here is a book a playette may read. it actually teaches some of the same exact principles we preach here on ss eg. playing hard to get. some of the techniques in this book are exactly what brings guys here to ss in the first place regarding b****y behavior eg flaking, aw's, on and off ioi's
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Love-...=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1297373916&sr=1-1
"So when Sherry suggests, acting a little aloof at first, this may seem counterintuitive, but it works. Staying out of relationship mode for a while, bypasses our natural defenses, and it works. Not giving away your personal power by being too much of a pleaser works. Communicating succinctly, I like that one.
Probably the most important lesson from this book is the importance of communication. A woman who calls a guy on his behavior, is showing several powerful things, she demonstrates higher value by not accepting bad behavior, she is not afraid to convey her feelings even if this might offend the guy, she is not timid and unassertive, she keeps the lines of communication honest, and open."
it's quite disconcerting. a guy from ss would never be able to hit it off with a hb who reads this book. it's a lose-lose situation