what would you do?

[digitalflava]

i'm a wreck right now, its been a month of confusion, deciet, sadness, regrett and hate.

about 1 month ago in a matter of 48 hours i got dumped, layed off of my job and the killer is...the reason my relationship ended was because my own cousin who is like a younger brother to moved in.

she says that the reason she is breaking off is because she doesn't feel that valued, i never showed affection, i never told her how i feel. well after years of serial monogomy with many gf in the past i learned not to be so mushy and present to much hopes. i'm no afc by the way, i had complete control over the relationship.

so i didn't think much of her breaking up with me, after all i was with her for almost a 1 yr and a half, i thought i could get her back easily and said sorry for not showing emotion. i told her how i really feel about her.

so i find out my cuz in law is the third party involved. at first i was sad, dissapointed and felt betrayed by 2 people i loved.

its almost excusable for her. what do you expect going out with a beatiful younger girl with charms that could light up a stadium full of men. **** happens going out with hot girls right?

but my cuz man i would never expect this from him. so over the month my other cuz warned him that the sadness is turning to rage. i eventually confronted him told him to meet me in a park with intentions of beating him. he told me he would back off.

now this is the guys first crush, he never had a gf before, too shy.
he played the shoulder to lean on and now he is to blind to see the consequences.

so he continues seeing her behind my back, she is so dependent on me so i stay "friends" to know the inside scoop..ala the "Art of War". i even ended up sleeping with her the last 2 weeks more than a few times.

Now i go to his house, he comes out and i question him. he doesn't lie and i crab him by the collar throw him down yelling to "end it now" I beat his body, something made me want to spare his face. i wish now that i disfigured him.

i leave and tell him that i will spy and catch him if he continues. and next time i would be beating your body(ribs and stomach) next time its gonna be your face so your parents can see, and everytime he looks in the mirror he will be reminded of the consequences and my rage.

i have yet to know whats happening, my girl has been trying to call and i never pick up my cell.

do you think that me beating him to a pulp will scare him away and realize its not worth it? i told him i wont stop beating him as long as this continues.

what do you guys think, i'm not a overly violent man always looking for fights, i'm also no ***** or afc. i sincerly loved this girl, i believe that if he was not in the picture i would still be with her. i've resorted to all methods that does not include violence.

how could i live with myself if i just let them be and ignore, forget? what kind of man would i be? i'm fighting now not for her but my honor?

thank you for taking the time to read my post, i know its long. anyone have any feedback or similiar storys?

 

[ManOMan]

That really sux your cuz was the next guy in line, but after reading your story this is your greatest error in logic

"i believe that if he was not in the picture i would still be with her."

NO YOU WOULDNT BE SIR. If it wasnt your cuz, it would be somebody else. and you beating him up is going to make your girl like HIM even more (because women love drama and the forbidden fruit)

I dont believe any of those excuses she layed out for breaking it off with you (you dont show emotion, you dont value me)

 

[squirrels]

Let's see, where do we begin?

i'm no afc by the way, i had complete control over the relationship

Sounds like not only do you have poor control over the relationship, you THINKING you do shows that you have poor AWARENESS of the relationship. If you're in complete control, then why is she banging another dude?

its almost excusable for her. what do you expect going out with a beatiful younger girl with charms that could light up a stadium full of men. **** happens going out with hot girls right?

Oh yeah, it's not like it could POSSIBLY be her fault...because she's so beautiful she can't POSSIBLY be guilty. She didn't spread her legs for him, he took over her mind with some hypno-voodoo crap, right?

Again, lack of awareness. You got blinders on, son.

but my cuz man i would never expect this from him

True...I wouldn't expect it from him either. It's time your cousin "who you love like a brother" got busted back to cousin status. But again, this demonstrates lack of awareness on your part.

so i stay "friends" to know the inside scoop

It's too late for spy games...besides, the fact that you have to play spy games with this chick should tell you something (she's untrustworthy, maybe).

Why should you, the man in complete control of the relationship, have to spend your time sneaking around trying to find out if your worthless lying-ass ho is messing around behind your back? Can't you do any better? Again, you've got pvssy-blinders on.

i leave and tell him that i will spy and catch him if he continues. and next time i would be beating your body(ribs and stomach) next time its gonna be your face so your parents can see, and everytime he looks in the mirror he will be reminded of the consequences and my rage.

Great...so you scare off a close member of your family so she needs to find someone else to cheat with. That beating really solved a lot. I'm not saying he didn't have it coming, but he's probably STILL banging your girl. And if he's not, someone else is.

How many people are you going to beat down before you cut this girl loose? It's over. Either she's not worth your time, or you failed to give her what she wanted. At this point, it's moot. You're now the oppressive violent psycho boyfriend she tells all her other f--k buddies she's "trying to leave."

i'm also no ***** or afc. i sincerly loved this girl, i believe that if he was not in the picture i would still be with her.

THIS is at the root of your problem. You are still so blinded by your "love" for this girl that you don't want to admit that it's OVER, that you two have FAILED. The relationship is over, and the longer you cling to it, the more it's going to hurt. Learn from it, embrace it, and END it. It's time to let go.

If your cousin wasn't in the picture then she would've been banging someone else. You just wouldn't have known about it until she came to you one day asking for "space" and you would've gotten all confused and teary.

You've already taken care of one half of your problem. I wouldn't have beaten anyone up over it, but you went easy on him, and while I don't condone it, it's none of my business and I understand why you did it. Now solve the OTHER half of your problem...tell your girl that it's over, get your stuff back, and never look back.

Consider it a lesson in relationship awareness.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

YOU ARE THE BIGGEST AFC!!!!! AS SCARFACE WOULD SAY, "LOOK AT YOU, LOOK AT YOU NOW!!!!!"

The biggest chump thing to do is to beat up another person because you hor opened her legs in submission to another pimp.

Why don't you kick your hors ass??? She is the deserving one - she was cheating on you way b 4 you were even aware she was going to leave you - this is chump mistake #2. Do some research, if this hor cheated with not only your roomy but also family member that is 2 feet away from you - What the hell did she do outside of your presence where you were far removed from her other pimps???

Chump mistake #3 you even stated her actions are "excusable" because she is so pretty...this is the biggest chump thing I ever heard on this board yet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you a hor lover and are protecting a hor's honor??? HUH?????
If this is the case then it is your cousin's actions that should be forgiven and excused, since she is the one who lured him by her beauty and the offering of her vagina - since he is a man you know and she knew that he would be weakened by such an offer - just like you were when this hor lured you a year and a half ago!!

Chump mistake #4 - Your cousin didn't see her behind your back it was this hor g/f of yours that you had the b/f g/f contract with who betrayed your trust and initiated the action!!!! Do your research! She gave him reason for his penis to get hard because she was dumping your ass in the meantime and was looking for another pimp and had the audacity to go after a family member!!! She did this on purpose to teach you a lesson for not giving her hor attention.

She shoved her infidelity in your face and like a chump ypu apologize and go after your cuz!! She disrespected you and gravely so!!! This was a purposeful action on her part to get you enraged - and it worked!!! You didn’t give this hor the outlandish compliments and attention that she craved, so she wanted to teach you a lesson and prove that she is worthy of such praise. HELLLLOOO!!! Anybody there?

You fool, she wanted you to find out...don't you see...she is taking glee in seeing in your misery and your jealous rage. YOU FELL INTO THE HOR TRAP BRO!!! SHAME ON YOU!!!! Stick around here and take heed to some advice. You think you know women, but you are far removed from their reality.

Chump mistake # 4 - you thought she loved you! Wrong!!

Let me stop!! I would give you more hell, if you weren't so emotionally destitute!!

 

[ManOMan]

heh PRL is right on

This post has opened my eyes as to how disillusioned some people are, and will beleive what they want to believe, and see what they want to see

You took your anger out on your cuz, when your anger should be towards the girl, but instead you see her as "too pretty to fend off men on her own", SHE IS THE ONE WHO GAVE CONSENT

Repeat that 1000x times until it sinks in

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Oh yeah, I forgot to answer your question.

What would you do?

I would apologize to my cuz for beating him, but I will not forgive him for his deceit, since he did not ask for forgiveness nor show any contrition.

I would go tell the hor what I told you in my above post - on all points, and I would tell her that I was blinded by her physical appearance and beauty, but now I learned something valuable as a man. That is, I shouldn't judge people by their out ward appearance, but rather through their character and actions and how they value the worth and feelings of others.

I also learned that I should never love a selfish woman, who is concerned with her happiness alone and would destroy the being of others to fulfill her selfish desires and carnal lusts.


Tell her you are no longer blind and you see her for what she is, call her a 'hor. " And then thank her for waking you up to reality! Tell her you are a better man for it!!!

 

[OddTech]

all posters are right

Yup, the posters are correct. This may not be something you want to hear but you lost big time. The truth hurts, so STOP being in DENIAL!

To add more fuel to the fire, you are a big schmuck. You keep talking about your honor this and that. But you went out to BULLY your own cousin and BEAT him. What honor is that? Over a woman? You have no honor when you go out beating someone over a woman. Throw that sh!t out the window. You are a VIOLENT BULLY. You should be ashamed!

What are you going to do? Beat and bully every single guy that wants to date your girl? Eventually you'll mess with the wrong guy and you'll get majorly f*cked.

Your woman lost her honor. She is cheating on you! She isn't as innocent as you claim her to be. Stop lying to yourself, you are a major AFC. Now it's time to shake it off like a MAN and move on.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by digitalflava
ii'm no afc by the way, i had complete control over the relationship.

... excusable for her. what do you expect going out with a beatiful younger girl with charms that could light up a stadium full of men. **** happens going out with hot girls right?

....now this is the guys first crush, he never had a gf before, too shy - he played the shoulder to lean on and now he is to blind to see the consequences.

so he continues seeing her behind my back,

...she is so dependent on me so i stay "friends" to know the inside scoop..ala the "Art of War". i even ended up sleeping with her the last 2 weeks more than a few times.

I'm also no ***** or afc. i sincerly loved this girl, i believe that if he was not in the picture i would still be with her. i've resorted to all methods that does not include violence.

how could i live with myself if i just let them be and ignore, forget? what kind of man would i be? i'm fighting now not for her but my honor?/B]

You have not responded yet, so I'll give you some more insight!

You thought you had complete control of the relationship, but women like your hor don't like men to control them they feel confined by your restraints and will pretend to obey your orders - i said pretend - but behind your back they are retaliating against this control by fuvking other men just to prove that you don't own them and out of spite!! Hors always do these things out of spite!!

She obviously knew she was a ‘hot’ girl and she used this to her advantage and to your demise! Why excuse her horishness, because you see her as pretty? Would she be excused if she were average looking? No? Why not?

You said your cousin was shy and he never had a girl before. Now honestly, who do you think was the aggressor then? Your bashful non-experienced cousin? Or your temptress seductive hor g/f who had lovers before? You don’t have to answer, that was a rhetorical question! Go have a few beers with you cuz and tell him of this experience so he can learn as well and tell him about this website and how PuertoRican_Lover opened your eyes to the obvious hidden realities of hors. He is not blind to the consequences – it is you who has eyes but cannot see!!!!

You blame your loss on your cuz, yet in the next breath you state that she left you because you were neglecting her and not giving her the attention that hors crave. HUH??? What does this have to do with your cuz?? You are blaming the wrong person!

You say he is seeing her behind your back. I thought she told you to blow? Why is it your business? It is her coaxing and doing!!

You say she is dependent on you and you have become her friend. Are you delusional??? Or insane???? She sleeps with you to calm your enraged soul – pvssy seems to have that affect on men!
You love this girl? Why? Because she is pretty and her **** is tight? What about her character? Her values? Her love and sincerity? Her kindness? Oh yeah, that doesn’t count!!

Now you are fighting for your honor. What honor? Do you know what honor means? Honor = High respect or good reputation; glory or recognition, distinction. How have you distinguished yourself from the average Chump…did you go into a violent demeaning fit of rage to uphold worthy principles? Or was this raged owed to your embarrassment and shame that this hor g/f brought upon you because she screwed your cousin, and so unabashedly so? The woman you love so much, the love of which she did not reciprocate. You felt like a fool and had no other meaningful outlets to pour your violent tantrums besides a man weaker than you. Would you have attacked your cousin if he were twice your size? She brought shame upon you – why isn’t your rage directed towards her? That’s right, she has the vagina you so desire! There are other vaginas out there you know.

Every sentence in your post representing your actions and viewpoint is in error – but I don’t have the time to enlighten you much more, but you get the gist of my scorn. You are sleeping with the enemy, and the sad thing is you don’t even know it, or at least don’t wish to acknowledge it! Ignorance is blessed! Or is it?

I don’t mean to belittle you, but I am only trying to wake you up from your dream state that you call reality. The matrix has you – take the blue pill and read this site for your awakening. One more word of advice – don’t be so proud! Pride cometh before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall!!!

You state, "what kind of man would i be?"

This is the wrong question. The question should be, "What kind of man am I?"

This is the first day of your adult life!! Welcome!!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

DigitalFlava - where are you??? I'm sorry if you took the tongue lashing the wrong way but it was for your own good!

Please gives us an update on your condition.