What's life like when you pretty much have everything you want??

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I've spent my whole life obsessively improving every aspect of myself in hopes that I would get a quality girlfriend one day. I've succeeded at everything except dating. The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life


So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want? Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging


what do you focus your energy on?
 

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I've spent my whole life obsessively improving every aspect of myself in hopes that I would get a quality girlfriend one day. I've succeeded at everything except dating. The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life
Wrong motivation.

So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want?
Wrong question, nobody gets everything they want in life, once a goal is reached a higher one or another one is set. The right question is what do you need to feel satisfied?

Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging
Fun! You forgot fun. All those things are next to meaningless if you aren't having fun with it, if you don't maximize the satisfaction those things can give you.

what do you focus your energy on?
Maximizing my life satisfaction with the opportunities available to me.
 

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Wrong motivation.
I've wanted a girlfriend since I was 15 to no avail. It's just absolutely terrible


Wrong question, nobody gets everything they want in life, once a goal is reached a higher one or another one is set. The right question is what do you need to feel satisfied?


Fun! You forgot fun. All those things are next to meaningless if you aren't having fun with it, if you don't maximize the satisfaction those things can give you.


Maximizing my life satisfaction with the opportunities available to me.

I have a ton of fun in my life. I love my job, I love working out, I love partying/traveling, etc...
 

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The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life
Oh, that's not good. You should be seeking self improvement for its own sake, or for yourself.

So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want?
Haven't you ever seen Willy Wonka? What happened to the man who got everything he wanted?
He lived happily ever after.
 

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I've wanted a girlfriend since I was 15 to no avail. It's just absolutely terrible
Hey, I can relate but in the end what got me what I desired was to give up my desire. I got tired of looking for a girlfriend. I asked myself what I really wanted and it was happiness, a deep feeling of satisfaction. You don't need a woman for that, you should already have it.
 

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I've spent my whole life obsessively improving every aspect of myself in hopes that I would get a quality girlfriend one day. I've succeeded at everything except dating. The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life


So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want? Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging


what do you focus your energy on?
Do your job and enjoy your life .
 

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There's always more lol. That's what makes it fun the continuous pursuit. Unless you're doing it all for women then....if so you're doing it wrong.
 

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A "girlfriend" is okay . It has to be her idea though . You need to be worrying about sex. I explained that the focused MINDSET of trying to get a GF doesn't work . It's been tried by many. The females percieve it as "needy". They'll wonder about your options . Fix your MINDSET.
 

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So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want? Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging
What guy has all of this? Trump doesn't even have it. He has only one woman. George Clooney never had it either. I don't know a rockstar that had it either. Most of them weren't healthy and had family difficulties. Stop with the infatuation, its no good to idealize others. Its never true.
 
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