When she says "You don't even know me"

[bigneil]

It's happened to everyone. You really like a girl and she stops you at some point and says "You don't even know me". But what does she mean?

I finally figured it out. What she means is: "You don't even know how promiscuous I have been". Think about that for a minute. In other words "If you knew I banged the whole men's basketball team in 11th grade you wouldn't be giving me flowers". Prove her wrong.

I used to get all mad at my girl when she would confess to bad stories, I would lecture them and say I wanted an AIDS test and make them promise never to do bad things again.

But I finally realized that 99% of girls are not as pure as the driven snow, and we are much better off loving them for being the (woman of the night) they are.

Encourage her to talk about it honestly. She won't lie and you won't condemn her. Chances are those stories only turn you on anyway, and should you gain her real trust by loving her despite those stories, she will likely become yours completely.

 

[JLW]

#1, "You don't even know me" could mean any number of things depending on the context. Limiting a vague sentence like that to only one meaning is a bit silly.

#2, There is no use talking to girls about their past relationships and escapades. They'll never give you an honest answer anyway. Talking about those sorts of things is completely useless, and absolutely none of your god damn business in the first place.

#3, You can tell whether a girl is high quality based on how she acts. Since she's not going to tell you how many guys she has been with, you need to quietly analyze her actions... Eventually, she will show her true slvtty colors if she really is a slut. All in due time.

#4 Disclosing information about past relationships would mostly just piss me off. If it's something you want to do, I guess that's cool. But it's not something that I will discuss.

 

[Mike32ct]

The phrase "You don't even know me" for whatever it means, sounds condescending. It could mean "You're not from my clique" or "I've had more wild experiences than you" or "I'm not attracted to you. How dare you talk to me."

To the OP, if you are cool knowing your girl's past that's fine. But you open the door to her asking about yours. Will she be ok with it?

 

[SharinganUser]

OP: That's the worst advice I've ever heard in my life. Love them for the women they are? lol Was that from a John Cusack movie?

 

[bigneil]

Telling them a good story about your past can be key to turning them on, but it is risky. Only if they are asking questions can you do it - and you have to reveal it sentence by sentence so they have a chance to stop you. Ultimately a woman is trying to size you up and see if you were the dumper or the dumpee in the past.

Some here can't just accept what a ho their gf is, but I speak from experience.

 

[Huffman]

Sorry to bash your advice, but to me this sounds like friendzone talk. Sit down and talk about other guys? Maybe if you've been married for 20 years...

 

[BBbardot]

It's happened to everyone. You really like a girl and she stops you at some point and says "You don't even know me". But what does she mean?

I finally figured it out. What she means is: "You don't even know how promiscuous I have been".

oh boy



i swear i laughed so hard my roomate woke up in a jump.^^




oh and it just means "you don't know me enough to want me for the right reason (= for who i am)"
i mean is it that hard to figure out????

I wouldn't use such a cheesy line ever though

and agreed with JLW talking about previous things remove any erotic connction you two mght have. Reeeeally unsexy and just highlight your insecurity. I'd never be horny again about a guy with who i would have sat down and confessed


Once i was just comming back from miami, i told my bf that i teased the guy sitting by me during the flight back the whole night because i found it fun and because he was like hitting on me. While i was pretending to be alseep i would rub my thighs against each other open them a little, slightly brush my knee against his and he was like wide awake but immobile and like not breathing heavy but like sighing each time i did something. haha well you know what my bf reaction was? he said i was a such a bad person and that I turned him on, CONFIDENCE!

op you need to keep some mistery, my bf knows im his, not reliying on the fact he knows who touched me and how but because he knows he has my heart my stomach, and..."the rest" because he is awesome on every evel and has enough confidence about it. I think thats how a couple works not only on the short run, but the medium, the long and the VERY long term...

 

[scribblec]

oh boy



i swear i laughed so hard my roomate woke up in a jump.^^




oh and it just means "you don't know me enough to want me for the right reason (= for who i am)"
i mean is it that hard to figure out????

I wouldn't use such a cheesy line ever though

and agreed with JLW talking about previous things remove any erotic connction you two mght have. Reeeeally unsexy and just highlight your insecurity. I'd never be horny again about a guy with who i would have sat down and confessed and that would have made me feel guilty for having great sex experiences, i mean what's wrong with you, you missed your priest vocation ^^


Once i was just comming back from miami, i told my bf that i teased the guy sitting by me during the flight back the whole night because i found it fun and because he was like hitting on me. While i was pretending to be alseep i would rub my thighs against each other open them a little, slightly brush my knee against his and he was like wide awake but immobile and like not breathing heavy but like sighing each time i did something. haha well you know what my bf reaction was? he said i was a such a bad person and that I turned him on, CONFIDENCE!

dumb slvt

 

[bigneil]

As you can see BBardot, anytime you say something worthwhile you will offend someone.

 

[Atom Smasher]

As you can see BBardot, anytime you say something worthwhile you will offend someone.

I'm still waiting for her to say something worthwhile. Perhaps she would do better in the high school forum.

 

[bigneil]

I thought BBardot validated one of my points, which is that a man's accepting a girls stories of her bad behavior in the past shows confidence.

As far as talking about other women, Nicholas Cage does it perfectly telling Laura Dern about a past story in Wild at Heart (1990) at :48 here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uensSC_hZkQ

 

[scribblec]

I thought BBardot validated one of my points, which is that a man's accepting a girls stories of her bad behavior in the past shows confidence.

As far as talking about other women, Nicholas Cage does it perfectly telling Laura Dern about a past story in Wild at Heart (1990) at :48 here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uensSC_hZkQ

so u think its fine that shes ****teasing random strangers on a plane and then bragging about it to her bf?

edit: rofl the dumb slvt gave me a neg rep

beg to differ. Slut, no. dumb,no. a tease everygirls are tease at some point or another. stop hating girls

i beg to differ, not every girl spreads there legs on a plane trying to give boners to some dude sitting next to her


i wasnt offended im just letting her know what she is