When wanting a relationship....

[marqZAL]

...everything is fvcked up!!!! I decided a few weeks ago that I am ready to start a serious relationship and have been dating with that in mind as a final outcome while trying not to expect anything. Having underlying thoughts that dating should have a final outcome I think is possibly the worst possible thing I could have ever put myself through. Dating, with the idea of only having fun and cheap sex is the only possible mindset I could ever have without going nutts. But it leads me into trouble....
I can hang with the best when it comes to having one night stands, and getting fvck buddies. Now, I am actually thinking develop a meaningful relationship I can't fvcking do it!
I have been dating a girl now, for a few weeks, and I am keen on her, but there is the little voice in my head that says kick her ass to the curb fast before you get hurt. Instead of just doing what I normally like to do...have fun and enjoy the moment, im analyzing **** like a girl for the second time in my life.

I have operating purposely outside of my comfort zone...trying to push my limits before I break. I am better when I dont want anything but fvcking...my mind is at ease. I am totally uncomfortable with the thought of a relationship.

 

[icepick]

Hey man, at least you got some balls to actually try! Some people would go back to mindless f*cking the second that the thought even passes through thier minds that they can get 'hurt' or whatever.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

marqZAL..

I feel your pain bro...I've read your other posts and nod in agreement.

I used to have the same mindset in my head last summer..this was my life's quote: "The next girl I date is going to be Mrs. Right....I'm not going to date anyone for the short-term...I'd rather be single."

But, expecting something before really having it puts too much pressure on you and the girl. There's always a point where the FB's, playing games, DJing in whole gets a bit too much, and settling down with a good girl sounds fine...but...you always ask yourself...IS she miss right? Can I find better? Maybe I miss the single life!!

The grass is always greener...and this is a dilemma I find myself in when I 'WANT' an LTR, but, decide ultimately its not worth it right now in my life.

I'm not quite certain, but, I'm sure when Mrs. Right does come...you won't be asking yourself all these questions.

G'Luck bro

-HQ

 

[OzzyBoy]

I have been hurt pretty badly when i was much younger but i have just learnt that the only way is to have a go and if it turns out alright then good but if you get hurt just think it doesn't matter and get back up again. I have met someone a while ago and i think she is great, i can definately see myself having a good relationship with her, she might even be the one but i try not to think about that because she might not but i think there could be a good chance. You just have to try.

 

[marqZAL]

But, expecting something before really having it puts too much pressure on you and the girl.

It puts way too much pressure on you, it has been driving me insane because its unrealistic. Its unrealistic to think that because I am dating someone for a few weeks that its going to last forever. It can last forever, but the reality that it will is a very dim one.