Who Should Initiate Sex Dates?

[soulforge]

I get it.. If your looking to get into a relationship with a chick or expecting something more from her, then it should be an equal amount of effort from both parties to arrange dates etc..

However if your only spending time with a chick to smash & nothing more, is it ok for the man to reach out and arrange the hook up more often?

I have a couple of plates, who I rarely text throughout the week, maybe a couple of text messages every 3 days or so.. however I tend to simply indicate that we should fuk soon & basically arrange a day/night.

Both show interest & so far always turn up to my house to smash.

However i'm considering maybe take a back seat with one of my plates, and from this point onwards, let her reach out to meet more often for sex..

What is the best approach in your opinion? Remember it's always going to be sex only. I don't consider either LTR material

 

[Dr.Suave]

Maybe it doesnt mather as much. As long as they always comply when you initiate sex.

 

[thermodynamic]

Maybe it doesnt mather as much. As long as they always comply when you initiate sex.

Agree. It is usually this way. Sometimes they are just too shy to ask

 

[Scars]

If you both want it, I don't think it matters. The real struggle is finding a time you are both freely available. If a chick texts me with "Hey wanna hang out?" I know what's up. Likewise, if I send her the same thing she knows what's up. I don't hang out with females that I'm not fvcking.

Also OP, don't be so concerned about a plate not texting you through the week. Who wants to hear about a girls boring day and sending messages back and forth pretending to care? The only time you should be texting her is making plans to meet up. Leave all that talking and sh!t to when you are with her in person, you can better read her body language and there's no digital miscommunication.

 

[soulforge]

If you both want it, I don't think it matters. The real struggle is finding a time you are both freely available. If a chick texts me with "Hey wanna hang out?" I know what's up. Likewise, if I send her the same thing she knows what's up. I don't hang out with females that I'm not fvcking.

Also OP, don't be so concerned about a plate not texting you through the week. Who wants to hear about a girls boring day and sending messages back and forth pretending to care? The only time you should be texting her is making plans to meet up. Leave all that talking and sh!t to when you are with her in person, you can better read her body language and there's no digital miscommunication.

Yeh I agree with you. I rarely make too much effort to text plates to be fair. Maximum I will do is text her a couple of text once every 3-4 days, with minimum conversation and mostly to arrange a date for sex.

 

[Bokanovsky]

If all you’re after is sex, it doesn’t matter. It’s like ordering take out - the restaurant doesn’t call you.

 

[soulforge]

If all you’re after is sex, it doesn’t matter. It’s like ordering take out - the restaurant doesn’t call you.

Fantastic point. They can either deliver.. or they can't

 

[soulforge]

Even though I agree with most of you, about how it might not matter if you are the one who does the reaching out to arrange a sex hook up... Doesn't the risk of her losing attraction still apply here?

I mean if you the one always setting of the date, then it does display to her, that you want the sex more, than she wants the sex.

If the plan is to keep her as a fuk Buddy for a prolonged period of time, then this approach could turn out to be counterproductive