When the ultimate flake comes crawling back

[Vlad the Impaler]

About a year ago I made a date with this girl for a drink. She called me an hour before the date to confirm. Everything was looking good.

I was driving to meet her, and 5 minutes before I get there the phone rings saying her sister locked the keys out of the house and she can't make it.

It was an obvious lie. She told me she would bake a cake to make it up to me. Did I ever get the cake? Hell no! I did ask her about the cake a couple times when we chatted and she blew it off. I never called her again.

Fast forward to the present and she is trying to talk to me on Yahoo. I chat a little and tell her I'm busy but I gave her my # again (smooth). She starts texting me last weekend and I told her I'm busy.

She called and left a voice mail yesterday asking if I'm busy this weekend. I was going to call her today and set something up but I decided I'm too lazy and I don't feel like it.

I haven't called her back or acknowledged her voice mail at all.

She's sitting online right now like she wants me to talk to her. What if she wants to fool around? But I'm too lazy to put in the effort to make a date with her I don't feel she deserves it.

 

[Mr. Me]

Hey man, how are ya? Read this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=159017

The chick calls a guy a year after she flaked on him, and it turns out she doesn't even remember the dude's name, ROTFL. But note the answers as to why a chick like that calls (especially my answer...)

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Hey man, how are ya? Read this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=159017

The chick calls a guy a year after she flaked on him, and it turns out she doesn't even remember the dude's name, ROTFL. But note the answers as to why a chick like that calls (especially my answer...)

Thanks. I've been alright, how are you?

She did know my name because she said it on the voice mail.

And we have talked sometimes in the past year, but only in chat. So it wasn't a year with no contact. Is this any different?

At this point I'm going to call her next week and play it that way. If I jump on her offer right now, I'll look like a chump.

 

[DJDamage]

At this point I'm going to call her next week and play it that way. If I jump on her offer right now, I'll look like a chump.

Correction: If you call her, you will look like a chump.

I think you failed to understand women's interest level's.

There is no way after she disrespected you like this a year ago that all of the sudden she has woken up from her low interest level's coma and became hot and heavy for you.

Sounds to me like classic AW who is bored and is just reeling you in again.

If you let women walk all over you then don't complain if they do.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Correction: If you call her, you will look like a chump.

I think you failed to understand women's interest level's.

There is no way after she disrespected you like this a year ago that all of the sudden she has woken up from her low interest level's coma and became hot and heavy for you.

Sounds to me like classic AW who is bored and is just reeling you in again.

If you let women walk all over you then don't complain if they do.

I gave her my # again in the chat last week. It's not like this was out of the blue. And I've been acting cool with her and have forgotten about the flake.

Does any of this make a difference?

Maybe she really wants to fool around and I'm going to just blow her off?

 

[DJDamage]

I gave her my # again in the chat last week. It's not like this was out of the blue. And I've been acting cool with her and have forgotten about the flake.

Does any of this make a difference?

What if she keeps chasing me?

Why are you still chatting with a flake that lied to you and made you feel like sh1t?

A flake is a sign of low interest and as a man you should recongnise that and move on.

She isn't really chasing you. Looking you up and chatting with you on the net isn't my definition of chasing.

Chasing is when you constantly bump into her in your usual places of hangout and she goes out of her way so you will notice her.

Chasing is when she calls you crying because you aren't dating her anymore and she wants a second chance.

get my drift?!

Why not get this chick out of your life for good and go after women who haven't flaked on you?!

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Why are you still chatting with a flake that lied to you and made you feel like sh1t?

A flake is a sign of low interest and as a man you should recongnise that and move on.

She isn't really chasing you. Looking you up and chatting with you on the net isn't my definition of chasing.

Chasing is when you constantly bump into her in your usual places of hangout and she goes out of her way so you will notice her.

Chasing is when she calls you crying because you aren't dating her anymore and she wants a second chance.

get my drift?!

Why not get this chick out of your life for good and go after women who haven't flaked on you?!

I already am doing that. I have a date tomorrow with a new girl and I have 5 others I could call. So there is no pain this woman is causing me.

That's why I'm willing to play her game.

 

[DJDamage]

That's why I'm willing to play her game.

Sounds like a waste of time.

Check your ego at the door.

 

[STR8UP]

Chicks like this you either avoid completely, or you TELL them how it is going to go down.

Tell her to meet you somewhere you had already planned to go. NO special plans. She comes to YOU.

That way if she doesn't show you aren't out a damn thing....you already had plans.

If she does show, you have the frame.

You just have to avoid putting yourself into a situation that compromises your own time. If it's on your schedule you have nothing to lose.

 

[ketostix]

Tell her to meet you somewhere you had already planned to go. NO special plans. She comes to YOU.

That way if she doesn't show you aren't out a damn thing....you already had plans.

If she does show, you have the frame.

You just have to avoid putting yourself into a situation that compromises your own time. If it's on your schedule you have nothing to lose.

That's actually a good standard operating procedure for all chicks. Or at least it's how I play it.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Yeah, this girl acts all ****y and tries to be funny, that's the man's job.

One time she was telling me about her dogs, and she said they HATE men. I asked her if the dog sleeps in her bed, and she said YES.

This chic is a man hater it seems, and I don't need another one of those. I was almost killed by one of those recently.

 

[Mr. Me]

She did know my name because she said it on the voice mail.

That wasn't the point. The point was that a woman who flaked, who then recycles back later in time, is contacting you because of some need on her part, but not because of interest in you. Could be any one of a number of things. The guy of course starts thinking he has a shot at her now, and he may if she's bored and horny... if that's the reason she's contacting him (doubtful). But because of her bad history, you don't want a replay of what happened last go around, right? I mean, if I got bit by a rabid dog, and then some months later the dog starts sniffing around me, I'm not gonna go pet it again, am I? So that's why this time around you have to quickly have her sh!t or get off the pot by doing like Str8up or Ketostix suggest or even better, what DJDamage says, which in effect is, use your time on better prospects.

I was just this morning counseling one of our brothers who was hell bent on using his time up on a low interest nut job girl blast from his past that he's been jonsing for, hoping and thinking she may be lonely, bored and horny, and she flaked on him a couple more times, then didn't answer texts and then rang him up, flaked on him again, then called him, finally did keep a date with him (the guy just doesn't listen to my advice), but she had to end things by telling him flat out it wasn't going to happen and why it wasn't going to happen. BOOM. Now he feels like the world's biggest loser. It's a BIG WASTE OF TIME when there's another bus coming any second with more chicks on it.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

That wasn't the point. The point was that a woman who flaked, who then recycles back later in time, is contacting you because of some need on her part, but not because of interest in you. Could be any one of a number of things. The guy of course starts thinking he has a shot at her now, and he may if she's bored and horny... if that's the reason she's contacting him (doubtful). But because of her bad history, you don't want a replay of what happened last go around, right? I mean, if I got bit by a rabid dog, and then some months later the dog starts sniffing around me, I'm not gonna go pet it again, am I? So that's why this time around you have to quickly have her sh!t or get off the pot by doing like Str8up or Ketostix suggest or even better, what DJDamage says, which in effect is, use your time on better prospects.

I was just this morning counseling one of our brothers who was hell bent on using his time up on a low interest nut job girl blast from his past that he's been jonsing for, hoping and thinking she may be lonely, bored and horny, and she flaked on him a couple more times, then didn't answer texts and then rang him up, flaked on him again, then called him, finally did keep a date with him (the guy just doesn't listen to my advice), but she had to end things by telling him flat out it wasn't going to happen and why it wasn't going to happen. BOOM. Now he feels like the world's biggest loser. It's a BIG WASTE OF TIME when there's another bus coming any second with more chicks on it.

I learned a long time ago, right around New Years Eve, to listen to Mr. Me. He knows what he's talking about, and he is right.

 

[decades]

str8up has it right. you call her bluff. she is coming on to you? well you lay down the terms. You say, I am making tea and bisquits at my place and you are invited. Find out her interest level right away. If it's not there you delete all her contact info.

 

[horaholic]

I would do no more than TEXT her, and tell her to come over to your house and make out with you. If she says no, text "Lose my number then, Im not playing your games." You'll either get laid, or be rid of her. Whenever she tries to contact you, just say the same thing. You got nothing to lose here.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I think it's driving her crazy that I haven't returned her call for even acknowledged it.

She expected me to jump as soon as she called.

 

[parrot84]

i dated an AW last year. didn't have a place to bang her, and she lost interrest rapidly and forever! (is she loses interrest it is forever lost)

all the christmas holidays and new years eve she sent me messages on IM (because i updated my myspace account profile specifying i only want sex) making sexual remarks and making me call her!

she insisted so i told her, we're not going to hang out unless is GUARANTEED SEX! (of course i didn't use that language) ! "SHE SAYS YES, OH COURSE!"
REMEBER this was all in IM and sms ! I didn't call her one bit!

One day before the presumed day we were going to met, she called me through a private number so i could't see it was her! (probably she thought i was going to flake her because i didn't call her)

THE DAY OF THE DATE she flaked me ! and of couse i looked like a fool AGAIN!

THE MORAL: At the first sign of low interest ! DUMP THAT BYTCH! and it doesn't really matter what are the reassons her interests are low! maybe she's a LOW SELF ESTEEM WHYRE that does'nt deserve your attention! And most AW are like that! THEY NEED TO BE TREATED LIKE CRAP!

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I decided calling her back is out of the question so I went with this text.

I am making tea and bisquits at my place and you are invited.

Now at least I can say I didn't blow it off completely. And I didn't become a chump by calling her back.

I just sent the text, so we'll see if she replies. I highly doubt she'll come over. She was just looking for an ego boost, like you guys said. She probably just got dumped.