Where do I stand

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I need some advice on where I stand with this girl, and how I should go about things. First up some backstory:

I went to a school in dallas last year, and she went to Austin. I met her through a friend while I was visiting in austin, and we began to talk to each other over AIM. Everytime I'd go to austin after wards (about 3 times) we'd meet up with some friends and watch a movie or get some beers or something.

A year has passed and I've transfered over to austin, so now we live like 10 minutes from each other. Since I've moved in (about 4 days ago) we've hung out twice - first she and her roommate came over to my appartment and watched a movie and drank beer, and last night, she, I, her roommate, and 2 of her friends all went to a movie (which ended up being a porno, lol).

Anyways, I get the idea she digs me because, I mean, she keeps agreeing to hang out with me, and her best friend keeps letting little things slip. Like, last night when it was just me, her, the roommate, and her 2 friends, her roommate whispers to me "I feel like a 5th wheel" and when we were talking about going to this party, where I'd dress up like a pimp, she turned to the girl and asked "So you're gonna go as his prostitute, right?"

I want to ask her out, but I don't know when would be the right time or how. She currently has a friend staying with her from boston till friday. I also don't want to seem desperate or bug her, since she was telling me about how this guy she met at her last appartment wouldn't leave her alone and called her every day, and it annoyed her. So, how do I stand, how should I go about asking her out, and when?
 

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Ask her you should have, maybe last year...

Ask her soon and find out if her intentions for you are friend or not...
 

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Originally posted by darth yoda
Ask her you should have, maybe last year...

Ask her soon and find out if her intentions for you are friend or not...
See, I thought about asking her last year, but we were 200 miles away, and I visited austin every month or so. I had decided to wait till I got to austin to start moving things forward.

bad idea you say?
 

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Do it soon, waited long enough you have.

The friends zone is a dangerous place indeed...
 

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Originally posted by darth yoda
Do it soon, waited long enough you have.

The friends zone is a dangerous place indeed...
Yeah, I don't think I've entered the friend zone yet, though. Prior to these 4 days, we'd only seen each other 3 or 4 times before, and even though we spoke on aim, it wasn't an everyday sort of thing. Just a casual thing. Plus, we were in the same city over the summer (seperated by about 30 minutes of traffic, but still in the same city) and I didn't really try to hang out with her specifically to avoid being pulled into the friend zone.

How should I ask her, then? While I'm hanging out with her? She has told me before that she finds guys who ask girls out over the phone to be lame, because it feels like they can't bring themselves to be manly enough. And should I wait for her friend to leave?

I invited her to a party on the 29th, too.
 

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Originally posted by darth yoda
Do it soon, waited long enough you have.

The friends zone is a dangerous place indeed...
you are a bad yoda...

more like...

a dangerous place indeed, the friend zone is
 

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how old are you? dude i'm in highschool... and im 100% against asking a girl out to be "exclusive"... it seems too.... 13 year old-ish

but if your asking her out for a one on one date... do it!!!

edit:

don't ask her out to be exclusive. dunno... just ask her to keep hanging out with you... and flirt like crazy. she will eventually go crazy and ask you about "your situation" together


or something in those lines.
 

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Originally posted by MikeS
how old are you? dude i'm in highschool... and im 100% against asking a girl out to be "exclusive"... it seems too.... 13 year old-ish

but if your asking her out for a one on one date... do it!!!

edit:

don't ask her out to be exclusive. dunno... just ask her to keep hanging out with you... and flirt like crazy. she will eventually go crazy and ask you about "your situation" together


or something in those lines.
No no, dude, I'm not asking her to be "exclusive." As you said, that's like 13-year-old romance.

No no, I just want to know when I should ask her on a one on one date. In other words, how can I tell her to leave her roommate at home?
 

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Originally posted by Cooljerk
No no, dude, I'm not asking her to be "exclusive." As you said, that's like 13-year-old romance.

No no, I just want to know when I should ask her on a one on one date. In other words, how can I tell her to leave her roommate at home?
Are you a Man? Do you somehow need to ask permission to put words together and formulate a sentence? You don't ask her to leave hr roommate at home, you tell her to leave her roommate at home. That is the first sign to let her know if she is dealing with a boy or a Man! A man doesn't ask her persmission for how he will spend HIS time! Its your time if you don't want the roommate around you dont have to have the roommater around.

MAN UP!
 

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As her roommate secretly! then ask the girl you are interested in... ask about the date, she'd say something in these lines:

"I have a roommate for the week"

say something in these lines:

"Yeah, I talked to her about that, she said it was okay"

of course you don't want to use my words, they are too simple, and planned out.
 

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First of all, don't worry about being like that guy who was annoying her. That guy was an AFC and you, as we all know, are too cool for that shyt. You're not going to call her everyday and annoy her. You're going to keep her guessing all the time. You're going to bust her balls and exude confidence. Just be cool about it. It seems to me like there's been some talk between her and her friends. Once you get the ball rolling, it will get easier. Just make sure you don't get too clingy or emotional too quickly. Even if you feel it. Remember - she's probably just as shy and unsure and nervous as you are so don't expect her to take the initiative.

~Sloopy
 

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Ask her out.

Don't talk to any of her friend about her. Change the subject if any of them try and drop "hints".
 

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Originally posted by flexion_
Ask her out.

Don't talk to any of her friend about her. Change the subject if any of them try and drop "hints".
Out of curiosity - why?
 
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