When a girl asks you what you do in life, need to review the tactic

[Who Dares Win]

I guess this is an other periodic topic that comes out once every couple of years.

Not to brag but to ask for a suggestion, I have to say that my current job is quite cool and everytime I say that to someone after they ask they always wow at it or say its cool but basing my believe in recent experiences it seems it could backfire in certain settings.

Recently I got a girl warm at the club she accepted to come with me in the terrace for a drink in a less loud place and we started talking, right before I started with my routine of kino and emotional manipulation she asked me what I do and I told her, she stayed couple of minutes then told me she had to go back to her friends table and left, I got that her interest dropped so didnt look for her and when we happened to be at visual distance she ofc didnt bother to come back nor give me a sign, I did the same.

I had some other times happening something like this and cant really explain it, my job is well paid and great to do so its not that Im a cleaner at mc donald or something.

Do they believe Im bull****ting them, brag or try too hard?

Regardless of your job what do you usually say when they ask and why you say that.

I start to believe that any serious talk backfires in the initial phase, never happened anything like this in my late 20s.

 

[Von]

Make it fun. There was a video of a PUA/life coach.... john keegan about that very same question and he made me reflect.....

When they ask you that you want 1) Make them laugh 2) make them interested 3) not answer directly..

I recently came up with: ''I am a professionnal escort. I guide my clients financially through their life goal and experience....''

Everyone laugh.... and from there I keep it professionnal or flirt with them (if I want to flirt, I move on the ''personal'' ladder)

 

[Tamura]

Do they believe Im bull****ting them, brag or try too hard?

Maybe you bored her or you gave her details about your personality in between the lines so that she suddenly lost interest? Maybe not WHAT you said, but HOW you said? Just guessing of course...

Business I usually avoid at first contacts, unless specifically asked for. If the chick continues talk about jobs, then either I ask about her job or completely distract from topic. My job is serious business and I'm good at it, but its no good conversation material.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Maybe you bored her or you gave her details about your personality in between the lines so that she suddenly lost interest? Maybe not WHAT you said, but HOW you said? Just guessing of course...

Business I usually avoid at first contacts, unless specifically asked for. If the chick continues talk about jobs, then either I ask about her job or completely distract from topic. My job is serious business and I'm good at it, but its no good conversation material.

At this point I dont exclude anything, it could be what you suggest, not the what but the how.

Your option is probably the best one, now that I recall I often said girls that talking about work is boring and moved to other topics and it worked.

 

[Floydispink01]

Full time (Profession or job). Part Time Rebel.

or

Full time (Profession or job). Part Time Hustler.

When i mention this in conversation, the chlcks tend to want to know more about my rebel/hustle adventures than my profession.

 

[wifehunter]

Make her guess.

I'll give you a hint: "I run two small businesses, with a new one on the way.

 

[SeymourCake]

I read the DJ Bible all day.

 

[old_skoolr]

Girl at a club: What do you do?
Old_skoolr: I fvck **** up (wink and a smile.)

 

[raider87]

dolphin trainer or you play for the local sports team.

 

[Xeon21]

Job/employment shouldn't be all that important when meeting someone for the first time unless both of you really connect and she has a genuine interest.

Usually when I hear someone ask that, what immediately comes to my mind is what exactly are they looking for? The answer I've found is often how much you make or your job security so they can determine what they can get out of you.

Like KingofPuss said, a humorous statement or just redirect the question back on to her for what she does (most people love to talk about themselves always so it is an easy out).

 

[salinechow]

HB: "What do you do?"
Me: " Professionally, creatively, passionately, or for fun?
HB "Well, I dont know, how about all?" (80% of the time, this is the responce I get.)
Me: Well, can I show you rather than tell you?
HB: Sure. How are you going to show me?
Me: I Kiss her.

 

[RangerMIke]

What you do isn't nearly as important as being passionate about it. Woman are attracted to happy men that care about what they do. The worst thing you can do is tell her you hate your job and you do it to pay the bills. If this is how you really feel, you REALLY need to dig down deep and find the value in what you do and be proud of it.... if you can not find and joy or pride in what you do, you need to seriously consider a career change. Not to get women, but just the have a better happier life.

If you have a happy good life getting women is NOT a problem.

 

[Asmodeus]

I am just a blue collar guy... Make a good enough money, have a good enough life and I do like my job. However, women are not at all interested in blue collar. I had a woman with high interest level go down to nil interest because I did not have a college degree (fvcking elitism). Funny thing was this woman was making LESS than I was with a degree in humanities as a secretary she just got employed into with around 40K in college debt while I was a technician with 5 years experience and no debt.

I tend to dodge the question or reflect it back at them. Women want men who are doctors/lawyers, who are college educated and work white collar jobs... If they even perceive themselves to be a bit better than you, in any way (education, career, ect), then their interest level drops. Hypergamy.

 

[Asmodeus]

Here is the truth brothers...
Evolution has wired women’s attraction to be tied to status, most women are simply incapable of forming attraction to men of a lower perceived status. Men are mostly attracted to youth and beauty, and status is less relevant. Through most of history men have been marrying down. Now women graduating from college at higher rates perceive a dwindling pool of men who have the same or better perceived qualifications as them. Thus, women are perceiving a "man shortage" but in reality it is not an actual shortage of men, just a shortage of ones who fit their criteria based on their hypergamy. I also think that American’s are increasingly starting to self-segregate into cultural and class enclaves, and that this new paradigm in society is partly to blame. Just as jobs in America are now in a trend of “credentialing” so are women.

If you need any evidence of this look no further than all the stuff being said by women on this subject. In fact the second article "worst cities for college educated women to date a decent date" seems to immediately make the assumption that a man with a college education is a "decent" man.

http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebat...ege-educated-there-is-a-man-deficit-in-the-us

http://www.theatlantic.com/business...ed-women-trying-to-find-a-decent-date/273158/

 

[stevo]

Let me guess, you did not turn the table around asking her what she does or get her talking about herself.


FYI, you can literally mumble non sensible sheet for a whole minute and the girl still stay glued to your side.

 

[Huffman]

Here is the truth brothers...

Asmodeus, in your case I'd just skip or downplay the job convo on the first meeting. Say I solve problems or some other badass mystery line
Just because of women being superficial. You can tell her in detail on the 2nd or 3rd date, by that time she will be interested in you because of other things (if all went well), so it should be safe.

I agree it sucks but what can you do.

 

[Xeon21]

@Asmodeus People often laugh at the trades but in reality, particularly where I live, a lot of the trade guys earn far more than the guys with the "typical" college degrees (i.e. english, communication, humanities, psychology, etc). We have plumbers, electricians, and HVAC guys around here making between 70k and over 100k a year while those guys with those little pieces of paper are working minimum wage because they can't find decent jobs or they're making just above minimum in some dead end and often temporary job.

One of my friends does concrete work for the states of Missouri and Kansas (he actually just finished pouring a foundation for a county jail). Is he the brightest guy? No, but he works hard and he sure has hell gets paid well for what he does because he's good at it. Having the old "college degree" isn't all it is trumped up to be these days.

 

[f(x)]

In my experience, women just want to be sure I'm not living with my parents. Tell them you do X at company Y and move on. George Costanza from that old TV show Seinfeld is a role model and TRUE PLAYA. Hell, Larry David made billions off that show.