"Why are you being such an ******* to me"?

[Caldus]

It looks like the ******* approach has its unique challenges. I had a conversation with this hot blonde chick I've been making out with, etc. for a month or so now. She keeps complaining that I'm being an ******* to her and asks what my intentions are with her. I deflected with a distraction. But she keeps asking me over and over this question now. She keeps doing this **** where she says goodbye never talking to you again, don't call me, don't text me, and then a few days later she talks to me again like it never happened. How do the other Don Juans in here deal with this particular situation? She has done this one other time before and she started talking to me again like it never happened before. Came over, cuddled, and got a *******. How do you handle these types of situations?

 

[ArcBound]

It looks like the ******* approach has its unique challenges. I had a conversation with this hot blonde chick I've been making out with, etc. for a month or so now. She keeps complaining that I'm being an ******* to her and asks what my intentions are with her. I deflected with a distraction. But she keeps asking me over and over this question now. She keeps doing this **** where she says goodbye never talking to you again, don't call me, don't text me, and then a few days later she talks to me again like it never happened. How do the other Don Juans in here deal with this particular situation? She has done this one other time before and she started talking to me again like it never happened before. Came over, cuddled, and got a *******. How do you handle these types of situations?

Dude... whatever you're doing you're doing it right. Listen to her actions not words. She says your an asshvle and a dvck but keeps coming back to you?

 

[LoneWolf]

i can't help but laugh when i hear about guys who deal with dumb girls like this. why would anyone want to hang out with immature girls like her? gahh, i hate it. just find a normal girl man.

 

[teddy240]

She is trying to get a reaction, for you to give up your power. When and i hope you never do, give up power, youll notice that her, and the sex, will go bye bye.

 

[ArcBound]

i can't help but laugh when i hear about guys who deal with dumb girls like this. why would anyone want to hang out with immature girls like her? gahh, i hate it. just find a normal girl man.

Like a 3X year old virgin who works as a scientist or something and plays Playstation Network during her spare time, mails random guys free sh!t and offers to fly them out to another continent/country? I suppose not everyone is lucky as you to find this "normal girl".

If you have a sister like I do, you know you can tease them about sh!t and they call you mean or an ass but they still love you. With most guys out there being a combination of don't step on your toes nice and dead boring, being called "mean" or an "asshvle" is actually a compliment. Most guys then at this point would STILL be afraid of stepping on her toes and fail the sh!t test by reversing what they were doing so they don't appear "mean". Then like magic the girl disappears. Instead OP got a ******* and potential much more. I'd say success.

 

[Badmannaz]

whenever a girl thinks your an as.shole your doing perfect...its her way of saying she likes you...push and pull...and it also lets you know who has control right now....what would you rather be

a d!ck or her FRIIIIEEEEEEEEENNNNDDD??

yea Exactly...f#ck that Friend Sh#t.....

 

[f283000]

whenever a girl thinks your an as.shole your doing perfect...its her way of saying she likes you...push and pull...and it also lets you know who has control right now....what would you rather be

a d!ck or her FRIIIIEEEEEEEEENNNNDDD??

yea Exactly...f#ck that Friend Sh#t.....

Exactly.

It's when guys start getting scared that they lose.

When she tell's you that you're a jerk and you actually believe it offends her (even though her actions tell a different story) and you start acting like your nice guy self again then that's when she got you to give up the power and you can kiss her goodbye.

Women will test you to see if you will crumble but if you keep it up long enough you got them.

 

[PDubb75]

I think part of the OP's question, and mine as well is, how do you respond when she does say it? Obviously, your actions should stay how they have been, as it is working. But, what response do you give? You can only deflect it a certain amount of times.

It happened to me fairly recently and I wasn't sure how to respond. So I kinda laughed and changed the subject. But you can't do that if she repeatedly asks.

 

[crazyboy]

What she is doing is the push and pull. she gives you attention then pulls away to see what you do. Basically you got her where you want her guessing don't give in. She wants to know what you want so she can push you in one her slots. But atm you still getting bj and punai. So what you doing is right. All you have to say is What you mean im being mean im just being myself. If she says some bull like you can be your nice self then you can say why i would waste my time being fake. there you go.

 

[Sabol]

It looks like the ******* approach has its unique challenges. I had a conversation with this hot blonde chick I've been making out with, etc. for a month or so now. She keeps complaining that I'm being an ******* to her and asks what my intentions are with her. I deflected with a distraction. But she keeps asking me over and over this question now. She keeps doing this **** where she says goodbye never talking to you again, don't call me, don't text me, and then a few days later she talks to me again like it never happened. How do the other Don Juans in here deal with this particular situation? She has done this one other time before and she started talking to me again like it never happened before. Came over, cuddled, and got a *******. How do you handle these types of situations?

You've handled it perfectly so far. Just don't give her a reaction.

Eventually though, you're going to get tired of these stupid games that she plays and you're gonna want to dump her. And when you dump her, she's going to bug the sh1t out of you.

I had a girl like that once who threatened to ruin my life about 20 times. She just wanted attention.

 

[omkara]

being called "mean" or an "asshvle" is actually a compliment. Most guys then at this point would STILL be afraid of stepping on her toes and fail the sh!t test by reversing what they were doing so they don't appear "mean". Then like magic the girl disappears.

I did this exact thing today and this exact thing happened. This girl was telling me about her fabulous birthday party and I said 'oh you're 28 now? Not interested. lol jk' And kept on with that a little and she started taking a long time to reply and acting offended. Of course after she texted me back after a half hour I was so relieved and tried to say she was sexy (this can work sometimes) - never heard back. She was too validated.

Bottom line: Why was I trying to do C&F over text? It was a mistake. I'm used to dealing with more submissive girls. Roosh V recommends to set up the date over text but not C&F over text. Sexual innuendo, in my experience is fine, it gets her warmed up. But hardcore negs are very risky. They may blow up the whole thing. Light negs, that don't even seem like negs, can be ok, but again the focus should be on getting the date set up.

Everyone knows this so why did I do it? Well, not everyone is on their game at all times, and I can't just let my numbers sit forever until I'm in the right state of mind.

 

[IamJosan]

I'm a big a$$hole to girls too and everytime they tell me, 'why are you so mean to me?', or 'why you such a jerk(a$$hole)', I just tell em: stop being a baby! or stop whining!