When Attraction Attacks Like a Mole in Hiding...

Duke

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Intro:
Take this as a mini-field report and some observations I made in passing. It looks long, but it really isn't. I try to break up the paragraphs to make things easy on the eyes. Anyways, read it all and you're a real topcat. Grazi, enjoy! :)

Last night, after a little rinky-dink carnival sponsored by a school, my friend agreed to take me, another dude, and some chick home. We drop the chick off first, and she invites us into her house cuz my non-driving, AMOG friend wanted to add some lime to his alcoholic beverage.

In we go!

Now this girl isn't what I call classically beautiful...she's not ugly, but nothing about her immediately jumped out at me. She's definitely got Latino blood in her... dark skin, jet black hair... other than that, she is skinny and in fact her teeth are crooked in places.

I walked into her house reluctantly cuz it was getting late and I was ready to head home. But I didn't want to be rude, so I listlessly participated in the conversations going on. She introduced me and my two pals to 'alcholic cherries,' which is a funny-tasting concoction of a jar of cherries and vodka.

Her refridgerator was plastered with a bunch of small magnetic words; you can move the words around to create sentences. Just a few of the sentences I found... "Insane intimacy" "Grab his ugly father's nuts" and some other really perverted things that made me chuckle.

I moved over to the fridge because I really wasn't digging the conversation anymore. One of my friends headed outside to talk to his g/f on the phone (he's a touch AFC), but me, K, and AMOG had fun making sentences with the word magnets. She laughed at some of the sick sentences I was creating and even appended them for me. It's around this time that I got blindsided...

I can't put my finger on exactly what it was about her, and it's driving me nuts. The way she carried herself... very coy and shy but still open and vulnerable. She casually leaned on me from time to time, and when she bent down to get some words from the lower half of the refridgerator, her long hair brushed my arm and my face.

That mysterious "something" about her set off a chain reaction.

While she was down there searching for words, my mind said "fukk you" to logic and began to imagine her giving me head.
Finally when everyone went to talking again, her eyes caught me knocked me back. They were very large and had a feminine curvature to them. Deep, deep honey-brown eyes. Also...the whole night we were at the carnival I failed to notice that she was wearing a sleeveless shirt with a plunging V in it!

Oh...my...goodness. lol Cleavage heaven my friends :D

Her tits were just amazing, and as I said, I started noticing all this about her in an instant, during a period of about 30 minutes. I began to imagine her with no clothes, and I could see that she was obviously getting bored at AMOG's baseball war stories, so I asked her what she was doing the next day.

She said she was going to prom, then the next day she was going to work. I asked where at. She tells me "Ma's Pizzeria." And I'm like "OMG! NO! That place fukkin' rocks!!" Because it does. Looking back, my enthusiasm was made all the more believable by the t-shirt I was wearing which sported the Italian flag on the front. Well, tomorrow, she's gonna hook up me and my friends with a shytload of pizza for a very small fee.

I was really into her at this point and I noticed a painting on her wall that I thought was really cool. "Whoa, who painted that?" I asked. "Oh that's mine." "Ah, cool, nice use of perspective, I like it!" Her: "Haha, thanks. Let me show you my artwork!"

Weeeeee

She seemed to be really proud of herself as we made our way to her room. She showed us the various art hanging up in her room. My 2 friends quickly got off the topic of her art and started blabbing on about something or other, so I went over to her movie collection to check out what she had. She had good enough taste in flicks. I was leaning over the back of a chair to get a good glimpse of them, when she reaches around my chest and tells me with a giggle, "Come on" and we go back into the living room.

AMOG tickled her before we left and she was responsive to that, but fukk him. He thinks he's Wonder-Player and that HE can instruct ME in the fine arts of pimpology. But he never has any long-term relationships b/c he gets whipped easily and unwittingly glides into the friendzone b/c he is too fukkin friendly.

AHEM

K gives me a big hug and says "It was nice hanging out with you, Duke!!" Hm, she used my name. When people like you a lot, they call you by name. Either they like you or they're trying to sell you something. I reply, "Yeah, you too...K." Heh, I had to think of her name cuz before those 30 minutes, I didn't feel the need to remember it.

To surmise for you lazy-ass bastards that scrolled down here (just read it all already!!):
I previously was NOT interested in this girl

SOMTHING drew me to her... What? I do not know.

I learned a bit about her as a PERSON, her interests and hobbies

In turn, I liked her more because of our common views on things

She did a painting of Buddha! How cool is that?! :D

As I saw her as more likeable, I began to notice her feminine charms :D

The way she carried herself and casual kino attracted me to her more

I feel like I got ambushed. I feel as if I SHOULDN'T like this girl, but I do.
And she's hooking me up with a 2 dollar large pizza tomorrow for lunch. OMFG ONEITUS

Haha, psyche. I got other girls on my mind to keep me busy. BUT I pose a few questions to you, the reader:

1. Have you ever been knocked off-balance by an average girl? Did you question why?
2. If so, what do you think is this "indescribable quality" that made her attractive to you?

I'm sorry I couldn't make this more mechanical or more logical, and I know I'll sound like a love-struck AFC to some of the do-gooders around here, but thats not the case. My perceptions of a rather average looking girl were destroyed in a matter of minutes. A girl I originally rated a 6.7 on the HB scale jumped mysteriously to an 8.3. A fluke? I dunno.

For what it's worth, I'll admit that a girl's looks mean a lot to me. So I feel like I'm not being congruent with myself. But at the same time that supposed 'average looking' girl now seems genuinely hot to me.

Does anyone have any ideas about this? Can anyone explain it? It's the weirdest thing.
 

Señor Fingers

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Hi Duke!

Long time no speak buddy. I remember you were asking a while back how to communicate sexually. It was in your Progress Journal. I posted a response to your question. Did ya ever read it?

Anyways, its nice to hear you are having fun discovering sexual state!

Basically you are letting nature take its course. Your logical mind has little to do with this state as it is more of a bodily/sensual awareness. You simply relax and let your creative mind conjure up the naughtiest fantasies imaginable. The result.. you get turned on (duh!) And believe it or not, women are attracted to guys who are genuinely turned on. Its one of the secrets of the jerk!

Also, when she brushed you with her hair, you probably got a nice whiff of her scent, (pheremones) which are naturally designed to trigger your manly responses.

I could go on, but my time is a bit short. If you are interested in learning more about this phenomenon, Gunwitch talks extensively about sexual state in his method. Do a search for Gunwitch Method. Its in the tips section.

peace bro
 

golf299

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all right, duke... let me just say that you're not alone...

over the last couple weeks i have experienced the same thing.

i have known this girl for almost a year. we've been classmates, one class each semester. now, i never thought i would want to ask her out. but recently the kino has been stepping up, we're always making each other laugh, and you can just feel the chemistry. it is sooo weird.

i can't pinpoint exacly what happened to explain the change in my feelings. this is definitley the first time ive been attracted to someone's personality before their looks. it feels quite good. every time i look at her she become more attractive to me.

i feel ya bro...some things are just beyond explanation.

let us know what happens!!
 

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Duke, my man!

You have it in you to be one of the great DJs of our time. If I recall correctly from your journal you seem to have all of these girls just waiting for you to take control of the situation and **** 'em! I hope you got K's number. With all of these women, how on earth did you only hook up for the first time a few weeks ago?

1. Have you ever been knocked off-balance by an average girl? Did you question why?
Ohhh yes. The majority of the girls I have been with this year have been average. I never thought about it at the time, but after I got over them I realized that they really aren't that attractive.

2. If so, what do you think is this "indescribable quality" that made her attractive to you?
What attracts ugly guys to hot girls? That's right, it's our good friend confidence! If a girl is confident in herself as a sexual being, then that will turn you on more than almost anything else she can do.

The last few girls I've hooked up with have been pretty, but not fantastic. I actually had friends coming up to me and saying things like, "Matt, you hooked up with Jane? I guess she's alright, but you can do better..." or, "Matt, you're dating Amy? If you like them that short, do whatever you want."

These girls attracted me because of the confidence that they exuded. Jane just grabbed my ass and kissed me at a party. Amy just grabbed my head and started sucking on my neck, at a party. After that I was hooked on them!

Think about it - would you want a cheerleader who doesn't make eye contact with you and is afraid to do more than peck you on the cheek, or a girl who's a 7 and is more than happy to tell you when she wants sex? Or, better yet, just initiate it? K was kinoing you, which shows confidence and interest. That's why you like her.
 

duke007

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Nice field report duke! You know what you have to do after pizza!

Falling for a plainer looking girl is common, this is how AFCs get oneitis as you are finding out for yourself. My oneitis was a 6! But ever since I got rejected and ripped off the bandaid, the good features of her personality disappeared and I only saw an average 6.

Just like golf's story this is happening to me with a girl in class. She has an excellent personality (surprisingly funny for a girl), is confident and receptive to c+f. For instance, during a lecture she is bored, so she just playfully hits me on the thigh for no reason. This turns into a subtle game of footsies. There is definite chemistry, but when I first saw her I rated her a 6.5-7.

One day she came to class with makeup and a suit for a job interview, and she looked like an 8! It was very satisfying to see her looks match her personality.

It works in reverse too, I nexted a girl who acted like an immature kid. Not much flirting from her, I felt like an older brother.
 

KiInCollege

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Here are some other factors to consider:

Is she making eye contact with you?
Is the tone of her voice friendly?
Is she flirting with you?
Are you desperate?
Do you think you'd have a chance with her?

A lot of guys say, "eh, she's a 6." But when it comes to sex, guys are willing to have it with 4s if they're desperate enough. What I'm saying is, maybe over the course of the night you got hints that she was into you. Sure she's a 6, but it's not as simple anymore. In your mind, it's a 6 that already wants you, or a 6 that with a little work, you could bed. That makes her more attractive.

Also add in your horniness, or desperation factor. Not that you're a desperate man, but would you take sex, right now? Sure, why not, right? Unless you're commited or think she has a disease, having sex with a 6 is more positive than negative, especially if you're not the hottest guy around, either.

Let us know how your pizza is.
 

Duke

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Dammit, Fingers, why do you give me such awesome replies!? You make me think too much!!

Yeah, I read your response in my journal, and I was in the midst of replying one night when my dad went apeshyt and disconnected me from the 'net. I WILL get back to you tho, sorry for the delay!

Yah, man, sexual state has been bagging me more tangible results than ANYTHING else has thus far. Simply telling a woman that she is hot is not sexy. But COMMUNICATING it NON-VERBALLY is incredibly hot. Women want to be desired (duh), but the desire only comes across honestly when they can non-verbally sense it.

Not to mention, creating this sort of state through sexual tension is INCREDIBLY FUN. Believe me. Next time any of you are with an attractive young lady, get her talking and then occasionally glance at her lips/cleavage/stomach/neck/ etc., then pierce her with direct eye-contact. They'll know what you are up to, and they'll feel that they've genuinely charmed you.

Ya might be thinking that this will repulse them, but it won't! Imagine some hot chick staring at your c0ck while you are talking to her. Well, it's the same deal if the girl is already digging you.

Golf,
Yah bro, it really went over my head, but I think Fingers gave some good reasons as to why the thought of her suddenly filled me with lust. It was probably a combination of kino, pheromones, and my own active imagination ;). Also the eye-contact made me really feel like I was inside her.

Porky,
Woo! "One of the greatest DJs of our time" eh? Dayum man, you're making me blush :D. Who knows if you're right, but you were DEAD-ON with your reply, so I'm gonna believe that other lil part about me ;).

I think the main reason I haven't hooked up with those other girls is because I was ignorant of "sexual state" up until recently. It's gonna be fun to see how it goes! Sarah invited me out to the movies a few days ago, and I'm gonna meet up with her on Sunday. Yeah, the Sarah that not-so-long ago rejected me. Psh. Sadly, she has already lost points and I've moved onto hotter chicks that like me more.

You are right about K displaying confidence. She doesn't say that much, but when it comes to kino, she is one of the boldest girls I know. It's so sexy.

duke007,
Thanks, duke! Did I mention your name rocks? :) Looking back, my one-itus wasn't that hot either. Sounds like you concur with Golf. The kino is just so damn sexy. I can only imagine how it affects GIRLS when you do it to them.

KInCollege
Hahaha, you bastard! I'm not desperate, but you are right about something else. I knew that she was into me and that made her a lot more attractive. No way in hell I'd f*ck a 4 though. Not even if I was drunk and horny. The pizza was extra greasy. We got 2 large pizzas and 3 large drinks for 6 bucks. I grew to like K even MORE over the next few days because I took the pizza home in a go-box. It was as if she was feeding me throughout the week.
 
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