when jokes become insults

[DJ_in_making]

I have some friends and they always joke about me. B/c I do some pretty humorous stuff, both on purpose and by accident.
But it's got to the point where they'd start being sarcastic for obvious things or giving me the 'silent stare'.
I'm like "SARCASM ONLY WORKS FOR CRAP THAT'S SUPER OBVIOUS!" I hate people who use sarcasm for stuff that could'a easily been misinterpreted.
I know how to laugh at myself but imo, joking is for short-term stuff, and if you joke about someone every day it becomes an insult. Because think about it,

there is some truth to EVERY joke, there has to be a reason someone said it.

When I stop laughing at them laughing at me they say "lighten up!" "Quite taking everything so personal"

I'm like "I've been lightened up the whole time. I just choose not to be degraded! Is that too much to ask?"

What are y'alls opinion on this guys?

 

[dip]

i had some friends that were like that last year-im not friends with them anymore.

its one thing when they do it once in a while, but once they start saying stuff every day it begins to piss you off...i basically gave them a heads up that i didnt like what they were doing...they continued doing it...and i had to cut them off.

i recently started talking to them again...and everything was fine for a while but there starting to do it again...so im haning out as less as possible with them.

 

[WastelandWarrior]

Every male I've ever know for more than a month has always done this. I honestly cannot think of one single exception to this. Co-workers, casual aquaintences (sp?), good friends, family... its all the same.

This is what men do. We make fun of one another. I banged your mom last night. God, you look like douchebag in that shirt. What's it like being hung like an ant? That fat chick over there is staring at you.

You gotta give it right back to them. Never take it personally.

 

[jayneumann]

I don't know about that; it seems that some people do it for a power trip, to massage their insecurities.

Friends tease each other, but there is always a social line that friends never cross. *******s do it to degrade/diss people. Trust your instincts and avoid the latter.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by jayneumann
I don't know about that; it seems that some people do it for a power trip, to massage their insecurities.

Friends tease each other, but there is always a social line that friends never cross. *******s do it to degrade/diss people. Trust your instincts and avoid the latter.

Friends can end up doing it to massage their insecurities also.
One of my friend does this quite often actually.

But a lot of times the best thing to do is throw it back to them or respond, "what does that have to do with anything." then they'll be speechless.

Or usually for me i just ignore him. Cause i know he's just venting.

 

[C00L]

my friends and i always bust on eachother. but we've been friends for like 5 yrs so nothing we say will really be a true diss because we know eachother so well.

I mean if ur friends are being blatant *******s then tell them.

"dude quit being such a ****ing douchebag". they will get the message.

U need to know how to take a joke, and come back at them on a diss...you need to differentiate between the 2.

 

[jayneumann]

I think that we can instinctually tell when the line's being crossed between harmless teasing and power tripping. They stop being your friends when they attempt to force you into a subservient role. I personally avoid people who can't stop themselves from crossing the line between joking around, and power grabbing/ego boosting. If someone needed to pump their ego, they shouldn't do so to hurt and at the expense of their friends (or anyone else for that matter).

But I realize that it's really a personal call. If you think that the friendship is worth more than this character deficiency, and are able to tolerate it/not let it get to you, then by all means let it go. However, you've got to deal with it yourself as soon as possible; there is no reason for brooding.