. You are 21. Your life has not even started. Take it from me. I'm 41.

'Things' happen to determine whether a person is 'good' or 'bad'.

Obstacles is what makes a man. And good television. Rise above them to see what you're really made of. Quit at each obstacle and you'll be the pathetic whiny b1tch you never want to be. Make your choice.

 

[mangotot]

Usually what society and people in general tell you that is 'bad' is actually 'good'. For sure some things society tell you is good like for example don't do drugs. But things like be kind and decent to others and stuff like that is nonsense. They are telling you that because it of benefit to them and not necessarily yourself. So be careful how you interpret good and bad.

 

[Tictac]

The sooner that you realize that the universe is indifferent to you and that life has no more meaning than you put into it and give it, the better off you'll be.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Classic victim mentality.

One of life's important lessons is focus ONLY on what you can control...

You can't control what happens to you but you CAN control how you RESPOND to what happens to you...

Accept this and you realize there's is no such thing as a negative experience...but just interpretations.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

In order to truly enjoy the highest of highs, you need to experience the lowest of lows to realize how far you've come.

 

[Poon King]

Why not?

Do you think being a good person entitles you to something? The reality is.. it doesn't. The world is a jungle not that far removed from how animals live. Being good is nice.. but it won't save you from anything.

In the end.. adversity is a good thing. It makes you stronger and grittier. Most people who never experience adversity grow up to be bratty little twhats who cry when someone scratches their cars paint job or messes up their food order at P.F. Changs. :crackup:

 

[mangotot]

In the end.. adversity is a good thing. It makes you stronger and grittier. Most people who never experience adversity grow up to be bratty little twhats who cry when someone scratches their cars paint job or messes up their food order at P.F. Changs. :crackup:

Sadly have to disagree. Adversity might be good if you can turn the situation around. If the situation is pretty dire (for you) and you can't turn it around, you are screwed. And while you are spending time turning adversity around, the person without the adversity is getting ahead (not that it mattes what anyone else is doing). If you didn't have the adversity you could have been highly productive in that time. Everyone is different and operate differently but life without 'problems' is by far the best option.

What adversity have you turned around or is all this hyperthetical?

 

[mangotot]

Classic victim mentality.

One of life's important lessons is focus ONLY on what you can control...

You can't control what happens to you but you CAN control how you RESPOND to what happens to you...

Accept this and you realize there's is no such thing as a negative experience...but just interpretations.

Nice post. Say people are trying to knock you down, how do you respond?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Nice post. Say people are trying to knock you down, how do you respond?

Only be concerned if they are within reach. If they are, what does that tell you?

 

[Mike32ct]

Be a good person because it's the right thing to do, not because you expect anything from it. The reality is that you probably WON'T be rewarded for being a good person in this life. (Maybe in the thereafter, but definitely not here and now.)

But I don't think good versus bad is really your problem Sam. Similarly, I cringe when guys claim they are failing with women because they are "too nice." It's not so much about that. In life, it's more about being effective and doing what works. You can be a good person and still make good decisions that get you results.

You need a solid game plan. Having good intentions is not enough. Pick one area of life that is troubling you, and brainstorm some things that you could do in order to IMPROVE in that area. Come up with a plan, and put it into action.

You are still young. I know you could turn things around.

Yes, life isn't fair, and often evil people do seem to be rewarded more in this life . But you can't worry about that. You're you. Focus on things you DO control and work to improve. Good luck man.

 

[BrainDamage92]

1. Realise the areas where your parents ****ed up when raising you.

2. Realise they are assshats like all other people and like yourself and have done bad stuff same as everyone. See them the way a grown up sees another grown up. But keep your love for them.

3. Learn to say no to them.

4. Start to grow up. Set a goal and achieve it. If nothing happens in your life, then nothing good happens, then what happens must be bad doesnt it? Nothing is not bad. Nothing is nothing.

5. Understand that all people are ****ing animals and dont expect anything from anybody, let alone anything good. All the people are retarded asshats, including you, and no, youre not a good person, youre an animal, same as everyone, you operate on egoism and egoism alone. Accept it. How did you decide youre good? You were helping people who didnt need and ask for your help, then became all sad when they weren't grateful? This is pure narcissism, I was like this, and I fuked up so many people including myself. This is the primest asshollery known to man kind.

6. Profit?

 

[om1xr]

What's good?
What's bad?
How can we define the good and the bad?
Is good separate from the bad? Or are they the same thing; just different perceptions?
Are white better? Or black is better? Or are white and black the same thing?

There are a lot of questions that you should ask yourself before you define what's bad and what's good.

Are we really that civilized or are we just animals that still live by the jungle laws and all these societal rules/laws/lifestyles/stereotypes are just different perceptions of someone and we follow them we don't like where we are heading to.

Should we even follow the rules that were set up by others? Should we value what others value? Even lao tzu laugh about the thoughts of living a life following others, valuing what others value and do as others do lol.

Now about your question: From my own perspective I believe I attract who I am. Just think when you are enjoying your time you are not noticing negative and sad people or things but you are attracting the fun, people who are enjoying themselves and even listen to ecstatic music.

It's just a matter of who you are (thoughts, beliefs, ideologies...etc) and what your perceptions are about all different things and every area of your life.

World is just a mirror most of the time.

It all comes to change your thoughts and your world will change and most importantly be a free thinker. Sheeple are everywhere. Be unique

 

[The Duke]

Self Control, Smart Decisions, Self Awareness, Respect for yourself and others, Persistence, Self Discipline...........a lack of these things can have a lot to do with why bad things happen to "good" people. What are you doing differently than those who seem to be having more good fortune?

 

[Poon King]

Sadly have to disagree. Adversity might be good if you can turn the situation around. If the situation is pretty dire (for you) and you can't turn it around, you are screwed. And while you are spending time turning adversity around, the person without the adversity is getting ahead (not that it mattes what anyone else is doing). If you didn't have the adversity you could have been highly productive in that time. Everyone is different and operate differently but life without 'problems' is by far the best option.

What adversity have you turned around or is all this hyperthetical?

There is truth in that. If the problem is so bad that you can't recover... then its obviously a loss. But adversity can also build mental and emotional strength. People who have easy lives generally can't handle stress well. Which means in situations where the sh!t really hits the fan.. these people fall apart completely.. while the person who has been through some sh!t might handle the situation a little better.

An easy life is great as long as it stays that way. But that's rare. At some point in everyone's life they will deal with something. I say its good to go through some sh!t when you're younger.. provided it doesn't break you down and turn you into a drug addict, weirdo or hobo. But I guess that's nature's way of weeding out the weaklings.

 

[VikingKing]

1. Life isn't fair
2. No one, and I mean no one cares that you have problems, especially if you are a male.

You'll learn to sink or swim. Lifes tough and as a man you need to learn to be rough. As a Man no one will take care of you except for you. You don't get special security nets and protections that women are provided by the state and society.

The question is, if you have decided to swim, is how much is it going to take before you become raw enough to stop letting things that don't truly matter prevent you from getting up after you get knocked down.

Their is a reason why in the united states in 2011 that the rate of suicides was 79% males. Its because life is harder as a man.

Trust me it gets better if you have adjust your perception. Big part of it is accepting that some things are out of you're control and influence. Give zero fvcks about most things (especially women and what they think and especially their welfare, feelings, desires ect.)

Its not quick or easy. But just keep grinding. You're not a woman, things won't get handed to you.