when a girl ignores you back

[captain55]

So this chick and I made us official Saturday night, basically she wrote me off as a player and said she wanted to get married and have kids and travel someday and I dont seem like that type. so I told her how I felt about her and said that if she dated me and I fell in love with her, I would have no problem settling down once she proved herself to me as relationship material.

So She's giving me a chance. I know for fact She's serious about me because she took down her pictures on her online dating profile and she does not know that I know she has a dating profile.

We had a really nice texting conversation, and I ended it on a good note Saturday night. I didn't text her the next day, I was busy and had **** to do and she lives two hours away from me. .

Now shes ****ing ignoring me all day, I think to get the point across that she doesn't like being ignored.

Being aloof and alpha is what has hurt me with this woman but I have not slept with her yet either so its a tricky situation for me.

 

[guru1000]

<Cough> Did you bang her?

If not, who cares.

If you did, who cares.

You guys are overly-invested in women, when you really should not give a fxck.

• Girl cancels on you: Call the next one
• Girl shows up: Call the next one
• Girl ignores you: Call the next one
• Girl chases you: Call the next one
• Girl bangs you: Call the next one

Spin plates to relinquish your scarcity mentality.

This Ukrainian model I'm seeing ignored my text today, after I ignored hers yesterday. LOL

How many fxcks do I give? Zero

 

[Mr_Maximus]

This situation does not sound right but what do you need help with exactly?

If you are annoyed that she hasn't responded to you for a day I would say, just relax.

What should concern you more is that she is giving you a chance and has managed to extort a [exclusive] relationship out of you and you have not slept with her yet and she lives two hours away.

 

[captain55]

This is where the DJ mindset can backfire, in my opinion.

Women can tell when you're not being genuine with them. Call her, not text, call.

And have a nice 10 minute conversation with her.

You'll never develop a connection with this girl if all you do is text. Yes, you'll see her...but you need to call once in a while as well.

She doesn't really like to talk on the phone.

Being a player has done nothing but hurt me with this woman. She wrote me off and told me to **** off for that very reason. I was aloof with her. But when I told her that I wanted to spend my life with her, and could see myself falling in love with her, for whatever reason... it worked.

I would normally NEVER tell a guy to tell chick how much he likes her so much before he slept with her that would be dumb as hell. . That would make 99% of women run in the other direction. But she's not like other women. Kind of hard to let it all out and be genuine with a chick you've been playing games and seducing women for years learning the ways of a Don juan. Almost like I have to forget everything Ive learned on this site

 

[Yewki]

When a girl ignores you back, don't take it personally. You're taking it personally. Don't do that.

Also, being ignored isn't necessarily a bad thing. You don't have to waste your time texting as much crap, meanwhile if you maintain your frame she feels bad about it and gains respect for you. Win win.

she lives two hours away from me.

That's... awkward. Is one of you planning on moving or something? If not, and she's actually attractive, I think I can predict how this will pan out.

Edit:

But when I told her that I wanted to spend my life with her

You live 2 hours away, haven't banged, and you said that? You went full retard man. Never... go full retard. Wow.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

She doesn't really like to talk on the phone.

Being a player has done nothing but hurt me with this woman. She wrote me off and told me to **** off for that very reason. I was aloof with her. But when I told her that I wanted to spend my life with her, and could see myself falling in love with her, for whatever reason... it worked.

I would normally NEVER tell a chick I like her so much before I slept with her. That would make 99% of women run in the other direction. But she's not like other women. Kind of hard to let it all out when you've been playing games and seducing women for years learning the ways of a Don juan.

I think you have acted like an AFC and have allowed yourself to be played.

 

[Infern0]

So this chick and I made us official Saturday night, basically she wrote me off as a player and said she wanted to get married and have kids and travel someday and I dont seem like that type. so I told her how I felt about her and said that if she dated me and I fell in love with her, I would have no problem settling down once she proved herself to me as relationship material.

So She's giving me a chance. I know for fact She's serious about me because she took down her pictures on her online dating profile and she does not know that I know she has a dating profile.

We had a really nice texting conversation, and I ended it on a good note Saturday night. I didn't text her the next day, I was busy and had **** to do and she lives two hours away from me. .

Now shes ****ing ignoring me all day, I think to get the point across that she doesn't like being ignored.

Being aloof and alpha is what has hurt me with this woman but I have not slept with her yet either so its a tricky situation for me.

your "official" but haven't slept together yet?

Now she is ignoring you?

Bro I think you might be kidding yourself a bit as to what's going on here, seems like everything is ass upwards

Did she text you on the Saturday? If you are "officual" you should be replying when you have time mate, you don't ignore your girlfriend all day Bro.

 

[zinc4]

Dude if she has to be contacted every single freaking day and you are still in the very beginning in order to feel secure about then screw her man.....she sounds high maintenance and full of drama...I live in Taiwan... They are all like that here and set traps like what yours did for you to buy into that AFC frame....don't do it...that looking for more line is a trap set out by a lot of them and if you go along with it like what you did early on, you are set right into their frame and subconsciously they lose interest.....i still make that mistake with plates from time to time even though I would get bored and dump them soon after agreeing to it....it just has a way of getting in your head if you let it....tell them you just like to let things flow naturally when they pull these type of speeches early on...they might walk....if they do...let them...much better than getting sucked into their frame....


next her and move on to greener pastures... The high quality ones will be mature abd directly tell you they would prefer more contact instead of getting all pissy and playing games. Chick has issues man and wants to drag u along....at most pump and dump her...

 

[captain55]

your "official" but haven't slept together yet?

Now she is ignoring you?

Bro I think you might be kidding yourself a bit as to what's going on here, seems like everything is ass upwards

Did she text you on the Saturday? If you are "officual" you should be replying when you have time mate, you don't ignore your girlfriend all day Bro.

She texted me on the Saturday morning "look I think your a cool guy but I dont think were on the same page in life. Im sorry"

I figured she wasnt into to me so I told her "Thats cool. I dont need to be wasting my time with the baggage of some divorced chick anyway, good luck with everything"

She goes "I dont need to be wasting my time with some 22 year old who I only hear from every two weeks when he gets bored with all his little side *****es, I need someone who's consistent and relationship material. you seem far too distracted with the other aspects of your life, not that there is anything wrong with that...but I dont have to sit around while you go around being 22"

So I sweet talk her a bit and forty five minutes later..
The conversation ended with her saying

"I do really like you, just to be clear. Im just afraid of wasting my time"

And she hit me up that night again.


Funny thing is had I not been spinning plates, going ghost, and seeing other women the past few months...and just would of told her how much I liked her from the start I would of been dating her by now.

Im not saying she doesn't have issues..I admit it is kind of weird. Most women would think of a guy as a joke to be commiting this early before sex but... it is what it is.

 

[captain55]

This situation does not sound right but what do you need help with exactly?

If you are annoyed that she hasn't responded to you for a day I would say, just relax.

What should concern you more is that she is giving you a chance and has managed to extort a [exclusive] relationship out of you and you have not slept with her yet and she lives two hours away.

Im just trying to get your guys opinion of whats going through this girls mind, because I have not come across a chick like this. In my mind a girl you havent even slept with yet means we are not even dating yet, which is why normally I would play it cool and remain somewhat aloof.

but Im getting the vibe, based on her texts to me, that when she decided to give me a chance she decided we were bf and gf. So in the meantime, do I I treat her like a gf or just a regular chick?

I dont wanna be aloof and have her write me off, but I dont wanna scare her off before I bang her. I cant read her

 

[zinc4]

I come across these types all the time....trust me man there will be lots of drama too ensue....she is incredibly insecure abd will look for any excuse to doubt you or start poibylesd drama...avoid...use only for sex......

 

[gravityeyelids]

She lives two hours away. You've become exclusive with her without sleeping with her. You're posting about it online two days into the relationship because you're concerned because she's ignoring you.

^^This is far from the ideal situation as a DJ^^

Not to be a negative nancy but i encourage you to rethink the situation and mindset you've allowed yourself to become entered in and make a more clearheaded decision about it.

 

[crgideon]

If you have to convince someone to date you, it's not worth it. Present yourself, then they take it or leave it.

 

[Fireballs]

As I see it, she sh!t tested you HARD.

Girl: You're a player
You: So what is it about players that you are so attracted to? (Said with a sh!t eating grin)

Remember: Never take girls seriously on relationship matters.

If she asks you if you want to get married: ''Yeah when I'm 100% certain that I'm with the right girl''

Make her want to strive to be that girl.

My current LTR started out as a temporary LDR with us living 2 hours apart the same as you and the reason why it worked is that she put more effort into coming to see me than I did to go and see her. I'd say 60/40. Some guys on here will tell you to look closer to home but as long as it is temporary with an end date in sight, then I don't see a problem with it.

 

[captain55]

When a girl ignores you back, don't take it personally. You're taking it personally. Don't do that.

Also, being ignored isn't necessarily a bad thing. You don't have to waste your time texting as much crap, meanwhile if you maintain your frame she feels bad about it and gains respect for you. Win win.



That's... awkward. Is one of you planning on moving or something? If not, and she's actually attractive, I think I can predict how this will pan out.

Edit:


You live 2 hours away, haven't banged, and you said that? You went full retard man. Never... go full retard. Wow.

I didnt go full retard, I told her I would commit to a relationship if she proved herself to be relationship material.I used words like "if I feel like you were worth it, I would do etcetc".... I used those exact words.

You do make an interesting point though. . Women who lost interest in me almost never ignored my texts they would respond right away.

 

[VladPatton]

This girl has got you by the short and curlies, you have zero control here. Just wait for her to tell you what's next, that's all.

 

[Obsidian]

Your main problem is that you are dealing with a divorced woman.

 

[DiegoSantori]

As you can see, dear captain55, the answers are always the same:

"Next her", "Don't take it personally", "You have a scarcity mentality", "Always spin the plates", ...

All those answers are as predictable as a Twitter rant from Charlie Sheen but they are all TRUE. In this game that we call life, the person who is less interested always has more power. It's the 'Principle of Least Interest'. Maybe one of the most important principles you have to know in interpersonal relationships. I dare to say that 80-90 % of the answers on SoSuave are based on this principle.

You will never lose value by stepping away from the relationship, but you will always lose value by chasing her.