What you guys think i should text back now?

[snowdog]

Ok, i met this girl at work. We worked together a couple of times and really had fun. I did her a favor by driving her to her home after work. She gave me her number and I found out it was one number short. So, i called work and they provided me the missing numder. I texted her asking her out. After a week of nothing, i sent the following (translated to English):

Dear [name], i think you are a nice person and i would like to go out with you sometime. If you don't feel like doing that, i'm perfectly fine with that. Though you can just honestly tell me that. Don't give me incomplete telephone numbers and ignore me. You know me better that that, don't you? X Snowdog

Then later that day i got this back:

Hey Snowdog, sorry sorry sorry, i have been really busy and kinda forgot about your text. We could go out and have a drink somewhere next week, but you should know i have a boyfriend. So just let me know ok? Kiss, [name]


Soww...... what do you guys think i should send back? I like this girl. I want to hook up with her if i get the chance... and having a 'date' like that is the right start i think. I have already made up for myself i am going to get this date no matter what, just for fun anyway. We like to hang out together. ...But if we could hook up too, well that would be just awesome. How do i bring it smoothly but not being too needy or too player-ish?

...And, this is a really beautiful girl. I still tend to get a little tense and nervous around them so the more i hang out with them the better it gets right? Right.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Here's your answer:

KARMIC LAW #14 - Do not Instant Message, Email or text a woman if you're courting her. You instantly become her girlfriend and will not escape that club.

If you have a phone use it as it was intended. Call her and make it brief. This way you give her the gift of intrigue and not bog down her thinking when you pop into her head throughout the day.

 

[snowdog]

Alrighty... yea, i called her twice the day i got her number, and she didn't pick up. So i texted her the next day. Calling again felt a bit too needy. Plus that last text i sent felt pretty right on.

 

[snowdog]

...because she texted me back and opened the door to sorta have a date. That's how i see it.

 

[KarmaSutra]

All you're doing is justifying your position as her girlfriend.

 

[window]

Dude, ur wasting you're time on this girl when you could be dating available women. She has a boyfriend...she'll take you for an ego ride for a bit, get drinks, dinner, attention etc and then say to you LJBF's...and you'll possibly step it up a notch maybe even get pissed off a bit when she doesn't reciprocate. Then she'll justify her actions by saying...."Snowdog, I did say I had a boyfriend".

If it's incoming from her though it's a different story, it probably means the boyfriend is on the way out. Did she offer her number without you asking, or did you have to ask for it ?

 

[Ostepop]

Alrighty... yea, i called her twice the day i got her number, and she didn't pick up. So i texted her the next day. Calling again felt a bit too needy. Plus that last text i sent felt pretty right on.

Ostepops law #6 Upon getting a number, call her (not right away, not the day after either), but call her (dont text). If she doesn't pickup, you may send her 1 txt and one txt only. If she doesn't reply, delete number\forget about girl.

Ostepops law #7 Calling leaves a MUCH bigger impression than txting a girl, its also much harder to reject someone on the phone than over a txt. Leave instant messaging\txting\emailing for your friends, girls you want to date, does not fit into this category. If you keep txting\sending IM's you will become their friend though, and you dont want that

that should cover it

 

[window]

Fellas, if she's going to branch swing, you know what's going to happen down the line...

Personally I've never gone for this type of girl and I think it's kept me out of a lot of sh!t.

I was dating a girl once and she's sitting there telling me across the table that she's seeing another guy. I'm thinking unbelievable. In fact I've had many girls simply put on hold "their boyfriend" to see if they have a chance with me. As soon as they see ur not interested back they go as if it is as normal as the sun coming up. What a turnoff.

No boyfriends or seeing anyone in the background...that's one of my rules.

The sea is full of heaps of genuine available women, never forget that and never let them forget that.

 

[Play the Game]

KARMIC LAW #14 - Do not Instant Message, Email or text a woman if you're courting her. You instantly become her girlfriend and will not escape that club.

If you have a phone use it as it was intended. Call her and make it brief. This way you give her the gift of intrigue and not bog down her thinking when you pop into her head throughout the day.

That is absolute, unadulterated, first-rate bull$hit.

It's not how you communicate, its what you convey to the girl that puts you in the friends category. Obviously you don't have to look to far up the page to see a perfect example of a friendzone txt. I mean WTF would you start of with DEAR? It's not like you're writing a letter to your grandma.... keep it short and not so needy and blunt.

 

[Rash]

instant messaging will burn ur cards, u can use these cards in a real life conversation with the girl!!

 

[bustingducks4]

seriously...just text her back and be like..."so what if you have a boyfriend, it isn't like this is the last guy you'll ever date, and then be like besides you'll probably have more fun hanging out with me anyway, and if you do, we can go out more whenever you decide to dump him."

 

[bustingducks4]

whoever said that text messaging will burn your cards is a f$Gking moron...i text dirty sexual things all the time to all these h o e s. they are all h o e s. and most of them want to be treated like h o e s. If your worried that she has a boyfriend, i'd turn it up a notch, and subtly let her know you want to be sexual with her. text her...tell her you want to get to know her better so you and her can do dirty things together eventually (in lighthearted sarcastic way) so you dont come off as a shadeball

 

[KarmaSutra]

That is absolute, unadulterated, first-rate bull$hit.

It's not how you communicate, its what you convey to the girl that puts you in the friends category. Obviously you don't have to look to far up the page to see a perfect example of a friendzone txt. I mean WTF would you start of with DEAR? It's not like you're writing a letter to your grandma.... keep it short and not so needy and blunt.

It's bullsh!t if you're content with being her fvcking girlfriend. If so, have at it.

 

[snowdog]

seriously...just text her back and be like..."so what if you have a boyfriend, it isn't like this is the last guy you'll ever date, and then be like besides you'll probably have more fun hanging out with me anyway, and if you do, we can go out more whenever you decide to dump him."

i just sent something like that

 

[KarmaSutra]

Ostepops law #6 Upon getting a number, call her (not right away, not the day after either), but call her (dont text). If she doesn't pickup, you may send her 1 txt and one txt only. If she doesn't reply, delete number\forget about girl.




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Ostepops law #7 Calling leaves a MUCH bigger impression than txting a girl, its also much harder to reject someone on the phone than over a txt. Leave instant messaging\txting\emailing for your friends, girls you want to date, does not fit into this category. If you keep txting\sending IM's you will become their friend though, and you dont want that

How fvcking original.

If you're going to rip off my stuff at least give credit where credit is due. Of your 40 posts I've never seen any of the "Ostepop laws", I wonder why that would be . . .

At least come up with something other than anything resembling my LAWS. Your fvcking drivel makes no sense or has any redeeming quality whatsoever.

 

[squirrels]

I think you should send this back to her:

I didn't know that the tips forum is for tips, not questions. I'll post in the correct forum next time. TTYL

 

[hbxdoode]

karmasutra, you are an idiot. there is nothing wrong with texting and emailing someone. it all depends on how well you know them. obliviously you know this girl. you do work with her right? if you guys are having good conversations everytime you see each other... then texting is fine, it just mean that maybe you're not a phone person. But if you dont really know this girl, and dont know what to talk to her about in person, then texting will only make things worst, shows that youre scare and nervous.

 

[Kev07]

"So after a long debate over my internet messageboard about what I should text back, we(the members of Sosuave.net) have decided that I will stop texting you because you have already rejected me in your previous texts. Thanks and have a nice day."

 

[tsmith2334]

Based on those previous texts and getting the wrong number to begin with, I don't know if this date will even pan out... I wouldn't bother with her for now. Maybe a little while down the road.

And for the record, I see no problem with the occasional text. My sister's fiance texts her a decent amount (before and after they started dating), and she never complains. So I'm just going off real life experience here.

 

[Obliteraga]

How fvcking original.

If you're going to rip off my stuff at least give credit where credit is due.

Karmic Law #1.To thine own self be true.

To thine own self be true.

I loled.

Your "laws" aren't original or worth a damn either.