Where have the great ones gone?

[BuckwildNYC]

Why have the great DJ’s left Sosuave.com? Some would say they got a girlfriend or girlfriends and don’t need it any more. Others would say it’s because the forums are full of crap now.

I tell you now it is because this site is an oxymoron. Why would a true DJ need to learn to ACT confident? Why would a DJ ever need to ask what to say to a woman? A true DJ would do and say exactly what he WANTED to say regardless of the repercussions. And if that meant that his girlfriend left him or that hot blond in the club didn’t like him, that’s fine because he will be OK.


OXYMORON: something (as a concept) that is made up of contradictory or incongruous elements


At the state that Sosuave.com is in, it is impossible for a true DJ to have any association with it. It would be like having matter and anti-matter collide. The two cannot exist at the same place at the same time. If Pook was to return to post at Sosuave.com we could have a paradox that could cause the collapse of the universe. To be on Sosuave is to advocate our obsession with women. Once a man understands that women aren’t the center of the universe, a site like Sosuave becomes less and less appealing.

I know a lot of you are saying to yourselves “But I can’t get laid to save my life. I need help to learn how to get girls. What should I say? What should I do? How should I act?” How could you ever be happy ACTING? You need to learn how to be successful and truly happy and the girls will come. .

Others are saying: “But I’m a true DJ. I went sarging this weekend and I’ve banged 6 girls this year. I just hang around here giving advice to all the newbies”
Yeah but you are not getting it. You are still here dedicating so much time reading and writing about women. It’s OK to be dedicated to working out or to your career but being dedicated to women is detrimental. It’s like moving your body before you move your feet. You are going to fall flat on your face.

“Yeah, but we here at Sosuave.com teach the DJ philosophy. We teach you how to become better men.” Do you? As of now the Sosuave website contains %90 information about how to deal with women and %10 everything else. If it was about bettering men than it would look like this:


Health and fitness
Business
Real estate
Fashion
Hobbies/Interests
Women


“Yeah but Buck, I don’t care about working out or real estate or business. I just want to learn how to bang hot chicks.” Let me tell you, hot chicks are a prize, a product of a happy and successful life. Learn to live your life to the fullest. Learn to be that artist that you’ve always wanted to be, learn to be a good business man, learn to be healthy and have a nice body. Learn to do what ever drives you. That is the only true path to happiness. Women will always come and go but you are going to be with you for the rest of your life. Be able to look in that mirror and be truly happy with yourself.

If I gave you 3 wishes what would you wish for? If you say Jessica Alba, Salma Hayek, and Adriana Lima you would be a fool. They would be walking out the door before you even opened your mouth. And even if they DID stay and provide you with the orgy of a lifetime, what would you have then? I guarantee that after you busted 20 nuts (OK maybe 50 nuts) that an emptiness would envelope you. What would you really have gained?

I think the old adage fits well here. Give a man a fish and he’ll eat for a day, teach him HOW to fish and he’ll eat forever. “Yeah but we here at Sosuave teach men “how to fish”. We are not pick-up artists. We teach the fundamentals: confidence and how to be an alpha male.” How can you TEACH someone confidence? Confidence comes from a lifetime of being a strong and successful person. Confidence comes from so deep down in your core that it can’t be faked….. at least not for long.

“So what should I do Buck? I’m not successful or confident. Should I just give up? I’m tired of being alone. I just want a beautiful woman by my side. What should I do?” I say fill in the gaps. Fill in whatever is missing from your life. If there is no woman willing to be with you than I can guarantee there is much missing from your life.

“But Buck, I get girls, it’s just that sometimes I don’t know how to handle a situation or how I should act”. Well you act how you WANT to act. That’s the only way to be true to your self. Any other option and you are being true to what someone taught you to say. Then what will you do when you have to follow up on what you just said? Are you going to run to the computer?




Women and money are the things men yearn for most and to be honest most men yearn for money because they think it will get them lots of women. WOMEN DO NOT EQUAL HAPPINESS. LIFE IS NOT ALL ABOUT WOMEN. Think about the happiest times of your life. I bet you 75% had nothing to do with women.

There’s a guy on Myspace who seems to get it. In his profile he mentioned pirates. He said that pirates thought that happiness was about finding gold but the true happiness was all the good times and memories they had in search of that gold. Too many people focus on goals (women) and miss out on the here and now.

So where am I going with all this? Forget about Sosuave and forget about chicks for a while. Do whatever it is you do that makes you happy. Go out and eat your favorite food. Do what you WANT and say what you WANT. If something needs fixing in your life fix it. Every minute of every day should be either productive or enjoyable. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and reading endless posts about girls is not the key to happiness.

We are human beings and we crave companionship. We weren’t meant to be alone. BUT unless you are completely happy being by yourself then you will never be fulfilled, no matter how many women you have or don’t have in your life.

 

[frivolousz21]

they probably have LTR's or are married.

or like you said got sick of the infestation of guys who claim to be something, make up lies about there past..maybe dated 5 girls in there life..and know all about being a man.

 

[DJnoobie420]

I would have to disagree with what you said about true DJ's. You make alot of good points towards the end, but truely you must think about your opinions based on the oxymoron factor of a donjuan on sosuave.com further.

Firstly, A true don juan is definded as a mans man. A leader, some one whos the first out there, and the last to leave. To stand up for the little guy, the hurt guy, and to show integerity. Therefore you'd think with such a mentality would feel righteous when helping guys lacking in the female department to get mindset and game straight, correct?

And its not fair of you say,

"I tell you now it is because this site is an oxymoron. Why would a true DJ need to learn to ACT confident? Why would a DJ ever need to ask what to say to a woman? A true DJ would do and say exactly what he WANTED to say regardless of the repercussions. And if that meant that his girlfriend left him or that hot blond in the club didn’t like him, that’s fine because he will be OK"

You cannot assume that every person who come to this site are/are not already don juans. For you to make such a statement about this site being an oxymoron is based on the assumption that everyone who comes here needes help. This is not true. For example;

What if you realized you had a gift. A gift to have any women you wanted, but you soon finalaized that they are not the key to a mans happiness, but they are a nice addition. Then it occurs to you, based on your keen observations that alot of guys are hung up on the fact that they cant get gurls, and believeing this is the source of there unhappiness. So you devote a 30 min period ( not your whole life as you said here, " You are still here dedicating so much time reading and writing about women.)" a day to helping us poor smucks out.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

I would have to disagree with what you said about true DJ's. You make alot of good points towards the end, but truely you must think about your opinions based on the oxymoron factor of a donjuan on sosuave.com further.

Firstly, A true don juan is definded as a mans man. A leader, some one whos the first out there, and the last to leave. To stand up for the little guy, the hurt guy, and to show integerity. Therefore you'd think with such a mentality would feel righteous when helping guys lacking in the female department to get mindset and game straight, correct?

And its not fair of you say,

"I tell you now it is because this site is an oxymoron. Why would a true DJ need to learn to ACT confident? Why would a DJ ever need to ask what to say to a woman? A true DJ would do and say exactly what he WANTED to say regardless of the repercussions. And if that meant that his girlfriend left him or that hot blond in the club didn’t like him, that’s fine because he will be OK"

You cannot assume that every person who come to this site are/are not already don juans. For you to make such a statement about this site being an oxymoron is based on the assumption that everyone who comes here needes help. This is not true. For example;

What if you realized you had a gift. A gift to have any women you wanted, but you soon finalaized that they are not the key to a mans happiness, but they are a nice addition. Then it occurs to you, based on your keen observations that alot of guys are hung up on the fact that they cant get gurls, and believeing this is the source of there unhappiness. So you devote a 30 min period ( not your whole life as you said here, " You are still here dedicating so much time reading and writing about women.)" a day to helping us poor smucks out.

Wow I have to say after reading your post that I am shocked that you are only 17 years old. I guess I'm just saying that a guy that's "lacking in the female department" is the product of lacking in many aspects of his life. He thinks women are his problem but they are not. Men with happy successful lives rarely have problems with women. Only problem they usually have is that they don't have enough TIME for all the women.

All these guys want to learn tactics and strategies for getting girls. Girls aren't blind. If they see a man out there doing his thing they will snatch him up. You can't put the carriage in front of the horse. Get YOUR life together and the ladies will come soon after. So a guy teaching someone how to pick up girls is like teaching a baby how to walk before it can crawl. (sorry for all the cliches)

 

[NHY]

Interesting points you have there, Buck. Let me tell you, guys, sometimes, it is actually better to act on instint rather than following the DJ principles at times!

I can think of a few instances personally ( including last night ) where instint as oppossed to following the DJ route would suited the situation more. The good news is though, even after seeing some Jock K - closing the girl I was after, I DIDN'T crash and burn like I have before, I was able to retain my good mood ( Then again, the fact I found 70 quid on the ground during the night helped as well! ) Ah well...... :woo:

 

[Q-Pid]

Firstly...WOW do you like Pook. This is practically a "What defines a man" remix. Paraphrasing is the enemy!

*smacks BuckwildNYC with a wet salmon*

You're confusing Naturals with Don Juans.

Don Juans are AFCs who have overcome their problems and become naturals through internalisation.

If Don Juans want to post on this site then it is to help others feel the same sense of enlightenment and change that they are experiencing. They don't do it because they are obsessed with women. Don Juans are the leaders of men - it's only logical that they would want to help others.

Like Mystery often says: "We make men COMPETANT, not confident."

"Be yourself" is a tired mantra that just_doesn't_work. I mean think about it. Much of what makes up a person's character is dictated to them by others. The values of every individual are a combination of upbringing and the views of society. The real you is suppressed by the you society has made you become. This site is like a blue pill from "The Matrix" - it lets you see the truth and decide for yourself who you want to be.

Even I'm not yet where I want to be with women. I am here to change that. Am I obsessed? Heck no I have loads of other passions. But if You want to achieve anything then you will need more than a passing interest.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

Firstly...WOW do you like Pook. This is practically a "What defines a man" remix. Paraphrasing is the enemy!

*smacks BuckwildNYC with a wet salmon*

You're confusing Naturals with Don Juans.

Don Juans are AFCs who have overcome their problems and become naturals through internalisation.

If Don Juans want to post on this site then it is to help others feel the same sense of enlightenment and change that they are experiencing. They don't do it because they are obsessed with women. Don Juans are the leaders of men - it's only logical that they would want to help others.

Like Mystery often says: "We make men COMPETANT, not confident."

"Be yourself" is a tired mantra that just_doesn't_work. I mean think about it. Much of what makes up a person's character is dictated to them by others. The values of every individual are a combination of upbringing and the views of society. The real you is suppressed by the you society has made you become. This site is like a blue pill from "The Matrix" - it lets you see the truth and decide for yourself who you want to be.

Even I'm not yet where I want to be with women. I am here to change that. Am I obsessed? Heck no I have loads of other passions. But if You want to achieve anything then you will need more than a passing interest.

I hear what you are trying to say but you have it backwards. I never said "be yourself". I said be the best "you" that you can be. "Be Yourself" has a negative conotation that you can be fat and lazy and still get hot chicks. I'm not saying to be the "you" that society wants you to be. I'm telling you to be the "you" that "you" want to be. How many times did you want to tell a bytch to shut the fukk up cause she was talking some nonsense, but you didn't cause it "isn't polite". I'm saying to tell the bytch to shut the fukk up. You may not get the ass but if she was worth it then she wouldn't have been talking all that nonsense.

I'm saying to stop obsessing over girls. Get paid, get in shape, have fun, enjoy your friends, go on vacations....................and I promise you girls will notice and want to get with you. I can guarantee that all the guys having problems with girls are not living their lives to the fullest. Are they going out and interacting with the world and enjoying life, or are they sitting home surfing the internet and playing video games. Hey I love video games too, but if you want hot chicks then you need to be out there where they are.

This site has it all but most people here skip all the fundamentals and want to learn ****y and funny and neg hits. Its like going to Karate class and wanting to learn the Shoalin Death Grip before you even know how to throw a punch. You have to be able to look in mirror and LOVE the person you are before you can even attempt to land hot chicks. ****y and funny can't cover up a lifetime of insecurities.


I had to edit this cause I was a little drunk when I wrote it. I guess my whole point is that people spend too much time here reading and writing. It' s a good place to learn about how to do deal with women but women should just be a small part of your life. Women are the icing on your cake........... not the first second or third layers. Stop reading and philopsophizing about girls and get out there and be successful. You'll be fighting them off with a stick in no time.