What would a DJ do?

[Legend]

Since i'm not a true DJ yet i need some advice. Alright i have'nt talked to the girl i liked since our get together sunday. Things really did'nt go well, so thats why i guess we have'nt talked since. I know i could just call her but i want her to call me. She was the one that ruined the date, not me. She was in a very bad mood and said a lot of mean things to me. She did'nt want to do anything, so we sat in my house and just made out. I wanted to go golfing and eat mexican food. The lil ***** ruined my night!

Would a DJ not even bother with a girl that shows such disrepect? I can walk away but i dont want too. Should i just give it more time? The odds are she will call....we she calls do i act mad? Or like i did'nt even notice.......

the reasons why i am mad-She fooled around with a guy while me and her was seeing other. The guy is gone now though......that really ripped me apart. If things do end i want her to feel like she lost something, i'm afraid she wont even care.

I want to make everything right, but i dont feel like putting anymore effort into this girl that puts nothign into me. Its a case of 2 steps forward 1 step back.

We use to talk everyday and do things a lot...that was during school though, school let out.....and i guess ended our relationship.

I need some comments to ease one of the many trouble minds on this board.

-John

 

[topdog3853]

Yo Legend

First of all never let a women disrespect you!! But more importantly, do not show that you are pissed off. You have to tell her that you wont stand for it, but if you get pissed it will only give her more power. Second of all she fooled around with another guy huh? Well if you two were bf/gf then kick her a$$ to the curb. But if it is just causal dating or seeing each other and it is not exclusive then what right do you have to be pissed about it? Did she tell you about hooking up with the other guy? If she told you outright then she's a b!tch. During casual dating she has no right to know who else your seeing and vice versa. The problem is if you kept asking her about her personal life, and what else she's doing, then your showing an AFC tendancy. Its not exclusive so get over it. Don't call her! Pull back a little. If she's still interested she'll call. When she does and tries to set up a get together, don't jump all over the opportunity. Tell her you can't that night, because you have plans but you can don't it two nights later because thats your only free night. Make her think that you have other options, even if you don't. But to become a DJ you should be setting up other dates and hooking up with other girls man. Sounds to me like she's got you hooked by the balls man.
In the end if she doesn't call and it is over, whatever dude move on. It will prove that it wasnt' worth your time. Your a young guy get out there and start meeting as many chicks as possible!!

 

[HappyHobo]

Can I get an AMEN?

AMEN Topdog!! AMEN

I agree...

But Legend, why must you blame people for what happens to YOU.. so MANY afc's do this!!!!!!!!!... any it's because they are never in control of themselves... whatever happens to them they just blame others for it.. take charge of your life.. dont let other people take charge of it..

Stop wishing pain and suffering on other... WTF is wrong with people on this board....

 

[drZaius09]

How did she disrespect you? Remember you can only be disrespected by someone you give respect to.

She fooled around with a guy while me and her was seeing other.

Oh Lord, that's terrible!

She's still giving you some action, right? So what's the problem?
If she just wants to hang around your house and fool around then methinks you have little to be complaining about. Save the drinks and golf and mexican food for your friends or some girl you like better. Use her for what she's worth and pay her no other mind.

 

[Legend]

I'm going to sit back and see if she contacts me....if not i'm moving on.

 

[Bungo Pony]

Originally posted by Legend
She was the one that ruined the date, not me. She was in a very bad mood and said a lot of mean things to me. She did'nt want to do anything, so we sat in my house and just made out. I wanted to go golfing and eat mexican food. The lil ***** ruined my night!

Ah, I can relate. I dated one girl who did something similar. I wanted to go out and do something, she just wanted to stay at her place and make out. We broke up that night.

If she's being disrespectful, she's not worthy of your time. If I were you and she called, I would tell her that it's not going to work out. I'd rather have a fun girl than a boring girl. There's always time for making out after a date.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

I wouldn't call.... she couldn't show some appriciation for your time, her loss. I wouldn't sit around and wait for her call bro. Find someone who will appriciate your time. She can take a number and wait now. You got no time for such inconsiderations.

 

[Legend]

I'm washing my hands of this one. I called and no answer...i should'nt have called, but that was the closure i needed. Ah lost another one. Let me go re-string my fishing pole.

One year.....down the drain.

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

Originally posted by Legend
One year.....down the drain.

Well that all depends...

Have you learned anything from the last year? Are you in a better place now than you were in December 2002, before you started making posts on this board?

Do you have a better understanding of what you're doing wrong?

If so, then it's not a waste.

I was an afc with the same girl for 6 years, and I don't think I wasted six years. Sure, I could have spent from 16-22 out meeting tons of chicks, but a lot of good has come from the relationship. Stuff I learned before I even started here.

Find the good, and don't dwell on memories. Just go out, and "hook another fish," so to speak.


-- Zero-

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by Legend
I'm washing my hands of this one. I called and no answer...i should'nt have called, but that was the closure i needed. Ah lost another one. Let me go re-string my fishing pole.

One year.....down the drain.

Dude, she dogged ya.... you strive for more respect than that don't you? I would have forgotten her name by day two. Now, if you are going fishing, that's what I'm talking about bro... never say die my man. One year ain't sh*t nowadays anyways.