What would you do?

[buffalobill]

I met this girl in class, and we hit it off pretty well from the start. After the class was done for the semester I asked her on facebook if she would like to go out sometime. She says "why not! " and I ask her to send me her number. She does, and suggests texting to set up the date. A couple days later I text the number saying "Hi _______, this is buffalobill. How's it going?" and I get no response. How should I proceed? My gut feeling is that she's genuinely interested, but then wtf is with not responding to my text? Should I try calling? I don't want to do anything that would come off as needy, but at the same time I do want to get a hold of her.

 

[buffalobill]

bump?

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

I met this girl in class, and we hit it off pretty well from the start. After the class was done for the semester I asked her on facebook if she would like to go out sometime. She says "why not! " and I ask her to send me her number. She does, and suggests texting to set up the date. A couple days later I text the number saying "Hi _______, this is buffalobill. How's it going?" and I get no response. How should I proceed? My gut feeling is that she's genuinely interested, but then wtf is with not responding to my text? Should I try calling? I don't want to do anything that would come off as needy, but at the same time I do want to get a hold of her.

The problem is you not asking a girl out when you're face-to-face and only doing it with texting and FB.

What can she think so far but that you're afraid of face-to-face and voice contact with important things?

The only way to possibly salvage this is to voice call her.

 

[ENIGMA16]

Call in a few days and if she doesn't pick up then text her (don't leave a vm). If you don't get a response then next her.

 

[horaholic]

Dont ask questions like "how's it going?" over a text. Thats considered 'value taking.' You are expecting her to put effort in to answering you. Break that habit right now. You offered nothing of value in that text.

You need to be value giving. You can reword the same thing to make her enjoy reading it, but not require a response on her part, just for your own validation. We know you are just trying to start a convo, but dont try to force it. Or, at the very least, make it an entertaining read.

For example, if you wrote something like " Hey weirdo I was just thinking about how your right ear curls at the top. Its adorable!"

Bad example, I know, but this does two things: First, you're guaranteed a response. She will write back IMMEDIATELY: "What about my ear? are you serious? WTF?" Beleive it or not, that is a form of entertainment for her. Secondly, every time she looks at her ear, she is going to think about you.

Then you can write back something like "JK. Just testing you to see if you can handle me You almost passed! U free l8r?"

As weird as that is, its value giving.
Obviously you should think of better things than that, but BE CREATIVE, and fun if you shoot her a random text. Throw out some 'bait' to get her to respond. Also, read these:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/84921
http://www.rsdnation.com/brad/blog/texting-helping-guys-get-laid-1993
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/60168

 

[buffalobill]

Thanks for the tips you guys, I'll go check those links out. I guess I'll try giving her a call in a couple days.