What's YOUR approach look like with stopping someone on the street?

[Oatmeal31]

Here's something I wanna ask you guys. What is your approach when you see someone moving in the city? Let's say:
It's a big city and there are usually hustlers on the street that ask for money, pass out flyers, try to sell you something, etc. so you have to stand out, right?

Say she's moving toward you and you have mere seconds before she passes. You want to grab her attention and stop her. Do you wave, stand in her way..
Do you open with something that's situational, so more of a tailored approach, or do you go with a generic 'excuse me' or 'how you doing?'

Being able to come up with conversation material on the fly is spontaneous and requires wit. And it can be difficult to do that consistently, every day, since we go through ups and downs. We may not be as sharp on some days.

On the other hand, 'excuse me' sounds like any other guy on the street that's probably going to ask for food/money. I've gotten ignored a fair amount of times doing that.

I have trouble with this, thinking it it'll be ideal for me to tailor my approach. But by the time she's about to pass, I can't think of anything, so I either miss the opportunity and walk past, or open with "excuse me" and go from there. I've had WAY less reluctance on girls that are stationary. Like waiting for a street light, looking at what to buy, or waiting in line. Maybe it's because I have more time to think and warm up to the idea.

So, what's your routine when doing this, and how successful do you find it?

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Here's something I wanna ask you guys. What is your approach when you see someone moving in the city? Let's say:
It's a big city and there are usually hustlers on the street that ask for money, pass out flyers, try to sell you something, etc. so you have to stand out, right?

Say she's moving toward you and you have mere seconds before she passes. You want to grab her attention and stop her. Do you wave, stand in her way..
Do you open with something that's situational, so more of a tailored approach, or do you go with a generic 'excuse me' or 'how you doing?'

Being able to come up with conversation material on the fly is spontaneous and requires wit. And it can be difficult to do that consistently, every day, since we go through ups and downs. We may not be as sharp on some days.

On the other hand, 'excuse me' sounds like any other guy on the street that's probably going to ask for food/money. I've gotten ignored a fair amount of times doing that.

I have trouble with this, thinking it it'll be ideal for me to tailor my approach. But by the time she's about to pass, I can't think of anything, so I either miss the opportunity and walk past, or open with "excuse me" and go from there. I've had WAY less reluctance on girls that are stationary. Like waiting for a street light, looking at what to buy, or waiting in line. Maybe it's because I have more time to think and warm up to the idea.

So, what's your routine when doing this, and how successful do you find it?

You should be going to events where you coincidentally meet women. Attempting to stop a woman on the street is signalling you have absolutely way too much free time on your hands and love rejection. Ask yourself who hollers at moving women the most in big cities, it's the beggars and drunks!

If I'm waiting for something and she happens to be next to me then sure, I'll ask an innocuous question to see if she'll ask one back. If she does then it's a sign of interest and I'll slowly crank up the charm while vetting her.

If you're doing something stationary and she's moving then it's easier to provide the space for her to stop, but if you're both on the move just enjoy the view.

 

[Oatmeal31]

You should be going to events where you coincidentally meet women. Attempting to stop a woman on the street is signalling you have absolutely way too much free time on your hands and love rejection. Ask yourself who hollers at moving women the most in big cities, it's the beggars and drunks!

If I'm waiting for something and she happens to be next to me then sure, I'll ask an innocuous question to see if she'll ask one back. If she does then it's a sign of interest and I'll slowly crank up the charm while vetting her.

If you're doing something stationary and she's moving then it's easier to provide the space for her to stop, but if you're both on the move just enjoy the view.

I'm asking guys who cold approach. If you don't, then that's fine but that's not the subject of this post. I have personally pulled a couple really attractive girls from the street but have a very low success rate, and I want to increase my chances. So I'll ask guys who cold approach, what their strategy and experience is

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

I'm asking guys who cold approach. If you don't, then that's fine but that's not the subject of this post. I have personally pulled a couple really attractive girls from the street but have a very low success rate, and I want to increase my chances. So I'll ask guys who cold approach, what their strategy and experience is

My point is there is no silver bullet or way to increase your edge in cold approaching moving targets on the streets unless you stand out immensely with something very superficial or say some magic words that just happen to get one girls interest. Your hit rate will remain low simply because of the environment and situation. What if I asked you how to increase my chances when cold approaching girls that are driving? Or ones that are on the phone? Wouldn't you simply say 'uhh don't go for those dumbass' ?

 

[Plinco]

Say she's moving toward you and you have mere seconds before she passes. You want to grab her attention and stop her. Do you wave, stand in her way..

Definitely don't do that. If you're suggesting that, you are not socially calibrated; you lack experience with people. In which case I suggest get involved in more social activities.

Do you open with something that's situational, so more of a tailored approach, or do you go with a generic 'excuse me' or 'how you doing?'

Being able to come up with conversation material on the fly is spontaneous and requires wit. And it can be difficult to do that consistently, every day, since we go through ups and downs. We may not be as sharp on some days.

This common advice, but do not spam approach. You wouldn't like people spamming you, right? It's something like getting called for a job opening. If you get offers that are too low, it feels a little insulting, but you move on. If someone tried to recruit you for a job that does not at all fit with your skills, then you would conclude that the recruiter is an idiot that's either not paying attention or using a spam approach. You want someone to come to you with a job opening that pays well and fits with your skillset. You would only say "yes" to the job if you wanted it.

I have trouble with this, thinking it it'll be ideal for me to tailor my approach. But by the time she's about to pass, I can't think of anything, so I either miss the opportunity and walk past, or open with "excuse me" and go from there. I've had WAY less reluctance on girls that are stationary. Like waiting for a street light, looking at what to buy, or waiting in line. Maybe it's because I have more time to think and warm up to the idea.

I commend you for having the balz to cold approach. Your targets need to be very specific to what kind of girl you are looking for. What kind of girl that you are looking for depends on who you are.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Men, that's a low chance play. Take advantage of opportunities while our shopping(especially grocery shopping). People are stopped in aisles and looking around and it gives you easy openers to use that are relevant to where you are and what they are looking at.

 

[Oatmeal31]

Definitely don't do that. If you're suggesting that, you are not socially calibrated; you lack experience with people. In which case I suggest get involved in more social activities.





This common advice, but do not spam approach. You wouldn't like people spamming you, right? It's something like getting called for a job opening. If you get offers that are too low, it feels a little insulting, but you move on. If someone tried to recruit you for a job that does not at all fit with your skills, then you would conclude that the recruiter is an idiot that's either not paying attention or using a spam approach. You want someone to come to you with a job opening that pays well and fits with your skillset. You would only say "yes" to the job if you wanted it.



I commend you for having the balz to cold approach. Your targets need to be very specific to what kind of girl you are looking for. What kind of girl that you are looking for depends on who you are.

Spam approach? Is a simple hello how ya doing, or excuse me, considered "spam?" They wouldn't even know I'm "spamming" because they're not following me around. So no, I wouldn't mind if someone came up to me and introduced themselves. I always have to initiate anyway, so I'd be flattered lol.

This is a forum on how to get women in any given scenario right? If I see an attractive woman on the street and I don't take the opportunity to approach her, chances I see her again are slim to none, so I might as well go for it, unless it's a dark alley.

I'm just asking those who cold approach regularly, what they typically do so that I can consider doing it myself, that is all. If you have experience doing it and want to share, please feel free

 

[SW15]

It is best to approach women when you are facing them instead of running up on them from behind.

I make strong eye contact, smile, and deliver an observational opener (situational). I tend to do this more on urban walking paths/in parks than purely on the street because my city lacks a strong street environment for approaching.

Random outdoor approaching has a low success rate. Most conversations will fizzle out before a date offer can be made. Additionally, outdoor approaching has been impacted by earbuds/headphones. A good portion of women on walking paths/in parks are using them to avoid approaches.

I think the grocery store is a better option than anything on the street. There's a reason that Roosh called the street the most difficult daygame venue back in 2012.

How To Pick Up Girls On The Street

 

[Oatmeal31]

It is best to approach women when you are facing them instead of running up on them from behind.

I make strong eye contact, smile, and deliver an observational opener (situational). I tend to do this more on urban walking paths/in parks than purely on the street because my city lacks a strong street environment for approaching.

Random outdoor approaching has a low success rate. Most conversations will fizzle out before a date offer can be made. Additionally, outdoor approaching has been impacted by earbuds/headphones. A good portion of women on walking paths/in parks are using them to avoid approaches.

I think the grocery store is a better option than anything on the street. There's a reason that Roosh called the street the most difficult daygame venue back in 2012.

How To Pick Up Girls On The Street

Thank you, and that page seems pretty useful. The writer says it's best to follow until they stop. Is that something you've done or do you usually try something different? Also, I have to ask, do you personally find yourself using the same openers, or is it situational every time?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Of all these cold approach topics I see on the internet, I have yet to find one in action in public.

 

[RangerMIke]

It's just starting up a conversation with a stranger.

 

[SW15]

Of all these cold approach topics I see on the internet, I have yet to find one in action in public.

You have yet to see a guy randomly stopping women on the street and starting conversations?

I don't see many stranger approachers at Dallas area parks or on the 2 most heavily trafficked walking paths in the area.

 

[Plinco]

Spam approach? Is a simple hello how ya doing, or excuse me, considered "spam?" They wouldn't even know I'm "spamming" because they're not following me around. So no, I wouldn't mind if someone came up to me and introduced themselves. I always have to initiate anyway, so I'd be flattered lol.

This is a forum on how to get women in any given scenario right? If I see an attractive woman on the street and I don't take the opportunity to approach her, chances I see her again are slim to none, so I might as well go for it, unless it's a dark alley.

I'm just asking those who cold approach regularly, what they typically do so that I can consider doing it myself, that is all. If you have experience doing it and want to share, please feel free

There're subtle cues that you give off that tell people what kind of person you are and what you are doing. Work on being honest and genuine. Don't assume that you are hiding anything from anyone.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Say she's moving toward you and you have mere seconds before she passes

"Yo", "Hi", "What's up", and all variations thereof are superb starts

 

[BPH]

Here's something I wanna ask you guys. What is your approach when you see someone moving in the city? Let's say:
It's a big city and there are usually hustlers on the street that ask for money, pass out flyers, try to sell you something, etc. so you have to stand out, right?

Say she's moving toward you and you have mere seconds before she passes. You want to grab her attention and stop her. Do you wave, stand in her way..
Do you open with something that's situational, so more of a tailored approach, or do you go with a generic 'excuse me' or 'how you doing?'

Being able to come up with conversation material on the fly is spontaneous and requires wit. And it can be difficult to do that consistently, every day, since we go through ups and downs. We may not be as sharp on some days.

On the other hand, 'excuse me' sounds like any other guy on the street that's probably going to ask for food/money. I've gotten ignored a fair amount of times doing that.

I have trouble with this, thinking it it'll be ideal for me to tailor my approach. But by the time she's about to pass, I can't think of anything, so I either miss the opportunity and walk past, or open with "excuse me" and go from there. I've had WAY less reluctance on girls that are stationary. Like waiting for a street light, looking at what to buy, or waiting in line. Maybe it's because I have more time to think and warm up to the idea.

So, what's your routine when doing this, and how successful do you find it?

If you find somebody attractive, go up to them and say "hi". How they react should tell you all you need to know; do they stop or keep walking? Do they maintain eye contact or turn away and keep looking at where they were going? Do they smile and seem approachable or are they responding with 1-word answers?

You should be able to pick up on most of this immediately. If a woman is interested there is very little you can do wrong, and if she is not interested there is very little you can do right.

That being said, I would not go out into the city walking around approaching women. During the day people have things to do and places to be. If I were you I would go somewhere that people collectively hang out who are more likely to be single; bars, clubs, beaches, etc.

The difference between approaching women on the street during the day vs at a bar at night would be akin to trying to sell drugs to nuns vs addicts.

 

[crowolf]

If she is walking towards you out on the street, you let her pass you by, then turn around, and soon approach her from the side.

Pro tip: When approaching from the side, you make sure she notices you first, before you speak. Otherwise you will scare her off.

For the purpose you can wave your hand when you are beside her, and eventually saying “excuse me” to grab attention if she is still not noticing you.

If you look properly, have good energy, and maintain eye contact, she is more likely to stop walking and hear what you have to say.

Then you say “hello. you look nice. I’m coming to meet you”. And that’s it. You are in. Simple.

Don’t overthink about theory and “the right way to do it”. Just go in and learn from experience. If you need to see a demonstration, check out James Marshall’s infield.