Looks like I'm going solo tonight. Thinking of either going clubbing or just scopping out some hot spots. I'v done this $hit before, bltches are almost certain to ask ya what your doing alone on a weekend night. What are some believable excuses you loners use? thx
Who goes DJing alone?
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Player69
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I myself have relocated recently, and it is true that trying to meet women when flying solo and being new to the area can take a toll on your confidence. Approches seem to be the harder part at this point since I was very confident in my old city. Right now, I am just tring to find new hang out spots where I can meet chicks. My work schedule makes it hard for me to meet chicks in the places I used to go, and I am not going back to college till fall.
FlyGuy
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If I go alone I don't go to clubs or bars, I go to places like the mall or bookstores. If I was at a club by myself I would just say that I got seperated from my friends or something.
GQ Prettyboy
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Going solo
Hell, some women even find that sexy. I hate seeing niggas at the mall 10 people deep.
Hell, some women even find that sexy. I hate seeing niggas at the mall 10 people deep.
squirrels
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LOL I don't have a lot of friends who like going to bars/clubs and stuff, so I usually end up flying solo.
I haven't quite had the game to pull anything off yet, but I'm getting better...sometimes.
I haven't quite had the game to pull anything off yet, but I'm getting better...sometimes.
Ol'BlueEyes
Senior Don Juan
Single as well
No real clubs here, but the bars around here seem to abide by an unwritten code:
single guy=poison to good-looking women
Appraoched 6 girls tonight, they all had boyfriends (or claimed they did). Eh.
No real clubs here, but the bars around here seem to abide by an unwritten code:
single guy=poison to good-looking women
Appraoched 6 girls tonight, they all had boyfriends (or claimed they did). Eh.
Re: Single as well
Way to go for approaching 6 girls. Keep in mind that "boyfriends" are a girls way of saying she has a protector or a keeper-awayer of other men. When he's not around, they try to use the words "boyfriend" to the same affect as they would if he was actually there. The boyfriend excuse has become so over-used and is lame if I may put it frankly. If a person doesn't want to be with you, they need to learn to speak their freaking mind. "I'm not interested in dating you" is a piece of honesty. "I have a b-b-b-bbboyfriend..." is a crock of **** 80% of the time. (note the statistic used is random)
Umbra
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I go solo when I feel like it. Bars are the best for going solo. I usually shoot pool, challenging and talking to random guys. You build up rapport with them, which builds up social proof with the surrounding girls. Then you make an approach.
-Zero_h0uR-
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I hit a club solo once, and got a number out of it.
I just said I was out to have fun, and my friends were all busy with finals. I didn't see any point in making up some lame excuse.
This was my own personal test when I did it though. I did it just to see if I could. And I did. Sometimes my friends are too chumpish to take out, so solo works better.
-- Zero-
I just said I was out to have fun, and my friends were all busy with finals. I didn't see any point in making up some lame excuse.
This was my own personal test when I did it though. I did it just to see if I could. And I did. Sometimes my friends are too chumpish to take out, so solo works better.
-- Zero-
A bar or club isn't a bad place to go, since you can be sure the girls are of legal age. Malls, bookstores--those are teeming with high school students--you never know who you're talking to. Plus it's not really a pick up environment, although this could also work to someone's advantage, depending on the situation.
The downside of bars is that everyone there drinks, and for someone who doesn't--it's pretty obvious why you are there. It's not like you can say "I'm just here to have a few cold ones to relax and unwind." And who knows how many women there make alcohol a part of their everyday routine, if you know what I'm sayin'?
With clubs, the music is pumping so loud, it's dark and the lights are flashing--it's like they purposely try to make it difficult for you to meet anybody.
I probably wouldn't be able to go solo anyway. I'd feel so out of place that I'd probably end up sitting in the corner somewhere. I'd much rather be with friends. If I have a night that's less than successful, at least there's a possibility I can still have a good time with them. But it's great if you can pull off the solo routine. Just say that your friends were bumming you out and you needed to get away from them for a while.
The downside of bars is that everyone there drinks, and for someone who doesn't--it's pretty obvious why you are there. It's not like you can say "I'm just here to have a few cold ones to relax and unwind." And who knows how many women there make alcohol a part of their everyday routine, if you know what I'm sayin'?
With clubs, the music is pumping so loud, it's dark and the lights are flashing--it's like they purposely try to make it difficult for you to meet anybody.
I probably wouldn't be able to go solo anyway. I'd feel so out of place that I'd probably end up sitting in the corner somewhere. I'd much rather be with friends. If I have a night that's less than successful, at least there's a possibility I can still have a good time with them. But it's great if you can pull off the solo routine. Just say that your friends were bumming you out and you needed to get away from them for a while.
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I go solo when I want to meet women. Normally I'll build some rapport with some guys at the club or bars and start making small talks with strangers, smiling, etc. pretending to be having a lot of fun doing it. (It is kind of fun to have some male-bonding with strangers at the club, especially after all of us get a drink or two).
That makes me feel more comfortable with the environment. That's the time when I get the courage to start dancing up to girls and talking to them. It's still tough.
By the way, you win some and you lose some. I was able to grind with 4 girls the other night at a bar, going all by myself. I was able to grind with 2 girls (who were in a group) at a club. In both instances, though, I also got rejected by a few other girls. You just have to keep it going.
If they ask me if/why I'm by myself (no girls have ask me that so far, though a guy has--to that guy I just say yeah I'm by myself). If a girl asks me that question, I'd just say that my friends are out of town (which is true), or we got lost in the chaos of the club/bar...
That makes me feel more comfortable with the environment. That's the time when I get the courage to start dancing up to girls and talking to them. It's still tough.
By the way, you win some and you lose some. I was able to grind with 4 girls the other night at a bar, going all by myself. I was able to grind with 2 girls (who were in a group) at a club. In both instances, though, I also got rejected by a few other girls. You just have to keep it going.
If they ask me if/why I'm by myself (no girls have ask me that so far, though a guy has--to that guy I just say yeah I'm by myself). If a girl asks me that question, I'd just say that my friends are out of town (which is true), or we got lost in the chaos of the club/bar...
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There are some bars/clubs that lend themselves more to talking than others. Usually those with an outdoor area make good candidates, since these areas are usually isolated from the "dance floor" and the music dissipates.
I've always found it kind of funny that people expect a place with dark, strobing lights and gut-pounding music to be a good place to meet people. Maybe just to get your freak on, yeah, but how many girls are just looking for someone to hook up with without saying two words to them?
There are some bars/clubs that lend themselves more to talking than others. Usually those with an outdoor area make good candidates, since these areas are usually isolated from the "dance floor" and the music dissipates.
I've always found it kind of funny that people expect a place with dark, strobing lights and gut-pounding music to be a good place to meet people. Maybe just to get your freak on, yeah, but how many girls are just looking for someone to hook up with without saying two words to them?