Theres this one girl that confuses the HELL out of me. Not in a bad way, its just that she's so flirty, so nice, but she's like that with alot of guys. Firstly, ill describe our relationship. She and I have been hanging out alot in the past week or so... i'll go over to her room and hang out with her, or we'll walk to classes together, talk on the phone ect. She laughs at pretty much everything i say, she makes me feel like damn Chris Tucker or something. We have hung out for hours on hours before just talking and flirting around. I got some advice from others that I should try to move in closer and get away from the friend zone. So the last time i was with her I flirted with her alot more physically. Had her on my lap, we would wrestle around, hug, her on top of me on her bed... basically just playing around, tickling, wrestling, flirting and ****. Then we'd hug each other good bye and all that other stuff. Although she's like pretty flirty with alot of other guys I still notice that she's seemingly moreso with me. She invites me over to eat dinner with her.. go to parties with her... ect. She says right now though, she's not ready for a relationship and just looking for friends, whats up with that? What should I do to really find out if she's digging me, or should i just keep flirting with her even more, do things to get her to like me? I read at one website that i should get a box of chocolates and give them to her and say that I got some for myself and thought she'd like them... any advice? What would yall do in this situation? I took some advice from another board and realized I need to be less attainable.. so i hadnt called her for 2 days.. then today when i called her, while we were on the phone, another girl I know called me up and i told her that i was gonna head over to that girls room and id talk to her later.
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Whats going on through this girls mind?
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Get a box of condoms instead.
What you have to do is KISS HER and then fukk her. She's ready, ARE YOU?
Just when you get all flirty, kiss her ON THE LIPS. Don't say anything, just do it. Then go for her neck, tits and ass.
KISS HER NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER, OR YOU'LL REGRET IT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE
MisterAl
Don Juan
What is going through this girl's mind is the following:
"D4H is such a nice _friend_."
Don't waste another moment with this girl.
You've blown it with this girl. Don't buy any chocolate unless you're going to eat it all yourself.
You talked with her too much and became her girlfriend. She flirts with you because you're safe and she knows you won't pull a move on her. She has put you in the category of people she will choose to never sleep with. That is exactly what "I'm not looking for a relationship" means.
The concepts in the Bible will be of immense help to you, so read them. I will tell you that you need to make the next girl feel butterflies. This happens when she wonders if you like her and if she's going to get to see you again. You do this by not being so available, not buying chocolates, and remembering that the telephone exists only to set dates and not chat for hours like a girl. The Bible will help you.
"D4H is such a nice _friend_."
Don't waste another moment with this girl.
You've blown it with this girl. Don't buy any chocolate unless you're going to eat it all yourself.
You talked with her too much and became her girlfriend. She flirts with you because you're safe and she knows you won't pull a move on her. She has put you in the category of people she will choose to never sleep with. That is exactly what "I'm not looking for a relationship" means.
The concepts in the Bible will be of immense help to you, so read them. I will tell you that you need to make the next girl feel butterflies. This happens when she wonders if you like her and if she's going to get to see you again. You do this by not being so available, not buying chocolates, and remembering that the telephone exists only to set dates and not chat for hours like a girl. The Bible will help you.
After reading through the early parts of Kino, i realize that this is just what i began doing when i started making my move to get out of the friend zone. Like i said, i started initiating more physical contact with her, and got a good response out of it. We did things such as arm wrestling, and i would feel her arm and tell her she's pretty strong for a lil shawty.. or we would wrestle around and id have her on my lap... we'd hug... Or another thing i did was when i asked her how she kept her skin so smooth she said she used some kinda lotion and she showed me it, and i got some of it and rubbed it on her.. and then she responded by getting some and rubbing it on me. When she rubbed it on me, i laughed and told her i dont want no girly ass lotion on me.. and then she further pursed to rub it on my body. Even though ive been getting positive resopnses from my initiations of kino, why do you say that ive already blew it with her.. i thought the purpose of kino in the situation of friends was to see how she reacts... and so far its been good. I dont think im going to give up on her just yet. Im going to stop by her place today and get even more physical.
You have the right picture man. Continue getting more physical, extend her comfort zone for kissing and then fukkin.
Expect resistance. You'll go in a sequence approx like this:
Kiss
neck
breast
butt
*****
If she says you're going too fast, back up 2 points and say: "I'll go slower" (but will still go there and continue)
You're doing great, you may not be in the friendzone than much.
Ok, check it. Tonight i hung out with her but there were 2 other guys in her room with me and we were all just chilling. I made sure to flirt with her, and use my "kino" in front of the other guys to basically let them know they arent any competition. I would rub on her calf muscle telling her how defined they are... or rub her hair.. just the usual kino. They got the hint apparently and soon left and it was just her and I. I then asked her if she liked the candy i gave her, and she gave me a hug. and after the hug i held her close to me, face to face.. and looked her in the eyes... u know how it is right before u kiss someone. When i tried to kiss her she basically turned her head the other way so that id kiss her cheek. Then i asked her for a peck on the cheek and she said "sorry [D4H] i like you and have feelings for you as a friend and all but you knew i wasnt ready for anything else right now". At this point i had her sitting on my lap with her arm around me, while before i was sitting in a chair and she was hugging me with her body inbetween my legs, u know. But we basically talked and she told me the whole thing about how she isnt looking for anything more than friendships right now and doesnt care if the finest brotha on campus asked for a peck, he wouldnt get one. She also told me she thinks i just dont know what i want right now. She says that she's seen me talk to other girls and try to hook up with them, or that ive talked with her about other relationships ive had since being here on campus and she thinks im not really sure what im looking for in a girl right now. Apparently the strong friendship we had backfired... she knew about all the other girls ive messed with, talked to, or tried hooking up with.. and she told me that she doesnt think i really like her like that. Oh well, at least i made my move, found out what i needed to know, and know not to waste any more time. Right?
To me, it seems like you blew it by essentially portraying yourself like a "player" in her eyes. There's a fine line between being the "bad boy" that girls like and being a player. You can make yourself desirable to other women and make sure they show it, but you can't try to get with every one of them. You need to make a girl feel special in the sense that she's the only one you think of in that way, even though you respect other women and innocently make them fall for you.
I'd stop being all touchy feely with her, and make her question what the heck is going on. You did a good job of building the trust and rapport. Now you just need to take it away and make her realize what she has. I hate doing that, but for some women, they just don't know what they have until it's gone.
I'd stop being all touchy feely with her, and make her question what the heck is going on. You did a good job of building the trust and rapport. Now you just need to take it away and make her realize what she has. I hate doing that, but for some women, they just don't know what they have until it's gone.
