What's up with your Face???

[insidious]

Hey guys tell me about your faces :crackup:

Seriously though: I've never had an image problem when it comes to my physique. I work out, I exercise regularly, much of the presentation of my body is within my control.

My face is another matter. I think generally, about 90% of the time, I'm pleased with the way it looks. I'm not gonna melt women's hearts with my dashing good looks, but I'm not terrible to look at, I'm not gonna make babies cry.

That other 10% of the time is weird though. I seem to fall out of state and I just do not like what I see. It's the same face, nothing has changed, but it just displeases me! LOL gross... I feel something is off and this self-image problem seeps into the rest of my game also and my confidence takes a little shytter. It's never like I think I'm butt-ugly, but I don't feel up to par either. In a few days I'm OK, I feel better, but it takes a little while to snap outta my funk. I try to get some positive feedback, EC, whatever, but since my confidence is lagging, I don't really get what I need.

I'm a little old to be asking such juvenile crap. Is it just me? Why the blips in my self-image? I do take care of my face, I try to get enough sleep, water, I use Clinique facial products, :cheer:

But short of plastic surgery, there is nothing I can do - what is it with my attitude?

 

[DJ_in_making]

What's different about you during the "good-face" "Bad-face" days?

Is your hair style different? B/c that can affect the way your face looks.

Did you take a shower on certain days and not on others? That can affect the glow.

Or maybe you are confident on certain days and not on others. When I'm confident, I look "better" for some reason or another.

 

[snobby]

Women ARE interested in looks to a certain degree, but that doesn't mean or apply for only the "looks" of your face. They see the looks in general. It's great that you exercise often, as women are also attracted to a well built body. Combine that with body language and you will get alone fine for that part.

Women are more interested in how they feel when being around with you. Believe it or not, there are some pretty good looking guys out there that have never been out on a date before, simply because that haven't got a clue how to behave around the female gender.

Act like you're cool and that YOU are the selector...THEY are begging you to go out on a date with them. Don't let them smell that you have insecurities as far as your face is concerned, because THERE is where the real trouble will be. Generally our behavior plays an important role as far as our "image" is concerned.

True, hairstyles are very important when it comes to how your face looks. Find a hairstyle that will suit you best and make you good looking (or at least look organized) and wash your face with just pure water several times a day. Once your face takes its dose of water it will almost immediately change its image.

Generally it is not so important whether your face is similar to Brad Pitt's or Quasimodo's, but how organized it looks. Just give the message that you do take care of your looks and that you didn't come to town from the African jungle...look decent. No one said you gotta be Tom Cruise to get a chick!

And like I said at first, don't pass on the message that you don't like your face; that's an insecurity, and insecurities don't attract women. They like men who have condidence, have humor, are fun to be with, etc. If YOU first of all, do not like yourself and you are not comfortable, then neither will other people around you be so comfortable. Again, just take care of yourself (your face) decently, and focus more on your behavior around women.

 

[Marlimus]

I have Acne. I feel your pain.

 

[The Juan and only]

Different mirrors/lighting can have an effect.

 

[OfficeSpace]

Originally posted by snobby
Believe it or not, there are some pretty good looking guys out there that have never been out on a date before, simply because that haven't got a clue how to behave around the female gender.

I was honestly one of those guys... I thought I never had a chance with girls... Later I find out that all these very attractive girls were interested in me, but I was to insecure to even notice. I thought I was ugly because in my family, everyone always dissed eachother and grew up thinking I was a loser.

Luckily, I decided to make a change and basically forget my ****ty past, and I feel much more confident. Women (not all, but some) tell me often I am very attractive, becase now I'm more secure around them and am not afraid of "oh, I bet she thinks I'm ugly."

The way you view yourself is not always the way other people view you. I wouldn't really worry about your face too much. If you don't look like Pee Wee Herman, have a great personality, and know how to handle yourself around women, you'll do well!

Good luck my friend!