Unlock the Secrets to Dating Success

New to the SoSuave forum? Start your journey to becoming a dating rockstar with our essential guide.

This comprehensive resource will give you the tools and strategies you need to overcome obstacles, build confidence, and attract the women you've always wanted.

Don't let another day go by without taking control of your dating life - start now and get ready to experience the success and fulfillment you deserve.

Thanks for visiting, and I look forward to your success!

when c&f goes bad

n00bPimp

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 15, 2005
Messages
977
Reaction score
39
Age
40
Have you ever gone so far with a C&F comment that the girl got pissed off? I'm not talking about while picking up but with girls that you had some dates with.
Last night I was talkng on IM with a girl, she's the type of person that shows off, for example she likes to talk about the guys that like her as if trying to make me jealous or something. She told me she was going to a male-friend's and that they were "going to watch a movie" at his house (She used quotes to say this). So i told her "oh yeah that reminds me, i have to buy condoms" to which she replied "i dont really care, I don't need to know that" then I replied with "yeah b/c you dont even know a condom is". she got pretty pissed off at this saying that I dont know her private life and other similar stuff along with curse words. She ended up blocking me from aol and myspace.
The point is I'm wondering if the C&F comment itself was rude enough to make her hate me or is it other parts of the relationship that could've made a rude c&F be the last straw?
Has anybody had a similar experience. Please share thanx.
 

Serialized3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2003
Messages
1,151
Reaction score
18
Location
CO
The lack of ability to express tonality and body language makes IMs a pretty bad medium to run game. Things that would normally have a girl laughing in person or on the phone can be taken seriously over IM and pissing her off.

Or maybe she's just on the rag. ;)
 

Serialized3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2003
Messages
1,151
Reaction score
18
Location
CO
Example from me a couple years ago, when C&F went bad over IM:

girl: You're not a player, are you?
me: I've never answered that question without getting into trouble
girl: Well I don't associate with players

d'oh...never recovered from that either, and earlier we were talking about showering together..oh well, rack it up to experience...
 

Rocko

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 8, 2006
Messages
267
Reaction score
2
Location
Los Angeles, California
well, noobpimp, it doesn't go right when (just like serialized said) you don't express it in the right tone and **** like that. What you can do over an AIM is always add "?!?!" when you ask her something thats C&F so that she knows you aren't really being serious, and if the girl does get mad at you for being C&F you can always say "jeez, somebody can't take a joke, how do people hang out with you?" then laugh. There is always the C&F serious approach which is basically what it sounds like. You can be C&F and be serious about what you are talking about because the bigger the lie, the more likely they are to believe it (citation is paradigm artisan, not me on that last part).
 

Bourne

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 26, 2005
Messages
453
Reaction score
6
Your problem was you did this on AIM.

Were you going to run kino tests over AIM too?

Being fun and busting her balls requires being there and being able to use 93% of body language with her (body language, voice tonality) not being on AIM.

Just move on like it was nothing. Don't go back and revisit this with her, just keep moving forward.
 

realsmoothie

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 30, 2006
Messages
1,064
Reaction score
9
I was going to post this as a seperate thread, but am now going to piggy on this one. I did a bit of c&f and am not sure if I overdid it or not.

So a customer comes into my store yesterday... a real cutie who I've been slowly chatting up in a distinctly non-flirty fashion for a few weeks.

She's a waitress, and starts complaining about not making enough money. Says that maybe she'll have to start stripping. I laugh and say that it can be a pretty good way to make cash *if* you're built for it (sarcastic "if") to which she laughs out loud and goes "fvck you".

Anyhow we chat for a minute or two more, I point out this movie that she's renting and ask if it was a messed up movie (about a girl who cuts herself). She says yes... and is on her way out the door (getting a bus) when she says back
"maybe I'll end up cutting myself because of it".

She's almost out the door when I reply "well, that's not going to help your stripping career" which gets another laugh... but she's practically out the door.

My question: was this working? I know I didn't get a number or anything... but do you think she was offended? It was hard to tell because maybe she was laughing defensively.

Any suggestions where to take this next time?
 

mrRuckus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 14, 2005
Messages
4,442
Reaction score
87
Serialized3 said:
Example from me a couple years ago, when C&F went bad over IM:

girl: You're not a player, are you?

"do you seriously expect an answer to that?"
 
Joined
Mar 18, 2006
Messages
3,958
Reaction score
36
Noob, haha, that was actually a very good and funny response!! Quick witted!

But hors don't like others implying that they are hors thus her dissatisfaction! Don't worry, there are other hors in the sea, and on land, and in the air!!!
 

brenbaus

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 3, 2005
Messages
437
Reaction score
1
Age
37
Location
Grovetown, GA, USA
realsmoothie said:
I was going to post this as a seperate thread, but am now going to piggy on this one. I did a bit of c&f and am not sure if I overdid it or not.

So a customer comes into my store yesterday... a real cutie who I've been slowly chatting up in a distinctly non-flirty fashion for a few weeks.

She's a waitress, and starts complaining about not making enough money. Says that maybe she'll have to start stripping. I laugh and say that it can be a pretty good way to make cash *if* you're built for it (sarcastic "if") to which she laughs out loud and goes "fvck you".

Anyhow we chat for a minute or two more, I point out this movie that she's renting and ask if it was a messed up movie (about a girl who cuts herself). She says yes... and is on her way out the door (getting a bus) when she says back
"maybe I'll end up cutting myself because of it".

She's almost out the door when I reply "well, that's not going to help your stripping career" which gets another laugh... but she's practically out the door.

My question: was this working? I know I didn't get a number or anything... but do you think she was offended? It was hard to tell because maybe she was laughing defensively.

Any suggestions where to take this next time?

Sounds like you did okay to me, next time get her number or email, then let the chase begin
 
Top