Whats your opinion on this scenario?

[BobFuest]

first of all, wtf is with the women i am dating these days?
ok so here goes..
I went on a 3rd date with this girl. Everything went great. We then went to a bar and drank for awhile. Upon returning to my house i was feeling sick so I wanted to lay down. Problem was that my friend was coming by to grab his guitar. I asked her to just hand him the guitar and he would be on his way and then i fell asleep (bad fish + alcohol = bad news). She tells me in the morning that he stayed for awhile (more then an hour and a half)and they talked and hung out.
Whats your take on that? I told her i dont understand why he stayed and "hungout" and I dont think its right at all. I would never hangout with any one's date while they were passed out or with anyone's GF. why would i?

 

[MacAvoy]

Its your fault for giving your date away to your buddy. Passing out on a chick while you have someone coming over is telling her you have no interest in her AND having your buddy show up is just like giving him the tag except in an inconspicuous way so she don't feel like a slvt.

 

[grinder]

Don't over-read what she did. But...If your friend is a DJ. Then talk to HIM, not her about what's going on. You will not get any info from her that means sh*t.

 

[realsmoothie]

I don't see anything big in this. Did you suspect something was going on?

If your friend did anything, THEN I'd be p.o.'d.

 

[S1NN3R]

My take, third date and you're lit up like a Christmas tree, bad idea. Telling your friend to come over while you're on a date, bad idea. Passing out with the girl you're supposedly dating sitting around waiting to do a chore for you, bad idea. You telling her that you don't think it's right for her to talk to someone after you've left her alone with them to begin with, bad idea.

If shes smart, she'll go bang him from now on.

 

[BobFuest]

wait. i was sick. there was nothing i could do. and yes i am a dolt for leaving it that way. it wasnt by choice. He was ringing the buzzer just as we got there. i didnt invite him at that time. and i didnt mean to be sick or pass out. just ignore me for being dumb, i am still learning

 

[MightyMate]

Id drp this dumb ***** and this dumn friend.

 

[ElChoclo]

Bob, there's nothing wrong with you sharing your property with a friend. It demonstrates that you are in charge. Passing out and leaving your GF with a guitar friend shows that you are supremely confident, which is a good thing. I notice from your previous threads that you have something of a habit for passing out at inopportune moments.

I hope this isn't going to be another case of you wanting to give her a stuffed animal to compensate her for your behaviour. Remember what I said about the meaning of that behaviour.

 

[MacAvoy]

Bob, there's nothing wrong with you sharing your property with a friend. It demonstrates that you are in charge. Passing out and leaving your GF with a guitar friend shows that you are supremely confident, which is a good thing.

I agree with ElChoclo on this one. Everything he said is worth repeating. There is nothing wrong with sharing a women, it gives the impression of supreme confidence in your game, as long as you play it right. Women like men who take charge, even if it is to treat them like a piece of property (meat) in the process.

This type of confidence and treatment of women is along the same lines that I was referring to in str8up's three-some thread.

 

[jonwon]

Mmm way I see, it the above posters are all right.

A: you’re a dumb ass for falling asleep on a women you had not sorted out first!
B: you’re a dumb ass for acting the way you did, when you found out your mate had stayed for 1.3h, it shows you don’t trust HER or even worse it show you don’t even trust your MATES FFS.

You messed up big time with this girl if she has any balls she will drop you like a used nappie and no one could blame her.

Falling asleep on a women you supposed to be a date with, confidence yeh rude, dam right!
But why did she not go home, why did she stay?

If it’s a problem about you falling asleep at strange times, don’t beat yourself up about it, it happens cr** happens, but DO not get jealous over you mates or a women, simple fact:

If she fu** your friend:
Your friend is not a friend but a total loser and he has done you a favour by showing just how much a snake this guy is, you want mates you can trust not adders waiting to pounce on your soggy seconds. (unless your into sharing your girls, then its ok it was agreed and not some snake tactics)
She was not that into you anyway and your mate was more attractive, hey wish them luck, you want a chick who digs you, sod all the stuff you can read, it is wasted if she wants to bone your friend and not you, she has done you a favour, you can now seek out a chick who is into you 100% and will not fu** your mates or even try to, GET it!

So getting jealous was the dumbest thing you did here and if she had any feeling about your mate your dumb ass reply only pushed her more onto him.

You should have played it cool, apologised had make up sex and not worried about what she did, but about what you did.

Jealousy is not a path you ever want to go down, much better to feign disintrest no matter and turn up the game more, I learned this the hard way and still do, brake the mold.

 

[Latinoman]

Mac and Choclo...nothing wrong with his scenario?

Really?

1- He was drunk and sick. Which is a pathetic state to be in a third date (a third date and they have not phucked?)

2- She still learning about him from him...if she talked with that "friend" for 1.5 hours, there is not doubt in my mind that the most innocent thing that happened was this "friend" talked about him. Which could be bad.

3- He was drunk and sick...and instead of staying with him...looking over him...she went and hanged out with a complete stranger (another man)

4- He didn't share...in fact, she didn't ask me...therefore, she did what she wanted to do.

5- A true friend would never allow himself to hang out with his friend's date for such long period of time. He would take the guitar and dispatch her sorry arse back to his body.

 

[jonwon]

The problem here we are seeing onitus in its deceptive glory.

It was 3 dates only, she is not your GF she is a girl who you are still qualifying!
That fact you come on a forum and spout a red flag or an issue about this girl and a mate, means you still have insecurity issues and you need to get yourself more women (hey if you had others this would not matter at all).
Forget about all this stuff, see how it goes and forget about it.

If she sees your mate, drop the to**er believe me get rid of him, he will feel like a chain around your neck and could never, ever be trusted with any of your girls again, he will cater to your jealousy and that is not cool for YOU!

The girls spending x amount of time, could also mean that she was waiting for you to wake up, the problem here is not nec’ her the issue here is your mate, why did he stick around?

Innocent or not you need to speak to this mate and see what happened, just ask him stuff like.
Hey man that chick I had over, what do you think about her, she was fit right?
Keep seeing if he liked her and then ask him.
Hey whilst I was asleep did you two get it on? I mean I have only known her for a few dates, but hey man if she was digging you more let me know?
Then if he says ‘thanks man yeh she said she was into me and blah blah.

You know then that this git was making moves on your women, not a mate I would want around put it that way.

Don’t go in as your blaming him, go in as your seeing if he gotr anywhere in a could not care attitude and gauge what happened from a by standers point of view and not from a sentenced already point of view, that way your not coming across as:
A **** to your mate, when she was talking all about YOU.
A jealous pric* who cant control his balance and gets upset about things he cant control, stop being a brat FFS.

In all honesty I will be surprised if this girl want you after getting jealous and controlling on the 3rd date.

You need to know why he stayed for that length of time, but don’t show it to her!
She is still to prove herself to you! Not the other way around, i.e get more girls!

 

[Latinoman]

The above post was very good advice. Especially trying to determine a very important thing: friend loyalty (HIS).

 

[ElChoclo]

Latinoman, sorry for the inconvenience but BobFuest is a troll and I like to give him tongue in cheek advice for my amusement, which unfortunately Macavoy also treated as sincere. Though I can see how it might have an underlying validity when expressed in the way in which MacAvoy looks at it.

Its hard to know if BobFuest ever leaves fantasy world with his posts. Last time he was feeling sorry for himself for offending his girlfriend and offered her a stuffed animal toy to placate her. He's basically a harmless troll deviate.

 

[MacAvoy]

Mac and Choclo...nothing wrong with his scenario?

Really?

We didn't say there was nothing wrong with the scenario. What we did in fact say was

Bob, there's nothing wrong with you sharing your property with a friend.

There was plenty wrong with the scenario. Like Choclo, I've been a participant in Bob's other troll infested threads and rode his tongue & cheek advice to the next level. Pointing out his mistakes and showing him the correct way obviously hasn't worked thus far and we need to use extreme examples to try make a point with this chap.

Maybe we should have taken's Bob's advice on this one

just ignore me for being dumb

 

[BobFuest]

hey, fine if i cannot ever ask anything. I am still an AFC, remember?!? So i got to get sorted and asking advice is a good way to do it. I am still in boot camp and reading the bible so of course nothing i say or do at this point is going to be DJ material.

1. the friend turned out wasnt a good friend.
2. I drank too much but the purpose of going out was to make me feel better about my grandfather dying. It wasnt like i was just on a bender.
3. My point is integrity. So what if i left her alone. Yea i was confident nothing would happen. Obviously my confidence was wrong because they made out in the next room while i was asleep. I was not jealous. I was right.
4. i nexted that ***** and will choke the "friend". loyalty and integraity are important to me. Anyone who comes to my house and does that while I am asleep are scum and not worth my attention.

other then that boot camp is going great.

 

[Latinoman]

Thanks guys! I was VERY surprised by your "advice" (considering that I view you two as two of the best posters in this Forum). But I see that dealing with trolls in here (BobFuest, etc.) can be a painful experience too!

I appologize if I misunderstood your posts.

 

[nwowrba]

You told us that you felt sick and lay down. You might have passed out from being sloppy drunk. If that is the case, you shouldn't complain because YOU gave her away!