I was one. But it was not because of this site. There were no sites when I was hopelessly wondering what the world was like.
I was 16 and living in the mountains. I had never kissed a girl and had never had sex---k scratch that. I had never been on A DATE! I sat at home after school listening to music and disassembling electronic products and reading engineering texts. Just about the most boring person you have ever seen. In addition to that, I was in a family that was hardcore christian. Wherein, females were not to be touched at any time until you were married and there weren't any at my church so guess what...nothing. I never had any girls come over and for some reason I felt that I was supposed to be better than I was. I spent most of school by myself in the library reading and doing the "loner" thing and terrible at sports. It was as if my life was insulated from the world, like I was destined to be an accountant, buy a volvo and marry a boring girl and then live out my years until I died. In addition to that, I was shy and a doormat...WTF! I had everything negative you could possibly have! I wanted desperately to experience life and at least do something that was exceptional-- but throughout this year in my life I decided I wanted to be good at something. So, I took up skiing (snow). At first, I sucked at that too, mostly because I wore glasses and the goggles wouldn't hold the glasses still and they would bounce all over the place and I couldn't see. So I would always fall and suck and not have a good time. I begged and pleaded for my mom to get me contacts so I could at least ski. So we went to the optician and got some lenses for me.
That was actually the turning point in my life. After I could see, I practiced and practiced skiing and got very good at it. Shortly afterward I joined the ski team and was able to actually compete with the super popular ski-racer guys at my school. Then I joined more teams and started to meet people that I would never talk to before. But by this time, high school was over. Fortunately, my mom saw the small transformation in my and did something that I think every parent should do. She bought me a small pickup truck and said "pick out a college and go learn about life" and then kicked me out. I left everything I knew and went to a new city hundreds of miles away not knowing anyone. Because I arrived in a new city by myself, I had no choice but to stop being shy. If I didn't, I would starve to death. So I just decided to stop being shy.
I would sit on the bench during college and talk to people when they came by and sat next to me. It was the most foriegn thing I had ever done. I still didn't really know how to talk to girls or ask them on dates...so I winged it! I just kind of tried over and over and over and over until it wasn't so bad anymore. Yes, I got rejected, a lot. But the one thing I didn't do was slip back into being shy. I couldn't, I hated what I was like when I was shy-- I hated that guy who sat around by himself wondering why nobody talked to him and no girls wanted him.
So, now, I was just being this outgoing guy who like music a lot and didn't really know what to do with girls. When I was 18 I met this girl from a club and started to go out with her. She was actually my first-- and good thing that she was kind of a slut because she showed me what to do. After about a year of going out with that bipolar, lithium dependent slut, I wanted something better. So I went out and met a cute college raver girl. We went out for 3 wonderful years until she left me. It was a big deal for me as I momentarily slipped back into being this whiny, useless slob who pleaded for her to come back... But then I graduated college and she got married.
I then found that after you graduate, the accessibility of females did not go up, it went waaaaaaaay down. You didn't sit next to some hot girl like you did in college, you have to go seek them out. And that is exactly what I started to do. I went back to the mindset of the innocent guy from the mountains with no reservations at all. This mindset was the key in my mind since I didn't even know about pickup artists or websites like this.
Every time I would go talk to a girl, there would be no 'plan' or hesitation. I just had to think she was cute and that was it. I guess thats bad or whatever, but thats what I went on. I never had any lines or checklists in my mind, I would just talk to someone because they looked like they were open to me talking to them. Most of the time they were. Sometimes they weren't, but I didn't let it bother me. I soon found that I got laid a lot more when I was by myself-- I couldn't really figure that one out for a long time.
Now, reading stuff on sosuave, I have come to the conclusion that it is mostly the same stuff I already knew. There was really just no way for me to vocalize it. For instance, when I would go out to a club and one of my friends would point to a girl and say "wow, she's so hot I wish I could talk to her" I would kind of look at him like: um---GO! what are you waiting for? Then it would be me who would have to just yell out "Hey you, hot chic...come over here" And initiate the conversation. The one thing I knew about hot girls is that they know that they are hot. So when talking to one, just get it overwith and continue talking to her. On PUA forums, guys are supposed to use a 'neg hit' to let a girl know that you noticed she was hot and that you don't care. I didn't have that, all I had was what I learned subconsciously to say.
Now that I am almost 30, I truly think its fun to go meet new girls and to watch their reactions. Take one home, two home, it doesn't matter. It's all fun now-- especially when you don't have to worry if "that girl likes me" because I can go get another girl in 60 seconds right in front of her. I guess this makes me ****y, which I am naturally. I sometimes think its wack that I can stand in the middle of a bar by myself and watch females position themselves so that I will notice them. But its still funny to watch and I usually call them on it. Another thing I have learned is that nothing is by accident.
I don't know if this is discussed on this forum or not, but over the years I have noticed that females don't do things by accident even if they say they do. 5 seconds through the door to the club, they have rated every single other girl as a potential threat and are aware of their location and if their clothes are designer or not. 10 seconds into the club, they have created a GPS map in their head of every hot guy and where he is most likely to go. They then strategically position themselves to maximize the possibility that this hot guy will "accidentally" bump into her and talk to her. Of course, if she makes herself too open, then chumps will come up to her--so she has to have a barrier of other popular girls from which to fend off would-be suitors who don't have enough confidence to break through the barrier and approach. A process repeated with great success.
Back on topic. So now, I just love going out and meeting new females-- its nothing short of a field trip for me. The only thing is, since I am the leader and I am naturally ****y, I get picked on and have fought a lot. Way too much. If there is a side effect of being too ****y, thats it. But you know what, thats the way I am so I am going to roll with it. Besides, the benefits outwiegh the costs.
