What's the deal with this shiet?

[htemorp]

Alright, friend had a party, I made contacts, I got through. She was laying on my lap while we watch tv alone and I did a lot kinos on the stomach, back and hair. Apparantly she wanted to socialize with rest of the group, didn't care much for it, but I was there socializing every so often. When she left, she came into where i was at and said she had to go in a hurry, I walked her to her car, she gave me a hug and said that her friend that brought her there has her number ( I didn't ask her for her number). Then her friend was leaving too, I was leaving with her friend but I left something behind and went back to get it. Her friend spoke to her briefly and gave me her number on a napkin when I grabbed my stuffs, he said "she told me that you can get the number from me, but i told her why don't you give it to him yourself."

Then next morning I picked up my videos from the friend that was throwing the party from his work, and he told me that another guy got that girl's number. I know they did had very little interaction if any, and none of it was alone. But why did she give him her number? I know I should not threaten, because this guy is no challenge, but maybe somehow she feels that he's more suitable for her? or did she just give him her number because he simply asked? I guess he asked her, because apparantly at the same party he basically asked another girl for her number without establishing much of any rapport and the girl hesitated but I guess still gave it to him.

ps. I was a big time AFC. All of this is in my head, but I ain't gonna do nothing stupid and act AFC in front of her, but I just would like to figure out.

 

[jlujan]

Shes not your wife, she can give her # to anyone she likes, what will determine what you are made off is the way you handle this.

I would call her in a few days and not worry about other guys.

 

[Sowatchasayin]

Call her in a week

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

Originally posted by jlujan
Shes not your wife, she can give her # to anyone she likes, what will determine what you are made off is the way you handle this.

Right on, man. In fact, never assume one girl you have interest in will ONLY talk to you if she has interest in you. What I mean is... So she shows interest in you, she's not gonna drop everything just because you might show interest in her. You have to do much more than that.

As they said, call her in about a week, and play it cool. My bet is the guy who she gave her number to called the next day... and the next day... and the next day... maybe even twice a day.

So chill, and just do what you've learned.


-- Zero-

 

[htemorp]

Well, here's the thing, I know this other guy from the party. We're not friends, but we have mutual friends, and we're not exactly friendly toward each other and had some conflicts in the past. I believe in competition for women, but not with people I know, winning or losing, especially losing, I would feel a lot worse.

 

[Chip]

He's not your buddy, what's the problem?
Letting that AFC resurface?

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by htemorp
Well, here's the thing, I know this other guy from the party. We're not friends, but we have mutual friends, and we're not exactly friendly toward each other and had some conflicts in the past. I believe in competition for women, but not with people I know, winning or losing, especially losing, I would feel a lot worse.

So what are you going to do, not try? Give up because he might win? You'd be an even bigger loser. Even if he did get her and you didn't, that says nothing about him being superior. Just that he clicked better with a particular girl. Don't tie your self-esteem to that. You should ignore the fact that he exists, and live your life. Wait a few days to call, chat for a minute, and then ask her out. Thinking of it as a competition with him will hurt you. You might get so involved in competition that you fail to realize you don't even want her.

 

[htemorp]

You're right, but I feel like I have dated all the girls for the sake of competition. But ok, I get it, just do my things...I'll kick that AFC trying to resurface within me back down to where it belongs.

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

I'll kick that AFC trying to resurface within me back down to where it belongs

Good Job.


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