When is it right to get angry at women?

[WestCoaster]

OK, strange question here. I have a real laid back attitude, almost so much that most women just view me as a friend until they wake up and smell the coffee and realize I'm the best thing that ever happened in their life.

Anyway, I get these women who always dump their sh-t on me. Some of it is just whack, like this gal the other night who told me she felt "stupid" because she almost married this guy she didn't know. I knew it was stupid, it was stupid all along, it was REAL stupid, yet my reply was, "No biggie, you gave it your best shot."

When I got home I thought, hey, that's the stupid relationship that pissed me off last year as she yanked me around like a stupid fool not telling me about this clown. And I sat back and took it?!

On one hand, it's water under the bridge and being angry about it would look AFCish. On the other hand, perhaps lighting into her a bit, like saying, "Uh yeah, that was the dumb-a$$ move of the decade," perhaps would've been better.

I often go home after dates with some of these whacked out women and it's like retroactive anger about stupid stuff they told me, but I was too laid back/kick back to get into it at the time. My anger builds up later.

Thoughts anyone?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

When they piss you off

Actually, it's not quite so simple. But when they push you so far that you must.

I used to volunteer work with kids, and they push and push until you're forced to get angry with them or lose their respect - women are the same. Stand up for yourself.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Getting angry is not the problem, the way it is conveyed and handled should be the concern.

 

[Starman]

Just say "You know, that really sucks..I have a number to a really good shrink if you want to discuss this with him"

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Was she telling you that she was stupid for almost getting married and looking for you to tell her that she isn't stupid? Is she just fishing for compliments?

Are you trying to bang her? If so, then tell her what she wants to hear and fukk her like a $10 whorre in the back seat of you car.

I think you're over analyzing the situation and getting angry at it later on. Take it all with a grain of salt. If you decide you aren't compatible with the woman after that date, then move on. Stewing about what you should have said gets you no where. It's not like you lost out financially by not saying the right thing at the right time. You definitly wouldn't have gotten laid any faster by calling her stupid for what she did.

Cheers!

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Getting angry is not the problem, the way it is conveyed and handled should be the concern.

Thinking the same thing. We're human, so we all have feelings. It's whether you can control them or not that's the issue.

 

[Healer]

Some girlfriends of mine really liked it when I get angry, I dont know why. Maybe its because im usually really laid back too, so when I actually do get angry they get excited.

It always ended in some seriously vigorous and wild crazy monkey sex.


But being angry all the time is bad news and chicks wont stay with you.

The happy medium for me lies in the area where getting angry at other people not at her, or when other people offend her or you, get angry.

when it comes to being angry at her its when she pushes an issue too far. Girls like men with backbones.

 

[WestCoaster]

Backbone not the problem

I used to be fairly intense, get wound up about a lot of useless stuff and I could feel my health slipping because of this. I REALLY mellowed when I started attending grad school. Between the program I was in and the DJ site, everything just flowed together in my life and few things bothered me.

It's not that I don't have backbone, it's just that compared to some of the things I've seen, heard, and experienced the past few years through work and internships, well, my life problems are miniscule.

But yeah, I often get mad on my own after I hear some stupid sh-t from women that I'm going out with. It's weird.