When She Doesn't Like the Place

[EyeBRollin]

Hey guys, recovering nice guy here. I'm new to the forum. I'm just getting out of an orbiter role with a previous chick. I spent the last few months learning everything I can about the game. I'm in the process of meeting and dating women just to get more conscious and good with it. Not firmly chasing tail or LTR at the moment, just going with the flow.

Background:
Met this current chick online about a month ago. We've been on three dates. "Meet and Greet" we met for drinks. "Date 1" we met for hot chocolate. "Date 2" she reached out to me and invited me out to a nice restaurant. She paid. I called her early least week to ask her out again for the weekend, but she was heading out of town for a funeral (she counter-offered for other days, but I'm only free on the weekend lately). I texted her and asked her out for Friday with a definite place and time and she responded that she wants to go somewhere else because she doesn't like that place. I'm glad I texted because I haven't run into this situation yet, so I have time to respond.

She prefers to meet me places because she lives with her extended family. I haven't invited her over yet but I'm obviously thinking about ending the night with her at my place. We've kissed but haven't had that privacy.

Three questions:

-Do I just pick a different place or is that not maintaining my frame? I actually want to go there, lol.

-What is the best way to get her back to my place?

-In the future, how do I handle if I were to pick up a chick and we get to the spot and she doesn't like it?

Thanks, guys!

 

[Harry Wilmington]

More details, please - what was the place you asked her out to?

 

[EyeBRollin]

Bar and Grill restaurant. Mid price range.

She didn't do any touching really until the last time we went out. Lots of war paint, nice dress, hair and make up well done. That's when I kissed her. The last place we went to wasn't all that cheap. I was surprised when she paid.

 

[thatfeel]

If a girl doesn't like a place then you just need a back up in mind, that's all. Be firm in your decision and base it on any hints she dropped(if any).

If a girl doesn't like a place and she suggests ya'll go to another location called XYZ, that's a sh!t test, she's testing to see if you'll let her get away with stuff, when this happens politely tell her you either want to check out where you planned to go or you make another choice on where to go as like in the first situation. Don't let her dictate the location of the date at this point.

 

[EyeBRollin]

She didn't suggest a location. She just said she doesn't like that place and we should try something else. I'll keep the backup in mind for future.

The question is... how much does logistics play into it at this point? Again, the goal is to get her back to my place.

 

[gravityeyelids]

Don't think too much into it. If a girl wants to meet up with you, she'll assist you in making it happen. Logistics are the boring, necessary part of gaming. I've had crazy sexual conversations with girls and then when we've gotten down to making plans, sometimes there was a good couple dozen txts exchanged purely to find a date, time and place to meet up. She could have a number of reasons for not wanting to go there. You give her one alternative, and if for somereason she gives you sh1t for the next place you pick and doesn't offer an alternative then assume shes just not into you and find another girl.

You should not be listing off four or five places until she is satisfied. Nor should you be bending to her every insistence unless it's reasonable and she has a good reason for it. You're a man and don't have time for bullsh1t. She's already conveyed very high interest by reaching out to you and paying for you. You're probably not making bold enough moves.

In all honesty.. She's an online chick. You should be trying to bang her. She might even be thinking "why isn't this guy trying to fvck me yet?". hell, after the dinner date you probably couldve just said " hey lets go back to your/my place for a night cap". If it were me? After one or two dates in public you can go RIGHT to suggesting a meetup directly at the location you're going to bang her. (Her house or yours) this can range from something as simple/obvious as wine and a movie, or you can get a little more creative and suggest that you cook for her. Honestly you just need to give girls an excuse to bang you so they don't feel slutty. Sh*t I've told girls stuff as lame as meeting up to play cards or a ****ing board game and banged them. You can give them downright stupid reasons to meet up (wanna check out my pet rabbit?) As long as you don't directly imply that you're going to fvck. Hell, with slvtty online girls you can even pretty much imply you two are going to fvck after a few public dates

 

[thatfeel]

Honestly you just need to give girls an excuse to bang you so they don't feel slutty.

lol this so hard, every time.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Well... I took that advice to heart. LOL.

I sent over a "that's all I had a taste for. You're welcome to come by and we can cook something together." She said "ohh. Ok, that place is fine."

shrug. I was honest. The reason I asked her to that place is because I wanted to go there. My interest is lukewarm.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Bar and Grill restaurant. Mid price range.

Ah, okay then, thanks...

So, this is what I call a "yellow flag" issue. It's when a girl does something that could either indicate a serious problem, or isn't really a big deal but doesn't have enough of an explanation yet for you to get the full picture.

Here's what I mean:

Right now, she's rejecting the date location choice but you don't know why. If it's because she's bossy and wants to wear the pants in the relationship by choosing every place you guys go, it would be a "red flag" and you'd bail.

However, she may also have a reasonable objection to going to that restaurant. Maybe she has an ex that works there and doesn't want to run into him. Or, maybe she got food poisoning there one time. Or she got banned from going there. Or she went to a birthday there the day before and doesn't want to eat at the same place twice in one week. I could go on - but the point is, she has a definitive reason she doesn't want to go there, which would be a "green flag" and you'd just pick another place.

Right now, you don't know which one it is. What you do know, though, is that she still wanted to keep the date, so it's not a sign of waning interest.

Anyway... when "yellow flag" issues come up, you proceed with caution just like at a yellow light. Take her to another spot, and during the date just casually ask her why she didn't want to try out the other place and see what she says. Based on her answer, you can better determine her reasoning for rejecting the place and decide if the answer gives her a "red" or "green" flag. Hope this helps!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Bro its date 3. Grab your nut sack and tell her you are going to cook dinner for her and to come over. If she has any sexual interest in you at all, she is going to be all over it. Women want sex just as much as men do, and they frustrated when they don't get it. And guess who she blames? YOU.

Women LOVE guys that cook for them, I don't know what it is, but as long as you make something halfway edible you can pretty much guarantee you are going to get laid.