When a plate starts to more frequently take a long time to respond?

[jackhamma]

This plate I have been sleeping with for about a month is 21yrs old. I am 30. I usually don't get myself involved with anything younger then 25 because of the different stages in life that a 21yr old is at compared to someone at 30.

With that said, she is a lot of fun, but as random as random can be. Sometimes responds in a decent time, sometimes takes 18+ hours to get back, and when she does, acts like there was never a long gap of time that she didn't respond. Even more so recently.

Keep in mind I have played this chick perfectly as far as how much I reach out, keeping things fun, avoiding heavy topics etc. I asked out this plate to a small local show yesterday at 3pm and haven't heard anything back. I obviously wouldn't reach out again if she doesn't respond correct? Also if she does, would I even still take her to the show? What would I even respond to her back with if she does reach out?

Thanks Guys...I need a smack to wake me up.

 

[GeniuzKhrist]

Don't ask her twice about the show, don't text her again until you get a response about the show. If she says yes then go as planned, if she says no, wait a week and then try to do a small date and bang, unless she talks to you before hand, then proceed as if nothing happened. But don't let her disrespect you.

 

[spiegel549]

Bro...you need to STOP sweating over 1 broad. I remember you posted saying you lived in Los Angeles. I also live in Los Angeles the past 6 years, same age range. There are thousands of broads. THOUSANDS that can you be smashing, dating, whatever your looking for. Every time I was hung up on one that I really was into and it went sour...I met another...and another....and another lol. Go out and meet as many women as you can, make friends with them, doesn't always have to be for a lay. The more females you have and around the more easier it will become.

 

[Trump]

This plate I have been sleeping with for about a month is 21yrs old. I am 30.

I asked out this plate to a small local show yesterday at 3pm and haven't heard anything back. I obviously wouldn't reach out again if she doesn't respond correct? Also if she does, would I even still take her to the show? What would I even respond to her back with if she does reach out?

You are having sex with a hot 21 year old girl for one month. She doesn't answer back to go to a local show and you are stressing out? You are already SLEEPING with her. You can't have sex with a 21 year old at 30 and expect a relationship. A 21 year old changes her mind more than the weather.

Dude if you want a RELATIONSHIP, have sex with a 31 year old woman. She won't let you out of her sight.

 

[salinechow]

Bro...you need to STOP sweating over 1 broad. I remember you posted saying you lived in Los Angeles. I also live in Los Angeles the past 6 years, same age range. There are thousands of broads. THOUSANDS that can you be smashing, dating, whatever your looking for. Every time I was hung up on one that I really was into and it went sour...I met another...and another....and another lol. Go out and meet as many women as you can, make friends with them, doesn't always have to be for a lay. The more females you have and around the more easier it will become.

I have 3-4. Suddenly I feel like a slacker. And, I should. Especially with the resurfacing of oneitis. I dont live in L.A unfortunately, but.....I LIVE in NYC. Even better.

 

[WanderingMan]

So you asked her to a small local show. Sounds fun. However, from what you've said, she doesn't seem to be looking for a relationship with you. She may be thinking that, by inviting her to this show, that you are trying to head in that direction. When it comes to playing the field, and having multiple non-committed relationships, girls are/can be worse than guys in this regard. She sees you trying to get committed - she backs off. This may be what she's doing by taking her time to respond, unlike of a girl who's looking for a relationship who would therefore snap respond with: Yayyy! That sounds great!!! Can't wait! Looking forward to seeing you!! Kisses xoxo

Whatever your intentions are here, it sounds to me like this one is only by going to be an occasional plate. I'd somehow make it be known that you're not looking for anything else than that. If/when she responds, whatever it is, play it cool. You may need to back off to show her you're not emotionally invested, at the same time, keeping your self-respect by not letting an invitation like that go unanswered for that long. Simplest solution would be to invite someone else. Then if/when she gets back to you: Didn't hear from you so invited someone else. No hard feelings, maybe some other time.

 

[jackhamma]

So you asked her to a small local show. Sounds fun. However, from what you've said, she doesn't seem to be looking for a relationship with you. She may be thinking that, by inviting her to this show, that you are trying to head in that direction. When it comes to playing the field, and having multiple non-committed relationships, girls are/can be worse than guys in this regard. She sees you trying to get committed - she backs off. This may be what she's doing by taking her time to respond, unlike of a girl who's looking for a relationship who would therefore snap respond with: Yayyy! That sounds great!!! Can't wait! Looking forward to seeing you!! Kisses xoxo

Whatever your intentions are here, it sounds to me like this one is only by going to be an occasional plate. I'd somehow make it be known that you're not looking for anything else than that. If/when she responds, whatever it is, play it cool. You may need to back off to show her you're not emotionally invested, at the same time, keeping your self-respect by not letting an invitation like that go unanswered for that long. Simplest solution would be to invite someone else. Then if/when she gets back to you: Didn't hear from you so invited someone else. No hard feelings, maybe some other time.

Even though I didn't mean to come off like I was guiding the weekly sleeping together towards a relationship, I can see why the show invite etc. could come off like that.

I sent the invite Tuesday at 2pm. It is now Thursday 1pm and still no response.

Would I reach at all again if she doesn't respond back? Or just stick to what you said IF/WHEN she does respond, say I already found someone else maybe next time (I already invited another plate who said yes) Thanks!

 

[Von]

Dont put someone else in the picture especially à girl.

Just say, you didn't hear from her and you organized yourself differently to go to the event.

Than ask if she frees to bang on X date (the usual setup you have to meet her)

 

[jackhamma]

My main question is IF she does not reach out and hit me back from my original text on Tuesday. Would I text her again to come over this weekend? Or would I just walk away and leave it alone? Would be nice to continue sleeping with her from time to time but I am not sure how to hit her up AGAIN if she didn't respond back the first time...would I text again Friday and say "Hey want to come over tonight?" Seems like I would look desperate. Thoughts?

 

[Von]

Just use the usual like your invite never existed

 

[Maximus Rex]

When you say, "plate," the implication is that you're dealing with more than one broad. However, this isn't the case in your particular situation because you're worried about this one particular chick. If you're spinning plates, you don't worried about if she's hit you back because you're dealing with your other chicks. The only thing you need to be worried about is if she comes when you call, both literally and figuratively.

 

[stevo]

Rule of thumb. Don't double text unless it's an emergency.

Rule of thumb. If you invite a broad out and she's not excited about it (like in your case), you invite someone else (or imply to have invited someone else).

When it comes to dealing with women, make her time with you fun.
then
Forget about the broad, till she goes out of her way to make you remember her.

 

[Poon King]

Don't forget the golden rule: Never care more about the relationship than the woman does. NEVER.

If you find yourself caring more, then you have already lost the game. Don't engage in beta neediness. Don't allow one dumb b!tch to damage your ego. More importantly.. NEVER chase after a woman's interest level. If it drops then let it. You have other plates to spin.

 

[Lozboss]

Don't forget the golden rule: Never care more about the relationship than the woman does. NEVER.

If you find yourself caring more, then you have already lost the game. Don't engage in beta neediness. Don't allow one dumb b!tch to damage your ego. More importantly.. NEVER chase after a woman's interest level. If it drops then let it. You have other plates to spin.

Poon back with the TRUTH

It's simple- if shes becoming more distant- remove your attention and focus it on women that are showing interest. I would honestly delete her number and let her pursue you now.

Lets be realistic here: you MUST be able to emotionally let this plate drop and smash.

 

[Vivacity]

You are having sex with a hot 21 year old girl for one month. She doesn't answer back to go to a local show and you are stressing out? You are already SLEEPING with her. You can't have sex with a 21 year old at 30 and expect a relationship. A 21 year old changes her mind more than the weather.

Dude if you want a RELATIONSHIP, have sex with a 31 year old woman. She won't let you out of her sight.

I have a different take on this. Don't make assumptions and generalizations. Get to know the girl before passing sweeping statements that younger girls are fickle and not good for relationship or marriage.

Go for 21-year olds, that should be your first preference. 31-year olds are your second preference, because they may have been used, abused, gone through multiple relationships, and tons of baggage.

 

[WanderingMan]

My main question is IF she does not reach out and hit me back from my original text on Tuesday. Would I text her again to come over this weekend? Or would I just walk away and leave it alone? Would be nice to continue sleeping with her from time to time but I am not sure how to hit her up AGAIN if she didn't respond back the first time...would I text again Friday and say "Hey want to come over tonight?" Seems like I would look desperate. Thoughts?

Tough one here. IMO, best thing to do here is to let her no response slide off your back. You CAN wait. But waiting,
in itself, is a beta characteristic (if we're being philosophical). The essence of a plate-FWB-FB is that you don't really have to answer to each other, you don't need to explain yourself....more or less - to a degree. And, if all plates are equal, the fact that she didn't want to come with you or couldn't, but another one did, should therefore not be an issue for you. That all being said, YOU still need to know, for your own sake, where this plate stands. You're not one to spin your wheels on women who are not interested. And, if she still is interested in seeing you, there still needs to be a certain respect level maintained to move forward with any type of healthy relationship, whatever that relationship may be. If you would still like to keep seeing her, I would therefore reach out to her one more time, not in butthurt fashion, but to get a read on her, and get some type of explanation - and/or feeling on where she stands. She did not get back to you - not that big a deal, but a flag still should go up. Keep it in mind, and be ready to pull the rip cord if this one's about to crash and burn.

 

[Maximus Rex]

This plate I have been sleeping with for about a month is 21yrs old. I am 30. I usually don't get myself involved with anything younger then 25 because of the different stages in life that a 21yr old is at compared to someone at 30.

With that said, she is a lot of fun, but as random as random can be. Sometimes responds in a decent time, sometimes takes 18+ hours to get back, and when she does, acts like there was never a long gap of time that she didn't respond. Even more so recently.
Something tells dear ole Rex that this song is going to be his default answer to a lot of questions.

Sometimes responds in a decent time, sometimes takes 18+ hours to get back, and when she does, acts like there was never a long gap of time that she didn't respond. Even more so recently.

You used to call me on my
You used to, you used to
Yeah

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

Ever since I left the city,
You got a reputation for yourself now
Everybody knows and I feel left out
Girl you got me down, you got me stressed out
'Cause ever since I left the city,
you started wearing less and goin' out more
Glasses of champagne out on the dance floor
Hangin' with some girls I've never seen before

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

Ever since I left the city, you, you, you
You and me we just don't get along
You make me feel like I did you wrong
Going places where you don't belong
Ever since I left the city,
you, you got exactly what you asked for
Running out of pages in your passport
Hanging with some girls I've never seen before

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

These days, all I do is
Wonder if you bendin' over backwards for someone else
Wonder if you're rollin' up a backwoods for someone else
Doing things I taught you, gettin' nasty for someone else
You don't need no one else
You don't need nobody else, no
Why you never alone
Why you always touching road
Used to always stay at home, be a good girl
You was in a zone, yeah
You should just be yourself
Right now, you're someone else

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

Ever since I left the city

 

[Maximus Rex]

Something tells dear ole Rex that this song is going to be his default answer to a lot of questions.[

You used to call me on my
You used to, you used to
Yeah

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

Ever since I left the city,
You got a reputation for yourself now
Everybody knows and I feel left out
Girl you got me down, you got me stressed out
'Cause ever since I left the city,
you started wearing less and goin' out more
Glasses of champagne out on the dance floor
Hangin' with some girls I've never seen before

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

Ever since I left the city, you, you, you
You and me we just don't get along
You make me feel like I did you wrong
Going places where you don't belong
Ever since I left the city,
you, you got exactly what you asked for
Running out of pages in your passport
Hanging with some girls I've never seen before

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

These days, all I do is
Wonder if you bendin' over backwards for someone else
Wonder if you're rollin' up a backwoods for someone else
Doing things I taught you, gettin' nasty for someone else
You don't need no one else
You don't need nobody else, no
Why you never alone
Why you always touching road
Used to always stay at home, be a good girl
You was in a zone, yeah
You should just be yourself
Right now, you're someone else

You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

Ever since I left the city


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[jackhamma]

Just as an update: Never heard back from her about the comedy show last Tuesday. So I never reached out again until yesterday (Monday) acting as nothing ever happened I sent a "Hey what's up?" got no response back...

We went from getting together every weekend, sleeping together for fun to boom she was gone. I still have her on insta which she posts new things so she obviously got my texts. The only option is to delete and wash away. Correct?

 

[LiveYourDream]

I would not necessarily delete her yet. Never contact her. Do not live your life waiting or wondering if she will contact you. Forget her and spin other plates as they say. You never know, in few weeks she may reach out to you again. If and when she contacts you, never bring up the past, simply ask when is she free to get together. Know she's reaching out to get fvcked by you. As if nothing ever happened, immediately set a date/time/place. Then show up, have fun and fvck her good. Repeat,