What would you do if your wife acted like this on your honeymoon?

[MatureDJ]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/...oneymoon_to_be_with_her_grieving_friend_.html

The way I see it, if my new bride were to be sharing a bed with another women, it would have to be in the context of a threesome!

 

[st_99]

well, its one thing to postpone the honeymoon, i suppose you can deal with that. but, leaving the house to spend nights with her friend and not her husband. Umm, no. Or maybe the friend is staying with them?? In that case, why does she need to sleep on his bed. I'm a little confused but....

Chick sounds like one of those no boundry, I do what i want, and you should love me the way i am types..

 

[Nutz]

The bf dying is pretty extreme and I can understand putting things on hold for a few weeks. That said, the idea she's sleeping with her friend should have been solved long loooooooong before by simply requiring any sleepovers happen at their home instead of his gf running off to the other woman's place. If she's unable to abide this simple stipulation which doesn't functionally change the sleepover, then it's blatantly obvious something's going on that they don't want the guy to be witness to.

 

[sodbuster]

NEXT! WE are supposed to be a couple....doesn't sound like she ASKED if it would be ok,she just did it. Your SPOUSE is supposed to be the most important person in your life[at least that's what women all tell us...whats good for the goose...]. Can't see this early disrespect boding well for the marriage. Drop her NOW, get it annulled before it costs you half

 

[Colossus]

Get an annulment. You are not a priority. She should have married her best friend.

 

[5string]

Classic case of a guy not trusting his gut. I'd throw that ho to the curb faster than a prom dress falls off. What a chump.

 

[Warrior74]

Reverse all the genders for truth. If your best friends girlfriend died right before your honeymoon, and he called on you for help what would you do?

 

[DJDamage]

Reverse all the genders for truth. If your best friends girlfriend died right before your honeymoon, and he called on you for help what would you do?

The thing is, I know they wouldn't. I would think that best friends know that if you are going on your honeymoon and the last thing they need is to interrupt it. They would have other friends and family at this time for moral support. You being there, isn't going to bring the g/f back. As a matter of fact they would feel worse if I stayed.

This woman should have consulted with her husband for what is the best course of action on the matter to take and they should have agreed on it together. The fact that she didn't and just ran to her girlfriend to sleep over is a big red flag and quite telling of what his future marriage is going to be like.

 

[vatoloco]

For starters, I would've never married her in the first place but, in the extreme case that the new wife were to pull some shit like that: filing for annulment immediately.

 

[Warrior74]

The thing is, I know they wouldn't. I would think that best friends know that if you are going on your honeymoon and the last thing they need is to interrupt it. They would have other friends and family at this time for moral support. You being there, isn't going to bring the g/f back. As a matter of fact they would feel worse if I stayed.


Exactly. This is what I initially wrote and then went back to a question instead. Most men wouldn't be that selfish, even in times of grief.

This woman should have consulted with her husband for what is the best course of action on the matter to take and they should have agreed on it together. The fact that she didn't and just ran to her girlfriend to sleep over is a big red flag and quite telling of what his future marriage is going to be like.

Also excellent. She put her friend before her husband. Her new family. He should divorce her.

 

[Desdinova]

Sounds like something my ex-wife would have done. She spent more time with her best friend than she did with me. When I told her that I was lonely in the house all the time, she dismissed it as something wrong with me. When her best friend called and said she was lonely, my ex was over there in a heartbeat to spend time with her.

If she has no sense of responsibility to her family regardless of how 'new' the family is, she's not worth having in your family.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear MDJ,
Freakin Prudence!.....Spends her time cruisin' Sites like this for bizarre ideas(perhaps she is my favourite Troll on here),for anything that will interest,be it outrage or Titillation...better to believe in the tooth fairy than her!

 

[Nutz]

She spent more time with her best friend than she did with me.

This is where I see a lot of guys going wrong. The wife and husband should be each others best friends. Every marriage has hard times and you'll even fall out of love eventually. If you're best friends then you'll still be able to maintain the marriage until you eventually fall back in love, months, possibly years later. That's the reality of long-term 50+ years of marriage.

 

[Desdinova]

This is where I see a lot of guys going wrong. The wife and husband should be each others best friends. Every marriage has hard times and you'll even fall out of love eventually. If you're best friends then you'll still be able to maintain the marriage until you eventually fall back in love, months, possibly years later. That's the reality of long-term 50+ years of marriage.

I think that's a load of garbage. Me and my ex were very good friends. It really doesn't matter how friendly you are, if one party goes into the relationship without the desire to be considerate and unselfish, it's going to fall apart.