When should I call (unique situation)?

[One on One]

Alright, there was this girl in my class that is now over and I worked on building up rapport with her...got her number. Met her at clubs twice with friends. Danced some, lots of kino, but no kissing yet. Haven't really gotten a chance to be alone with her yet.

The last time we saw each other was the Saturday before last so about 10 days ago. She went on a trip to another city last Wednesday so she wasn't around. She didn't tell me when she was coming back and I didn't ask. Anyways, I know that she is now back (came back either Sunday or Monday), but she doesn't know I know.

I don't want her to lose interest, but I don't want to be over-eager. I figure she was probably busy on her trip and I need to make sure she has time to think of me and why I haven't called. I want to invite her out to the club with me and some friends on Thursday. I will try to isolate her if I feel interest, but I am not ready to ask for a one-on-one situation because I don't want to scare her. I'm not sure if she is just having fun with people or if she wants to hook up.

Alright, so when should I call to ask about Thursday? I'm not even sure if I can go Thursday because I have to see if my friends will go and they aren't always down. Here's the timeline.

6/21 - First time at the club with her
--- Final week of classes ---
6/28 - Last time at the club with her
6/29 - Talk to her online briefly
7/2 - 7/6 - she's out of town
7/8 - TODAY
7/10 - I want to club with her

When I call her, I'm going to ask if she's back from her trip yet (since it's her cell) so I don't appear to know.

 

[Quick]

You haven't talked to her since the 29th. You're not going to look overeager, just like someone who wants to hook up with her. Call her today, or as soon as you know for sure that your friends are going.

 

[One on One]

I really can't know for sure with my friends because they always flake when it comes to going out on the town, but I suppose I could call her and tell her I "might" be going on Thursday...that might even be the best thing I can do for her IL.

 

[DankNuggs]

definitely,

 

[DankNuggs]

definitely about quicks thing. No you should attempt to make a concrete plan, no wishy washy. If your friends flake just go with her...not an issue...She is going to hang out with you anyways, not your friends..Quit trying to play both sides of the coin, be a man, you'll be fine...

 

[Quick]

I second what danknuggs just said. Get yourself some definite plans. If you can't get your friends to commit, just go with her, or ask her somewhere else with just the two of you. That would be a better idea anyway, alone is always better. If you call her up with unsure plans, you give her one more reason to say no. She doesn't want to sit around with indefinite plans, waiting for your friends to make up their minds when they aren't even part of it.

 

[krd]

Believe it or not, I'm kind of in a similar situation. A girl I was hanging out with was going on a cross-country trip (so she claimed) at the end of June for a month. Again, I didn't ask exactly when she'd be coming back. So I'm debating whether I should bother calling her again next month. I've posted quite a few times before about this girl, and I am a bit suspicious of her (won't get into detail here--like I said, I've made numerous posts on the subject). So it's a real tough call.

Looking at your situation objectively, I'd say to just ask her to go, even if your friends don't come, or ask her straight out if she'd like to get together and do something. If it scares her like you seem to think it might, then you'll know right away whether or not you're wasting your time with her.

 

[One on One]

I am about to make some phone calls. This is tough, though, because if my friends don't want to go, then I have to call her and basically ask her out. Since I've learned the DJ way, I've been against asking girls out. I just tell them I'm going somewhere and they should come. But, if I tell her I'm going to the club, she could ask who I'm going with and I'd have to be like, "I was hoping you'd come." Because you can't club alone, at least not tell a girl you are.