When the woman is late to the first date

[LMFAO]

I went on a date (really before getting into this gaming scene) to a cafe place in pretty cold weather. Agreed time before hand. I got a text that she's running late. I was standing like a gimp outside some shops waiting for her for another 15 minutes and nothing. I then get another text that she's on the bus and that it will be another 10 minutes.

Eventually she arrives 40 minutes late and apologised, I said no worries :nervous: .

What should I have done, called it off or walked somewhere else and when she arrived telling her that I went shopping or such like and I would be there in 10 minutes?

We then walked to the cafe and got along fine there. A bit of kino but no kiss close.

I called her up a couple of days later and she didn't pick up and never heard from her again.

 

[Sandow]

I've had this happen numerous times.

Just go on with the date as if nothing happened. But internally, this is a huge red flag. Words mean absolutely nothing to me, she can make up any excuse she wants, but her actions let me know who she really is. At the end of the date, I know there's very little chance I'd be calling her again. In fact, she would REALLY have to be banging down my door for a second date.

Of course you didn't hear from her again. Like I said, her actions say everything.

 

[Igetit!]

I went on a date (really before getting into this gaming scene) to a cafe place in pretty cold weather. Agreed time before hand. I got a text that she's running late. I was standing like a gimp outside some shops waiting for her for another 15 minutes and nothing. I then get another text that she's on the bus and that it will be another 10 minutes.

Eventually she arrives 40 minutes late and apologised, I said no worries :nervous: .

What should I have done, called it off or walked somewhere else and when she arrived telling her that I went shopping or such like and I would be there in 10 minutes?

We then walked to the cafe and got along fine there. A bit of kino but no kiss close.

I called her up a couple of days later and she didn't pick up and never heard from her again.

The ONLY saving grace (to me) is this chick texting you that she was running late. This is what I do if a girl is running late.......



If we agree on a time,I usually get there like 5 minutes early. I'll wait 20 to 25 minutes MAX. If she doesn't show up,I'm OUT. (that is,assuming she doesn't call or text you to let you know what's up).


If she doesn't show up after 20-25 minutes,I leave,and I DON'T call or text her to find out where she is. My belief is this....


If a woman can get up,go to work everyday...ON TIME,then she can show up for a date on time as well. If she has the decency to call her employer if she's gonna be late,she can extend that same courtesy to me.


I'm always amazed at how a woman can show up for work on time 5 days a week,but when it comes to a date,all of the sudden,here we go.....her phone died,she lost her phone,she forgot about the date,blah blah blah this,blah,blah,blah that,etc,etc.



Although it's good she texted you to let you know where she was,you should have cut the date SHORT.....ended it early. That would have shown her that you have a life with other things to do and you weren't going to let HER TARDINESS ruin your plans. The date ending sooner than she expected would have motivated her to show up on time if she wanted to see you again.

 

[Trump]

Eventually she arrives 40 minutes late and apologised, I said no worries :nervous: .

Her thinking "Wow, I'm 40 minutes late because I just had sex with my boyfriend and this guy is telling me 'no worries?' Imagine what I could get away with on a second date!"

Come on bro, she made fun of you and you told her it was no problem. Stand up for yourself.

What should I have done, called it off or walked somewhere else and when she arrived telling her that I went shopping or such like and I would be there in 10 minutes?

No bro, you have to make yourself valuable to her, shopping isn't valuable.

 

[LMFAO]

Her thinking "Wow, I'm 40 minutes late because I just had sex with my boyfriend and this guy is telling me 'no worries?' Imagine what I could get away with on a second date!"

Come on bro, she made fun of you and you told her it was no problem. Stand up for yourself.

How?

 

[BeDJ]

40 minutes is a looooonnnnng time, don't let her get away with it. The first word out of your mouth should have been:

I was about to leave, how are you making it up to me?

 

[Zarky]

I leave after 10-15 minutes. One and done. Never would I wait 40 minutes.

 

[buzzin_frog]

she makes you wait...she arrives 40 minutes late...you say "no worries"...you get no kiss...and you expect to hear back from her? LOL... C'mon man....get with it!!....any chick who acts like this is not interested in you....because you are not her top priority!! If you were, she would've been there on time ready to go!!

Here's a tip for you on your future dates....

Never ever ever ever....wait on a woman!! OK?

Your time should be valuable, in that you should never have to wait on a woman to be there on time!! That is disrespectful to you!! 40 minutes is ridiculous!! You should never wait that long for a chick!! No matter what excuses she tries to give you!! Do you think she would be that late to get to an important event? Hell NO!! She should consider you to be important enough to be there on time!! If not, then this chick isn't worth going on a date with!!

If she can't get her butt there on time to have a date with you, then that tells you she is not taking it seriously. In which you shouldn't even have the date. That is when you leave and forget the whole thing!!

Being wimpy and telling her "no worries" just confirms to her that you weren't worth being on time for. That is why you got no kiss...and is why you have silence from her now.

Never be afraid to call a woman out on her sh!t!! She will gain respect for you!!

You saw first hand what happened to you when you were being the typical wimpy nice guy, didn't you?

Waiting on her for 40 minutes in the cold, then telling her "no worries" after you were standing out there like a chump.

And what did you get for doing all that? Nothing!! She gave you a big turd for your troubles....then she ignored you like one!!

This is why being a wimpy nice guy will get you nowhere except on a reject list!! You were afraid to speak up.......you saw where that got you.

Don't let it happen again man!! Don't ever be afraid to speak up to these chicks and tell them what is up!!

If your date can't get there on time......call it off.......It's as simple as that!!

Don't be ever made a fool out of..... or let them treat you like a turd!!

 

[Cremasta]

How long you want to wait really depends on your own tolerance levels here.

Personally, in cold weather, I'd have just gone into the cafe without her after 10-15 minutes and ordered a coffee, then told her to just make her own way there when she got off the bus. If she wasn't there by the time I'd finished my coffee, I'd just leave.

I'm not as harsh with the being late thing, because I have never met a girl who is able to accurately work out how long it takes to get from point A to point B.

 

[Mr Wright]

I would not reply to the text and just go and do something else, so when she turns up and texts you, you can be like "oh im doing XYZ, feel free to join" if she comes...balls in your court

 

[The Duke]

Out of all the girls I've gone out with who were "late", every one of them turned out to be a waste of time.

If you were that important to her she would have been on time. Simple as that.

A girl that is in to you like she needs to be will be all about you and won't give you any flakey crap. It took me a while to realize it, but once you do, you quit tolerating crap like this. You will also be able to predict it before it happens.

The only kind of girl to have is one that is into you first and a lot!

 

[lamobatsman]

she makes you wait...she arrives 40 minutes late...you say "no worries"...you get no kiss...and you expect to hear back from her? LOL... C'mon man....get with it!!....any chick who acts like this is not interested in you....because you are not her top priority!! If you were, she would've been there on time ready to go!!

Here's a tip for you on your future dates....

Never ever ever ever....wait on a woman!! OK?

Your time should be valuable, in that you should never have to wait on a woman to be there on time!! That is disrespectful to you!! 40 minutes is ridiculous!! You should never wait that long for a chick!! No matter what excuses she tries to give you!! Do you think she would be that late to get to an important event? Hell NO!! She should consider you to be important enough to be there on time!! If not, then this chick isn't worth going on a date with!!

If she can't get her butt there on time to have a date with you, then that tells you she is not taking it seriously. In which you shouldn't even have the date. That is when you leave and forget the whole thing!!

Being wimpy and telling her "no worries" just confirms to her that you weren't worth being on time for. That is why you got no kiss...and is why you have silence from her now.

Never be afraid to call a woman out on her sh!t!! She will gain respect for you!!

You saw first hand what happened to you when you were being the typical wimpy nice guy, didn't you?

Waiting on her for 40 minutes in the cold, then telling her "no worries" after you were standing out there like a chump.

And what did you get for doing all that? Nothing!! She gave you a big turd for your troubles....then she ignored you like one!!

This is why being a wimpy nice guy will get you nowhere except on a reject list!! You were afraid to speak up.......you saw where that got you.

Don't let it happen again man!! Don't ever be afraid to speak up to these chicks and tell them what is up!!

If your date can't get there on time......call it off.......It's as simple as that!!

Don't be ever made a fool out of..... or let them treat you like a turd!!

u suggest to call them on it? what if they get pissed off? do you have a right to call them on it if you arent in a rship? iv done this before and they have got pissed off at me and then iv gone and apologised to them for pissing them off

 

[pinkfl]

Unacceptable unless there's a legitimate reason other that "running late"

I will wait 10 minutes for a guy tops
If he doesn't call with a good reason at 15 minutes, I'm going to leave.

 

[lamobatsman]

pink fl: how shud a guy react then to this situation?

 

[pinkfl]

pink fl: how shud a guy react then to this situation?

Call her and ask what time she thinks she will arrive. If she doesn't give a straight answer like "at 3:30" or "5 to 10 minutes because of traffic" then say that you want to reschedule for a better time. And then decide whether or not she's worth a second chance.

Frankly, if I was going to be late to a date, I would call the guy and say "hey, I'm sorry, I'm running late, I had to (insert legit reason for being late here)". I hate texts to be honest but that's just me. I think they are cowardly when you are planning to meet up with someone and you're going to be late.

 

[EastWind]

I usually wait for five minutes and for five more if I got a text explaining a legitimate reason BEFORE the decided-upon time. I.e. if the agreed-upon time was 4pm, and there's no text by then, I will leave at 4:05, else I will wait until 4:10. I've done this before. Word has even gotten around.

If she's really that into you, she'll be waiting for you there.

DO NOT call her. You agreed on a time. Phones are ubiquitous. If there is a problem, she can call or text you.

The MOMENT I walk away at 4:10, I will delete her number.

 

[Velor]

I would never be late at a date with a girl I like
She would never be late at a date with a guy she like

IF- She is late and she lacks a real MOTIVE for being late it means that you are not that important for her.

SO- She values you less than you value her.

YOU just became the weak part of the relationship.

YOU are not the weak part of the relationship. You are the award she must win.

DID YOU EVER SEEN AN ATHLETE ARRIVING LATE AT THE OLYMPICS GAMES?

 

[SamTheHobit]

She should have apologised with a blow job.

Amirite guys?

 

[Megaman XIV]

Those 40 minutes were spent screwing her alpha. And you said Hakuna Matata. B**ch you better Hakuna my Matata!

I don't tolerate female bullsh*t like this, and I wouldn't wait 40 minutes. It places the woman high on a pedestal. I'd drop her f**kin' ass after 10 minutes, and delete her number.

Would she be late to a date with Brad Pitt? I think not.

 

[zinc4]

i have had it happen...it wasn't just 40 minutes..it was well over an hour...but she texted me letting me know how late she would be...i just got a few beers while waiting and when she arrived, she gave a horrible excuse and wasn't that apologetic... i ended up banging her later that night and went NC after that...ignored several texts and calls from her...i mean you are already there and everything..why not go for the quick lay anyways and then cut her off after that...