When to make the moves? (if you even should)

[carlitos]

One important element in the game is push and pull...

You also have to push forward and show sexual dominance or else you would be the "nice guy"..but at the same time you have to be indifferent and not show too much interest.

But my question is...when should you show interest? or you always be baiting her to chase and let her make the moves?

Let's say you see a really hot girl..she took the time to dress up and she knows that she's hot...would it be best to ignore her beauty overall or be bold and even if you get shot down she might chase you back if you show indifference afterwards?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Women do NOT pursue men - GET THAT Out of you head!!

It has nothing to do with push/pull!! It is the natural order of things!!! Men pursue women to whom they attracted!! Do your job as a man and pursue what your eyes dictate!! But do not love her if she is not lovable!!

 

[L777]

One important element in the game is push and pull...

You also have to push forward and show sexual dominance or else you would be the "nice guy"..but at the same time you have to be indifferent and not show too much interest.

But my question is...when should you show interest? or you always be baiting her to chase and let her make the moves?

Let's say you see a really hot girl..she took the time to dress up and she knows that she's hot...would it be best to ignore her beauty overall or be bold and even if you get shot down she might chase you back if you show indifference afterwards?

I don't follow the push/pull thing....its kinda fake imo. I just talk to a girl and act cool, like a normal person would, until you get her alone, and then just go caveman on her....pretty simple but it works for me.

 

[ready123]

push-pull is not an important element. it's a way to develop attraction but there are a ton of tricks out there that do the same thing

and recognize the difference between interest and neediness. you can be interested all you want and it's fine, as long as you subcommunicate you can walk away from her. if you act needy though, it's over

 

[Maxtro]

There is so much conflicting information on this area I don't have a clue what to do.

I know girls see me as non-threatening and I try to get them to open up. I don't have a clue on building attraction so I never get anywhere. The biggest problem is that the vast majority of girls I run into are in relationships. I don't think I've had a conversation with a girl in school who didn't say "my boyfriend" when she was telling me about something she did.

 

[ezily]

It would be better to be bold, because most girls will not take interest in you until they realize your existence. Note - I am not saying to show her interest, but I am saying to make your presence known. Talking to a girl will always trump trying to be cool and not talking to her, because she will never know you exist.

By the way it is usually recommended to start by showing disinterest, but that doesn't mean ignoring your target... it means disqualifying yourself from being a potential suitor. If you can do this effectively you will be seen as non-threatening and she will open herself up to you more, because you aren't interested in just getting a piece. If you can truly make her believe that you are not interested in her, but that you are fun and confident... she will show you interest and try to win your affections! Now you may reciprocate.

I agree.