Whats the best way ....

[Immaculate]

SO I've been talking to this chic I met on myspace.... We've talked on the phone and been messaging alot.. Been trying to get together for coffee but our schedules conflict...

Next time she calls me I just want to tell her to come the **** over to my house and hang out and watch a movie... I mean I live by myself, and I'm not a psycho, I'm a nice ****ing dude, and she would in reality have nothing to fear by coming over... but the way it is today she would probably think there's a chance I'm a killer or something..

So is there any way to say "just come the **** over and watch a movie" instead of this tiring game of meeting up for coffee? I have had 2 girls so far from the net that have come over to my house for the first meet.. I don't remember what I said... I guess these are just the brave girls... but this chic I get the feeling is a bit more apprehensive.

 

[penkitten]

just ask her , you will never know until you try .

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by penkitten
just ask her , you will never know until you try .

Would you go over to a guys house you met on the internet? Talked on the phone yes, AIM'ed yes, but never met in person... first meeting at his place you'd be down for that? Plus it would be a 20-30 min drive for her. But this other girl came over and it was like a 45 min drive.

I'm just tired of going out and meeting at coffeshops or whatever... just come to my place !

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Trust me, it's best to stick with the non threatening, public place for the first and maybe even the second meeting. More times than not taking it easy (not to be mistaken with slowly) works out in the long run.

The coffee house may get old if you're just doing the Starbucks thing, that's understandable. What's cool is when you can find the independent shops that either play movies in a lounge type space, have wireless Internet or something else to lend to the ambiance.

Basically, first meetings are notorious for being very stressful. Yeah, your place my be synonymous to Superman's Fortress of Solitude but come on, think about the woman who doesn't know hardly anything about you (phone conversations and email can tell only so much). Your success is based on her being comfortable with you. Meeting in a neutral place is very conducive to that.

 

[penkitten]

im sorry i didnt know it was all via internet with no telephone involvment...

did you switch pics ?
like at least 5 each?

after that , you swap phone numbers and start talking.
after you talk to her for at least a dozen times, then she should agree to meet you.

and after that, i would feel safe.
thats how i met a bunch of people online, most importantly my fiance.

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Trust me, it's best to stick with the non threatening, public place for the first and maybe even the second meeting. More times than not taking it easy (not to be mistaken with slowly) works out in the long run.

The coffee house may get old if you're just doing the Starbucks thing, that's understandable. What's cool is when you can find the independent shops that either play movies in a lounge type space, have wireless Internet or something else to lend to the ambiance.

Basically, first meetings are notorious for being very stressful. Yeah, your place my be synonymous to Superman's Fortress of Solitude but come on, think about the woman who doesn't know hardly anything about you (phone conversations and email can tell only so much). Your success is based on her being comfortable with you. Meeting in a neutral place is very conducive to that.

I know, but Franciso, it can be done ! I have had 2 girls I met online come over to my place for the FIRST meeting! It was all good. We chilled , watched a movie. One of the girls I banged twice, the other
said "i'm not that kind of girl" even though we slept in the same bed!!! SO when she said that I respnded that I understood and we just slept. I didn't pressure her or anything at all.

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by penkitten
im sorry i didnt know it was all via internet with no telephone involvment...

did you switch pics ?
like at least 5 each?

after that , you swap phone numbers and start talking.
after you talk to her for at least a dozen times, then she should agree to meet you.

and after that, i would feel safe.
thats how i met a bunch of people online, most importantly my fiance.

ummm let me think... The first girl yeah she saw all my pics on myspace and we talked alot on the phone and she came over .. I even cooked her dinner on my grill.. she wasn't the one I had sex with though even tho we slept in the same bed... Actually this girl slept over at ,y house twice. The other girl was a hispanic girl and she had no qualms about coming over to my place... she came over we watched a move and continued to bang away in the bed... too bad I developed no feelings for any of these girls and cut them loose.. I'm starting to wonder if I will ever feel something for a woman again.

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by penkitten
im sorry i didnt know it was all via internet with no telephone involvment...

did you switch pics ?
like at least 5 each?

after that , you swap phone numbers and start talking.
after you talk to her for at least a dozen times, then she should agree to meet you.

and after that, i would feel safe.
thats how i met a bunch of people online, most importantly my fiance.

There WAS telephone involvement.. I've spoken to this girl numerous times over the phone.. where in my posts did I say there was no phone talking?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Immaculate
I know, but Franciso, it can be done ! I have had 2 girls I met online come over to my place for the FIRST meeting! It was all good. We chilled , watched a movie. One of the girls I banged twice, the other
said "i'm not that kind of girl" even though we slept in the same bed!!! SO when she said that I respnded that I understood and we just slept. I didn't pressure her or anything at all.

I'm not saying it can't be done (been there, done that) however understand it's not the norm. And who's to say that you can't have the same outcome after meeting at a coffee shop?

I'm just saying that your success rate will probably be even better by easing into it. I think that David Deangelo expounds the same thing. You know his premise, two steps forward, one step back. But when it comes down to it, do whatever works for 'ya .

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I'm not saying it can't be done (been there, done that) however understand it's not the norm. And who's to say that you can't have the same outcome after meeting at a coffee shop?

I'm just saying that your success rate will probably be even better by easing into it. I think that David Deangelo expounds the same thing. You know his premise, two steps forward, one step back. But when it comes down to it, do whatever works for 'ya .

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Well I'm waiting on my pkg to arrive.. I ordered that DeAngelo stuff... I could always use the excuse I'm too drunk to meet u anywhere, just come over lol... BTW, this is the cokehead chic I posted about before... I was think fuggit may as well meet her.. Maybe all she needs in her life is a guy who has his **** straight in life.

 

[penkitten]

this is where it comes to the point of realizing not everybody is the same.
some will feel comfortable meeting you fast like that , some will not.

we are constanly told about people being murdered by people they met from online, which is why most people want to meet in public like francisco said.

however if you really dont want to go to coffee, then you are just going to have to take the chance and ask her to come by or meet you there or whatever.

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by penkitten
this is where it comes to the point of realizing not everybody is the same.
some will feel comfortable meeting you fast like that , some will not.

we are constanly told about people being murdered by people they met from online, which is why most people want to meet in public like francisco said.

however if you really dont want to go to coffee, then you are just going to have to take the chance and ask her to come by or meet you there or whatever.

well I don't think it matters now.. She was online on AIM tonight and I said hey, she said hey. I said What arew you up to tonight? Then with no reply she disconnected from AIM. So I called her up she didn't answer. I said hey I was just wanting to know if you still want to meet up somewhere for drinks, if you aren't busy tonight"

She hasn't called me back or got back on AIM.

I deleted her # and her AIM name.

A bisexual cokehead.
Why did I even bother.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Don't read anything into this; I just had to post it...

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/flash/sheblockedme.html

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Don't read anything into this; I just had to post it...

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/flash/sheblockedme.html

LOL that was funny as hell Francisco

This chic didn't even give the the "BRB" she just blocked me without saying ANYTHING which is rude as hell... I knew this girl was a b!tch... The only reason she's been nice to me is prolly cuz she's been coked up or whatever .. maybe she ran out. Fug her.. like I said I deleted her name and #.. her loss to meet a guy who has his shi!t together and possibly help her out of the mess she calls her life.
I'm not hurt by this at all like that poor bastard in the video LOL..I wasn't even gonna try and pursue her but I thought why the hell not u only live once.