when she says looks don't matter...

[finerthanthenextguy]

Gentleman,

I have been dating this girl for about 5 months now and everything is mostly good. 1 thing that bothers me - She says that people put too much emphasis on looks and it doesn't really matter what you look like as long as there is attraction.

Okay, now she is a flexible giver and I'm not sure why this is bothering me. I am a good looking guy, so why would she even bring this up? It's almost like she's saying, "I hope you don't think I'm with you because of your looks, because I could get an uglier guy and be totally happy with him"

Any advice on why she would have this viewpoint?

Thanks..

 

[Nameless]

Well you could/ve gone the C+F route and said, "well arent you lucky that Ive got a good personality AND Im cute", all the while looking ahead and nodding in self-agreement to your statement.

 

[GQ Prettyboy]

What the h*ll are you complainig about. If she relied solely on looks you would be talking about how shallow she is. She`s probably attracted to beautiful personalities, the beautiful looks are just a bonus.

 

[MysteryWoman]

She's trying to keep your feet un the ground, by saying that she does not worship good looks because you are handsome. If you were ugly, this would be insulting as it means that she is no into your looks.

 

[MysteryWoman]

Sorry about the bad spelling

 

[drZaius09]

Or she's just lying.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by drZaius09
Or she's just lying.

bingo.

Girls *always* say "looks aren't important to me". Sure they're not honey. But I bet you a tonne that if I looked like Quasimodo you wouldn't be sitting here with me right now.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Now looks are important to me....with that said, I've seen chics who hung out, dated, and f*cked guys that looked like Quasimodo....... *shrugs*


Now, I'm a good looking guy, but I ain't no Brad Pitt. My gf, is a babe. She could probably get a Brad Pitt if she wanted to. Not only is she beautiful, but very smart. One night, I caught her staring at me from the corner of my eye. I had been up for days, bags under the eyeballs, unshaved, in need of a haircut, just not feeling good at all, I was getting over a cold. I said, 'Why you staring at me, I look like sh*t.' she replied, 'Shut up, you're gorgeous...' I started to say something when she cut me off and said, ''EH! .....you listen to me, or I'm gonna have to beat you!!"

Truth is, if someone loves you, they see a beauty you can't see, and no matter what you do to yourself (tatts, piercings, dyes) they will always see that beauty that they fell in love with. It's when ya f*ck up a lot, is when they start to see you for what you REALLy look like. LOL!!!



*shrugs*

 

[tamales]

Truthfully, looks are important so is size I mean you have to be attracted to another and fit well together. Period. I don't think she meant to much about it other then trying to show her caring and self assured side and if you are really cute and better looking than her maybe stand some ground. Or if you are way better looking than her she might be a bit insecure. Or just trying to show you that you won't win her alone by your he man studly looks. Sure, baby

No matter, we women say a lot of things. So do men. Actions my friends, that's what to worry about. Not so much what a person says. Unless of course, they tell you they are married, been divorced five times and have an STD. Then I might perk up my ears and take that for face value.

Men usually say exactly what they want and women don't. We are fickle and yes, will continue to drive you men nuts. Pay no attention and forget about it. No biggie.

 

[finerthanthenextguy]

Wow there are some good ideas in there. Thanks

 

[LouieVaton Don]

The name of this post should've been "How Do I Get Rid Of Worry and Insecurity In My Relationship." Screw what she said, are you going to analyze everything she says. IMO it just sounded like a random statement which was not to be paid attention to in the 1st place. Your gonna wind up letting little things continue to bother you and it will start to affect your relationship, remember to remain cool regardless.