stormwriter
Senior Don Juan
Out of most of the Don Juan skills, the two i'm not quite comfortable with are Neg-Hits and KINO. I have been coming from the NO TOUCHING on the first date mindset, ala Doc Love. Common sense told me that a person doesn't want a total stranger touching them so early in the game.
A little background info: I haven't went on a date in almost three months. During this time, i was voracious about learning the Essence of Don Juan. I wanted to REALLY know my s**t before i went on another date.
So, i went on a first date last night, paying lots of attention to keeping my DJ head on. She was gorgeous, and it was kind of uncomfortable at first. Had some drinks, and we relaxed a bit. Then we walked around. She wasn't totally into me, and i could sense it. Time for KINO, as a test? Yep.
We had NO PHYSICAL CONTACT thus far.
Case #1: She had this bandana thing around her neck, and i grabbed it and said, "ok, what are you trying to hide with this thing? Hickees?" She said it was to cover a tattoo on the back of her neck. LESS THAN ONE MINUTE LATER, she touches my shoulder while she was talking to me. Coincidence? I don't think so.
Case #2: We had a great conversation about abortion, politics, and religion with total strangers on the street. As her and i were walking away, i touched her shoulder lightly and said, "whoa, that was an awesome conversation!" LESS THAN ONE MINUTE LATER, she asks me to scratch her back, cause she had an itch. Coincidence? I don't think so.
I have experienced this exact same thing with a gorgeous babe a year ago on our first date. In the first five minutes of meeting this girl, i tapped on her thigh in the car, and freaked out (in my mind) that i touched her too early in the game, but LESS THAN TEN SECONDS LATER, she reached up and squeezed my shoulder.
It's like they won't touch you until you touch them first. Also, if they get that lightening bolt from you doing the light KINO, then they want more touching from you.
Cool. It's a great feeling to have these skills with the awareness and control to use them, and be perceptive enough to judge the results of your techniques.
Incidentally, i have FIVE DATES in FIVE DAYS, so i'm going to get lots of practice this week. I'm a little nervous going on that many dates. (i'll probably wear the same "first date outfit" on all the dates... haha, i better wash it so it won't smell like B.O!)
A little background info: I haven't went on a date in almost three months. During this time, i was voracious about learning the Essence of Don Juan. I wanted to REALLY know my s**t before i went on another date.
So, i went on a first date last night, paying lots of attention to keeping my DJ head on. She was gorgeous, and it was kind of uncomfortable at first. Had some drinks, and we relaxed a bit. Then we walked around. She wasn't totally into me, and i could sense it. Time for KINO, as a test? Yep.
We had NO PHYSICAL CONTACT thus far.
Case #1: She had this bandana thing around her neck, and i grabbed it and said, "ok, what are you trying to hide with this thing? Hickees?" She said it was to cover a tattoo on the back of her neck. LESS THAN ONE MINUTE LATER, she touches my shoulder while she was talking to me. Coincidence? I don't think so.
Case #2: We had a great conversation about abortion, politics, and religion with total strangers on the street. As her and i were walking away, i touched her shoulder lightly and said, "whoa, that was an awesome conversation!" LESS THAN ONE MINUTE LATER, she asks me to scratch her back, cause she had an itch. Coincidence? I don't think so.
I have experienced this exact same thing with a gorgeous babe a year ago on our first date. In the first five minutes of meeting this girl, i tapped on her thigh in the car, and freaked out (in my mind) that i touched her too early in the game, but LESS THAN TEN SECONDS LATER, she reached up and squeezed my shoulder.
It's like they won't touch you until you touch them first. Also, if they get that lightening bolt from you doing the light KINO, then they want more touching from you.
Cool. It's a great feeling to have these skills with the awareness and control to use them, and be perceptive enough to judge the results of your techniques.
Incidentally, i have FIVE DATES in FIVE DAYS, so i'm going to get lots of practice this week. I'm a little nervous going on that many dates. (i'll probably wear the same "first date outfit" on all the dates... haha, i better wash it so it won't smell like B.O!)
