Copied from my blog - A Dark Heart
Q: When does it count?
A: When penis enters vagina.
Nothing else is of any consequence; it is simply a means to this end. Seems obvious, but a lot of guys forget this and end up dragging out a dead end. Makeouts, mutual masturbation, oral sex, none of it matters until you are doing the act of procreation. Contraception or not, it is a woman’s hind brain acknowledging that you are worthy of a 9 month genetic propagation. Whether this comes to fruition is irrelevant – the possibility is real.
In all of your interactions with women, outside of family, business, and those you are not physically attracted to, your ultimate motivation is penetration. The inveterate player has an added layer of strategy (pivots in the Girls Network, jealousy ploys within a social group), but for most it’s this simple. Meaningless banter, kino, ‘dates’, these should all be approached with a sense of purpose. While outcome independence may be the name of the game (and is the proper attitude to adopt), there’s still a desirable outcome and its opposite. After all, it is a time investment and like all investments you hope for a given return.
The past few years in particular have seen a significant increase in what actually constitutes a higher chance of scoring. When texting was just making its rounds, getting a girl’s digits was a big deal. She was interested and there was a good chance for a date and as long as you played it cool, she may have granted you access to her shop. This is not the world we live in today. Phone numbers, texting, Facebooking, and so on – mean nothing. You can go out and collect 100 numbers, most legit, and convert 0.
Get a girl alone in a semi-private environment (take your pick, I stick to lounges with couches) and your chances skyrocket. They key is to make the most efficient use of your time and to observe a woman’s actions only, never her words.
Is she not replying to your calls or texts?
She’s not very interested. Women keep their phones closer than their children. A great way to gauge interest level is in how quickly she responds.
Is she flaking on you?
She’s not interested enough. You’re on the B team. Or the C team. Probably the water boy.
Is she holding out past 2-3 dates?
You don’t give her the tingles. Hopefully you didn’t invest too much time or money. Move on.
Is she only up for lunch, or coffee, or dinner, but never drinks and never alone?
She’s not interested, but needs something to talk about with her girlfriends, has nothing better to do, feels like venting, wants free food, or all of the above. She’s not warming up. Move on.
Life is too short to waste your time on women who aren’t interested (enough). Everything has a price and your time is worth more than any amount of money. You have to establish a cut-off. 2-3 dates max. Unless she’s an 8+ or 2 points above you, don’t bother past the first date. In rare cases you’ll get girls who really like you, want to play down their slutty past, or some combination thereof, and will hold out on the first date. These are worth pursuing a second time, but you’ll know without a doubt. You’ll get almost everything but sex. In this case it’s ok to chase a little.
I have an acquaintance who’s been ‘dating’ a virgin for almost a year now. Ultimate blue balls. I don’t feel sorry for him in the least bit. He chose this path and is now so ego invested that he willingly gives up other opportunities just to stay with her. She’s cute, but no ***** on earth is worth waiting this long. Whatever sex fantasy he has on wedding day will be a major disappointment. Furthermore, what if they break up beforehand? What if she drinks a little much when out one night and ‘it just happens’ with her nearest alpha? What if she cheats on him shortly thereafter? Can you imagine the devastation? All that temporal, financial, and emotional investment for 0 return. It’s not a far stretch.
You owe it to yourself to be ruthless. Life is war. Love is war. When you live life on your own terms, you begin attracting people who take you seriously and repel those who just want to waste your time. The next time you’re interacting with a woman you’re interested in, repeat to yourself: penis in vagina. Are you getting any closer? If so, how long will it take? If not, leave.
And when penis goes in vagina, high five yourself. Well played.
Q: When does it count?
A: When penis enters vagina.
Nothing else is of any consequence; it is simply a means to this end. Seems obvious, but a lot of guys forget this and end up dragging out a dead end. Makeouts, mutual masturbation, oral sex, none of it matters until you are doing the act of procreation. Contraception or not, it is a woman’s hind brain acknowledging that you are worthy of a 9 month genetic propagation. Whether this comes to fruition is irrelevant – the possibility is real.
In all of your interactions with women, outside of family, business, and those you are not physically attracted to, your ultimate motivation is penetration. The inveterate player has an added layer of strategy (pivots in the Girls Network, jealousy ploys within a social group), but for most it’s this simple. Meaningless banter, kino, ‘dates’, these should all be approached with a sense of purpose. While outcome independence may be the name of the game (and is the proper attitude to adopt), there’s still a desirable outcome and its opposite. After all, it is a time investment and like all investments you hope for a given return.
The past few years in particular have seen a significant increase in what actually constitutes a higher chance of scoring. When texting was just making its rounds, getting a girl’s digits was a big deal. She was interested and there was a good chance for a date and as long as you played it cool, she may have granted you access to her shop. This is not the world we live in today. Phone numbers, texting, Facebooking, and so on – mean nothing. You can go out and collect 100 numbers, most legit, and convert 0.
Get a girl alone in a semi-private environment (take your pick, I stick to lounges with couches) and your chances skyrocket. They key is to make the most efficient use of your time and to observe a woman’s actions only, never her words.
Is she not replying to your calls or texts?
She’s not very interested. Women keep their phones closer than their children. A great way to gauge interest level is in how quickly she responds.
Is she flaking on you?
She’s not interested enough. You’re on the B team. Or the C team. Probably the water boy.
Is she holding out past 2-3 dates?
You don’t give her the tingles. Hopefully you didn’t invest too much time or money. Move on.
Is she only up for lunch, or coffee, or dinner, but never drinks and never alone?
She’s not interested, but needs something to talk about with her girlfriends, has nothing better to do, feels like venting, wants free food, or all of the above. She’s not warming up. Move on.
Life is too short to waste your time on women who aren’t interested (enough). Everything has a price and your time is worth more than any amount of money. You have to establish a cut-off. 2-3 dates max. Unless she’s an 8+ or 2 points above you, don’t bother past the first date. In rare cases you’ll get girls who really like you, want to play down their slutty past, or some combination thereof, and will hold out on the first date. These are worth pursuing a second time, but you’ll know without a doubt. You’ll get almost everything but sex. In this case it’s ok to chase a little.
I have an acquaintance who’s been ‘dating’ a virgin for almost a year now. Ultimate blue balls. I don’t feel sorry for him in the least bit. He chose this path and is now so ego invested that he willingly gives up other opportunities just to stay with her. She’s cute, but no ***** on earth is worth waiting this long. Whatever sex fantasy he has on wedding day will be a major disappointment. Furthermore, what if they break up beforehand? What if she drinks a little much when out one night and ‘it just happens’ with her nearest alpha? What if she cheats on him shortly thereafter? Can you imagine the devastation? All that temporal, financial, and emotional investment for 0 return. It’s not a far stretch.
You owe it to yourself to be ruthless. Life is war. Love is war. When you live life on your own terms, you begin attracting people who take you seriously and repel those who just want to waste your time. The next time you’re interacting with a woman you’re interested in, repeat to yourself: penis in vagina. Are you getting any closer? If so, how long will it take? If not, leave.
And when penis goes in vagina, high five yourself. Well played.
