When you know you should be doing something, but you're not doing it

[StockTrader]

On the news today, there was a story about an old guy plowing into and killing 8 people and injurying dozens of others at a farmers market in Santa Monica Ca. I live about 15 minutes from there, I go there often, it was one of those stories that wakes you up and you realize "Damn, I've got a lot to be thankful for, etc".

Thinking about that, thinking about other good things in your life. My career opportunities. My health. My family. The knowledge I've picked up on this site and at other sites. I should just go right out there, talking to girls, picking up chicks, getting them so horny they can't control themselves, just having the time of my life.

That's what the logical side of my brain is saying. And it makes alot of sense. But what I've been doing is just the opposite. Kinda hiding out from people, focused on negative crap from my past, on a scale of 1-10, feeling about a -4 about women. Tonight, I saw two hotties alone as I got in an elevator, they were in a fun mood, I could have been playful and who knows what could have happened. Instead of feeling like ferris bueller, I was even worst than his buddy cameron frye. And not even saying one word.

My question:

How do you do what you know you should be doing?? Even if you don't initially feel like it? You know it's good for you, you know you'd be enjoying your life more, but you can't get yourself to follow through.

 

[DonJohn83]

Just do it.

 

[Lozz]

He's right. You're only gonna get out of this loophole if you actually do it. There are ways to make it easier and let me explain one which i went through.

Now I used to be like this. I would see girls giving me the slightest hints but not doing anything. One night I went out with a few mates and got pretty damn drunk. I had the time of my life chatting to almost everyone in the bar girls, guys, i even hit on barmaids. Anyway my point is that i turned out being really ****y and didn't care who it was, approaching was no longer scary. I didn't get any no.s that night but thats not the point. I realised that there was nothing to worry about. It was so easy and from now on I don't even have to get drunk to be that way because I have passed that boundary. Its also alot of fun.

 

[DankNuggs]

Alright, so your telling me to get REALLY REALLY drunk and go crazy hitting on people....Done and Done....This is the kind of advise i love to get!!!!!!!!

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

aye stock, it just sounds like you're in a little rut.

we all have occassions where the girls are comming in left and right, the cell phone is blowing up, and we have to end up cancelling dates because our weekends are full with HB's galore.

but on the flip side, we have those dry spells where we feel down, our moods are depressed, and the flow of women are as dry as a 90 year old grandma's punani..haha!

in all seriousness, we've all been there. personally, I break up my life in 3 areas, listed in no particular order:

(1) social - women, buddies, family..your basic good times mood
(2) economic - growing financially, paying bills, promotions at work, buying luxury items: clothes, cars, electronics, etc
(3) physical - working out, exceeding weight loss/gain goals, learning new dance steps, salsa routines, ect.

this is just my life right now...some may substitute the economic criteria for school: exams, good grades ect.

the thing about these three areas in life, is that I try not to focus all my energies in one area. meaning, that i try to have balance within the 3. of course, this is sometimes very difficult. in your senerio, it seems that the social aspect is a bit lacking right now.

so what do you do? start focusing on the other two aspects in your life: work and physical. become a gym rat, work hard and get that promotion. after time, the gratification from losing that extra 5 lbs of flab or getting that raise in your salary will bring you a confident feeling, an aura of confidence that other people will notice.

consequently, the social aspect will start to fix itself because you have built a confident attitude in the other two areas in your life, that it starts to become self serving.

after time, you'll get so into your routine with work and gym, that women will not become your priority. funny to say, after some time, you will only chose worthy women that are worth the time you will be taking away from work and gym.

when you find that woman of value...the three aspects of your life will be balanced....the life of a DJ.

-HQ