When a girl is chased by multiple guys...

[JdelaSilviera]

Do you chase her more or you chase her less than the others? Sure the goal is for you to become the prize, but until then, you have some work to do.

 

[nismo-4]

All girls are being chased by multiple guys.

 

[Igetit!]

All girls are being chased by multiple guys.

+1 rep.


That's EXACTLY what I was thinking. The op's question didn't really make any sense to me. For one.....


How are we supposed to know how many of these other "multiple guys" there are? And even if we did know,how are we supposed to know how much they "chase" the girl in order to decide whether to chase her more or not?


What,are we supposed to form a group of all us who like the same girl and compare "chasing" schedules? Take turns pursing her?

If me and four other guys all like the same girls,are we supposed to be like.....

Guy 4: "Well I'll call her up and flirt with her on Monday,then guy 2,you can chase her on Tuesday.

Guy 2: "Ok,that'll work for me"
Guy 3: "Woah,woah....wait a minute....I wanted Tuesday. That's the only day I have off this week".

Guy 2: No prob man. I'll switch with ya.
Guy 3: Sweet. Thanks man.

Guy 1: I guess I get Wednesday and Thursday then.

Me: Cool. Then I'll take Friday and half the day on Saturday.

Me: Everybody agree?

All: AGREED!!!


lol,I uhh.....I don't think it quite works that way,lol.


And that thing you said about the "goal" being to become the prize....dude,you're ALREADY the prize.


You make it sound as if being the prize is like being on some long,far away distant journey,like you're Indiana Jones in search of some long lost ancient artifact. That after many,many years of hard work,you finally achieve this level of "prizeness" where everything will be easy and smooth sailing from then on.


You say..."the goal is for you to become the prize, but until then, you have some work to do." Uhh...you're already the prize NOW,and RIGHT NOW....WHILE YOU'RE THE PRIZE,you have work to do.


You're already the prize. When you were born,you were born WHOLE,COMPLETE,with nothing missing or broken. Well wouldn't you call being "whole" the prize? Being complete? Having nothing missing or broken?



Sounds like a prize to me. It was the world and people in it that caused you to think and believe otherwise through pain and negative experiences.



As far as pursuing a girl in relation to other guys pursuing her,just do what you do. There's no point in trying to figure out how much these other numberless/nameless guys chase her so you can adjust your pursuit.


And besides,if you're spinning plates (pursuing more than one girl at a time),you'll be too busy with your other options to worry about any one girl in particular.

Cast your net wide. The girls who show interest are the ones you'll focus on more,and the ones who don't,just let'em fall to the wayside.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

Being a guy, with several girl friends, I know for a fact that not all women are being chased. And even if they were, my question still applies.

Now Igetit, i get your point , but it doesn´t matter if you see yourself as a prize, she must see you as a prize also! That´s what I meant, there are a lot of delusional people out there thinking they are great.

And yes, spinning plates, is probably the most intelligent thing ever invented, you care less about girls, and you also put them quite jealous of each other... a very powerful weapon getting women.

 

[BlackMack177]

^^

it's starts with how you see yourself.

And with every girls you ever talk to, always assume there is another guy in the mix. Because 99% of the time there is at least ONE guy trying to hit that. with that in mind, pay it no mind. Who give a damn about other dudes? You are the super fly prize. You do you and and lead. if she does't want to follow then fvck her.

 

[bigneil]

As my dad always said "If you don't want competition, date a fat girl."

To answer the OP, you should pursue her less if there are multiple guys (in the room anyway). She'll gravitate to the relaxed one who is not humping her leg.

 

[PapiChulo]

Yeah, may not be chased as we understand it but there should be at least one dude who is expressing the desire, and other 3 dudes who would hit (even the ones with gf's). She may not even be aware of that! And then this one other guy who she wants but can't get. That's for an average 6 and some women who I would not even believe that they are considered desirable at all. Just state your interest and don't hump the leg, no interest - move on.

 

[nismo-4]

As my dad always said "If you don't want competition, date a fat girl."

Even then you'll have to compete with some desperate men! There are so many people buying this PUA stuff and the Seduction community is going mainstream! This is not good at all.

 

[Matthew Lyon]

Do you chase her more or you chase her less than the others? Sure the goal is for you to become the prize, but until then, you have some work to do.

For me, it's the thought, "Do I like this girl enough to want to pursue anything?" I never question whether or not to chase and I never imagine she has other guys pursuing her.

 

[f283000]

Do you chase her more or you chase her less than the others? Sure the goal is for you to become the prize, but until then, you have some work to do.

To find the answer to this you have to look at real life examples of women that are coveted/chased by a lot of males. For example waitresses, strippers, models.

Who wins in these situations? THE ALPHA MALE DOES! At the end of the day if a woman is being chased by multiple males she will always go for who she sees as the alpha male of the group. The reason is that a woman who is highly coveted has a lot of options to pick herself a top male. She's not just some gal that finally got lucky and some guy asked her out on facebook. She has a dozen guys vying for her attention. If she goes with any of them he needs to be at a level higher than she is.