Who says the L word First?

[slickaz]

Some of you may remember the virgin chic that ive been feeling lately.

i do have some other chics but this one really has me attention.
im not AFC to it i just like her and i think she'd be a great LTR.

regardless, she keeps bringing up this conversation:
Baby if you were to fall in love with me, would you say it to me first?

and i always say, its a girls job to say it coz ill be snatching away the best part of being you, expressing your emotional side, right?

and she goes No, even if i was there i couldnt tell you, id wait, because traditionally the man is supposed to say it.

now this is where i change the topic with a , We could argue about this forever. so how was your day..

but inside it makes me think, hmmmm, i think she's there already, im not.

but i want to know from you guys, whats your perspective?
should we be man enough to do it, because men have traditionally led?

Background: ive known this girl for quite a while now, i met her through some of my guy friends. but only lately have we been fooling around.

 

[2Pac_Makaveli]

If you said "I love you" too early on in the relationship, she'd probably use it against you.:yes:

 

[Ganondorf]

Does it really matter?
I said it first and i hasn't hurt me yet

that was over 2 years ago, and here we are

 

[Smack]

Generally, it's better if the woman says it first.

 

[Igetit!]

Generally, it's better if the woman says it first.

I agree with Smack. Of course this isn't a rule written in stone,but for some reason whenever the guy says it first,then relationship just seems to go down hill. I think it has to do with the whole "women like a challenge thing".
It's like once you say,"I love you",game over,she wins. At least that's how I think women see it. Another thing is that this thing about saying "I love you",she brought it up,and women give the worst advice about dating/relationships.

My opinion is that everything you've been doing,saying,and the way you've been behaving with her from the moment you met her up until now.....keep doing it. I don't care how much she tries to push you into saying,"I love you",or whatever else she tries to get you to do to "make the relationship better",don't do it.

I mean look,you've gotten this far without any advice from her. Would you consider the relationship to be successful thus far? If yes,then keep doin whatcha doin man. If she's trying to get you to say "I love you",then she ain't going nowhere. Go got this bro.

 

[slickaz]

yeh i think the girls should say it first too.

but shes been bringing it up ALOT lately, and i know i shouldnt discuss those feelings with her.

her friends over heard her talking to me about it. she usually just laughs about it and kinda drops hints.

So i just play competition and say, well if you're there, let me know, coz im not gonna fall for a girl that cant even voice her emotions..gotta be strong to be my girl.. and that shuts her up..lol

any more advice?

 

[KontrollerX]

Whoever says it first has the least power moving forward in the relationship.

Any aspiring DJ out there that wants the best deal possible for himself should outright avoid getting into relationships but if you must make sure that the girl says the L word before you ever do.

For morality symps that don't care about power good luck with that.

Women do and its going to be either her or you who takes ultimate control over the relationship's direction and if its her things will turn to sh!t eventually count on that. :rock:

 

[S0LID]

irrelivant, do what ya want.

I say i love you when I first meet girls sometimes... eff it! Some girls you can say i love ya and it wins them over...


xxxx

 

[rushing dude 123]

dude is this the religuous girl, but i would have sex if we moved in girl? lol

remember to take things slow, not saying ur not, but just making sure lol. if she gets what she wants straight away then it will get boring, which i am guessing is "i love u!!!!!!" make her wait and when something does happen it would of been so much better. U know like that crush u never asked out.... who was in front of for years, that **** will b a freaking explosion when that gets down, but u enjoy the chase.

Btw i feel the honeys have to say it first in most cases, the longer it goes on for the better. two people saying they love eachother after a first date u know how thats going to go.... but lets say u havn't said it for a year and ur both wanting to say it for so long and when that actually does happen. Which relationship sounds more fun and exciting to be in?

the reason i feel u like this chick is because she dosn't give out to easy so i feel the longer u two wait the better, the most u can do is ur part dude.